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    Default What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Hi guys!


    My wife is going for breast implants on the 8th. She is very exited, and I am happy she's finally getting the boobs she's always wanted (nice for me too though ), but is there any advice you ladies can give me as to helping her recover faster and maybe some tips or hints to aid her in any way?

    In other words, what would YOU have liked your SO to do for you during your recovery. I work full time so my mother in law will be here to help during, so if there is any advice, I could share that with her too.

    Thanks in advance!

    Robin

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    1. Take time off work. As much as you can. For me, I needed help doing things for about a week.

    2. Keep in mind that it won't just be her boobs that hurt-- her entire body will hurt and she will be really tired. Keep her comfortable in bed, inclined pillows are great.

    3. Ice packs, heating pads. Stay on top of her medications for her and wake her up to take them. If she misses a dose, she'll be hurting.

    4. Pick up all her favorite movies, magazines, TV shows. She might be bored.

    5. Keep in mind that surgery causes a lot of emotions. She might go from loving them one day to hating them and crying her eyes out the next day. Don't criticize her, just let her get it out.

    6. Favorite foods and drinks are a must. If she wants pizza, order it for her. And the first couple days, its a nice gesture to make her plate for her and bring it to her.

    7. Bathing is a bitch the first couple weeks. Help her any way you can. A detachable shower head, if you don't already have one, will be really good to get.

    8. For me, the biggest thing my SO did after I had my surgery was takeover my responsibilities at home. It would have made me so anxious and miserable if the house was a mess while I was trying to recover. Keep the house clean, do the dishes, laundry, and take care of whatever kids you have (this one is important! my son jumped on my chest while i was sleeping a few days post-op and it hurt like a BITCH!)

    I'm sure others will have more suggestions. Its sweet that you're even asking, and that shows a lot, IMO.

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Don't expect her to have sex with you, or to give you a BJ or hand-job or whatever. Even if you expect her to just lie there - it's easier said than done. Take care of yourself for a bit (men don't seem to understand this, unless they've had major surgery themselves - it FUCKING HURTS guys). Just because she doesn't feel any pain due to the meds doesn't mean that damage can't be done.

    The surgery incisions, and I'm not just referring to the surface incisions - but the inner pockets that have been created to accommodate the implant, need time and proper care to heal + she'll be sore and stiff all over. Any "vigorous activity", unnecessary physical straining (except that which is prescribed by the doc) can cause permanent scarring or other unpleasant issues that can be expensive and painful to fix. She needs this time to rest up and heal.

    I agree with everything Arianna said. Read the doctor's post-op instructions and follow it to a T. Keep the athletic bra and bandages on as long as prescribed by the doc - she should avoid being tempted to prematurely take these off, especially as she starts to feel better and less sore. Those boobs will need all the support they can get until all the tissues heal properly.

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    I would also say after the first few days to start providing her healthy but delicious snacks-- fresh fruit, and the like so she at least has some options instead of automatically reaching for the junky comfort food.

    And, since after a week or two of books and tv she's going to be getting stir crazy, maybe some board games to have some fun, yet unusual (in this day and age) time together that can still be intimate without being physical.

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Thanks a lot! I think you guys have just done her a great favour!

    A few of the things you all mentioned I really wouldn't have even thought of! I didn' actually realize how hectic it would be.

    Appreciate the great advice, and I promise not to bother her for nookie the first night ! Just kidding!

    Robin

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Thanks a lot! I think you guys have just done her a great favour!

    A few of the things you all mentioned I really wouldn't have even thought of! I didn' actually realize how hectic it would be.

    Appreciate the great advice, and I promise not to bother her for nookie the first night ! Just kidding!

    Robin

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Buy her some mango juice and stool softener. It's gross and no one likes to talk about it, but painkillers cause constipation, which will only compound her discomfort.

    She might be a little bitchy due to pain. If she gets short tempered with you just brush it off, she'll probably apologize for it later.

    If she sees her boobs and freaks out - remind her it will take 8 weeks to get a good idea of how they're going to look, and almost a year to fully heal. Remind her that she's beautiful anyway.

    Keep in mind she won't be able to use her arms much at all for the first few days. If her pills are in hard to open bottles, transfer some into Ziploc bags and write the name of the medication and proper dosage on the bag (like Loratab. 1 or 2 every 6 hours for pain).

    Keep her company, get ice-packs for her swelling, and enjoy the down time together. Rent some movies and order in some food. I'm sure your Mother-in-Law will help out with the day-to-day chores and things, but try and keep on top of that as best you can.

    A really cute idea might be to get her a little gift while healing? Maybe some "After-Boobies" pajamas in a nice soft, comfy material? Button down in the front so it's easy to take on and off, and a little bit of a loser fit (so not sexy, but something like this: http://www.victoriassecret.com/ss/Sa...ame=vsdWrapper)

    I think it's sweet that you're looking for ways to help her feel better!



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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Gosh, u guys are great! I would never have though of the "softener"! Bags good idea too...

    And she's already got some, "not tonight, honey.", pj's. So that's taken care of.

    Thanks hey!

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    Buy her some mango juice and stool softener. It's gross and no one likes to talk about it, but painkillers cause constipation, which will only compound her discomfort.
    Good one 4everrsolutions! Totally forgot about that ...

    @Robb24 - You're welcome Hope she heals up well - she's a lucky lady to have such a thoughtful guy in her life.

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    Default Re: What support can I give my SO after surgery?

    Well I'm a lucky guy to have her! Thanks again for the advice!

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