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Last edited by Money_Worshipper; 08-01-2011 at 06:41 PM.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning how to dance in the rain."
"Everyone wants happiness. Nobody wants pain. But you can't have a rainbow without a little rain.





People have all sorts of fetishes. Not sure why you seem to find this so appalling? Regardless, different sexual desires are what make the world go round. Life would get pretty boring if you could only ever eat vanilla ice cream.
Sorry I missed church. I was too busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.
"If you're good at something, never do it for free." The Dark Knight
"you conjunctively engender an intoxicating combination of wicked, wholesome & insanely intelligent" - a friend describing me
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What about vanilla with swirls? Seriously though I don't understand this but hey whatever floats one's boat. I know a few people who can separate sex from emotions and see nothing wrong with this.





I'm guessing it has to do with domination and humiliation - either (1) dominant husband pimps and humiliates his submissive "slut" wife or (2) dominant "hot" wife cuckolds and humiliates her submissive husband by bringing a "real" man to fuck her while her pathetic husband watches.
Or maybe it has to do with porn addiction. Porn addicts become used to the voyeurism of watching other people fucking and, hence, the voyeur/porn addict prefers to watch his wife getting banged by someone else, because the voyeurism (and masturbation) is more exciting/thrilling than actually engaging in sex.
Or maybe the husband is just too damn lazy and wants another dude to do all the work.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde
I have been asked to fuck a guys wife for cash when I was stripping...freak!










Sorry I missed church. I was too busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.
"If you're good at something, never do it for free." The Dark Knight
"you conjunctively engender an intoxicating combination of wicked, wholesome & insanely intelligent" - a friend describing me
Blessed Be
Jack got it right in the first paragraph though...it can be a bit of both, but I would think there's gotta be an element of one of those two, you don't just have a completely equal relationship then wake up and decide to do that unilaterally for the same reasons do you? Would like to hear from people who Actually know though, I have always been the guest star. The one time I let a girl fuck my boyfriend she took it too far and started calling himover. But then MFF is worlds apart from MF with M watching.
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Just remembered this guy I hooked up with "shared" me with his friend a couple times. I was horny, they were game, they/we did it just to enrich each others lives ha ha. Like: I got a live one, idk, never planned on even dating the first guy though so that too is different than remaining in a relationship.





Personally I think jack got it totally wrong. It's that the man has enough self confidence to share and enjoys watching his wife receive pleasure. I fantasize all the time about my husband fucking girls and seen it many times. It's just sexy seeing someone else enjoy your partner when you know there's not a soul in the world who can work them like you can. It's called confidence and most the world doesn't have it.
Well i dissagree w/ the whole "it's either submissive or domination in the couple" bc for me and my husband...It's neither. We are swingers and always make sure the other one is completely comfortable at all times. I was always kind of leary of the whole screwing another person or my husband screwing someone else as well...BUT believe it or not it made us closer bc we realized how much we wanted each other watching each other w/ the other person. No it's not an all the time event..in fact we have only done that once and are now looking for another couple that we are comfortable enough w/ to do it again. Sex is sex...love is love...and me and my husband can seperate them.
IN TOTAL AGREEMENT W/ U JESSIE!! u said it very well..i was trying to put it into words myself and u did it perfect. lol
I didn't...I was with someone at the time. This guy tracked me to my gym & it started out in the fitness realm & it quickly turned to me flying to Miami to meet his wife. I told my girl at the time & she just laughed & said you will get down there & there will be NO wife...lol![]()




I'm not sure. I LOVE watching my boyfriend jerk off so I'm gonna go with the voyeurism thing. I've never seen him fuck someone else but it could be interesting. I don't think he would ever do it though










I'm not wrong, but my list is not exclusive. There are other reasons why a man might enjoy watching his wife get banged.
To my list of:
(1) humiliation of submissive "slut" wife by dominant husband,
(2) humiliation of "inadequate" submissive husband by "hot" dominant wife, and
(3) voyeurism.
Add the following:
(4) swinging couples enjoy the thrill of inviting other couples to share in their sexual activity,
(5) threesome couples alternate bringing male and female lovers into their beds,
(6) husband and wife give each other permission and facilitate sex with other lovers (you see this in the HBO series Giggolos - husband hires a male escort for his wife, and she will hire a female escort for him),
(7) straight vicarious pleasure - husband is straight and gets vicarious sexual thrill from watching his wife receive sexual pleasure from another sex partner, and
(8 ) homosexual vicarious pleasure - husband is a latent homosexual or bisexual and enjoys the company of another man in sexual activity and gets vicarious sexual thrill from watching his wife take another man's cock.
How do I know I'm right about humiliation? I'm not into cuckolding, but I do surf domination and humiliation fetish sites and when I surf for these porn sites, cuckolding sites inevitably pop up emphasizing male submission and humiliation.
From - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_humiliation:
There are many scenarios which may be considered as giving rise to sexual humiliation...
Verbal aspects might include...
Cuckoldry, taking on a third party lover to humiliate the bottom as an expression of the relationship between the top and the bottom. In this scenario, the bottom typically is allowed only to witness, and not invited or permitted to participate.
Last edited by jack0177057; 08-02-2011 at 08:50 AM.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





I allow my husband to have sex with other girls I approve occasionally. It's pretty fun. For me, it's a pride and greed thing.
For example, imagine you have the most delicious cupcake in the world. You let your friend have a tiny taste, and when they ask for more, you can be like "Its delcious, huh? Sorry- it's MINE. You can't have anymore."
My husband is amazing in bed. I love seeing other girls being all "OMG wow!" and just being like "I know right? He's mine though. That's all you get." Like buying a Porsche and letting your friend driveit around the block... But that's it.
It's pretty amazing. I usually just sit there and watch quietly, clothed or unclothed, whatever the chick at the time is most comfortable with. He usually looks at me or into my eyes while he's doing it anyway. The objectification aspect is pretty cool.





^ Do you get any voyeuristic arousal/pleasure watching him with other women?
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





Not really, I don't masturbate or anything while I watch. It's more about:
a) Being permissive. I love to spoil him. What better way to spoil a guy than with freedom to have variety and freedom from the stress of potential jealousy?
B) Like I said, control and showing off. I like seeing how obviously he prefers me. He looks at me most of the time, and I know this other girl is getting a sample, but ultimately? Oh sorry you're done? Go home, he's mine, we have no use for you anymore.
C) it's the bottom of the trust barrel. I can watch him have sex with another girl and feel POSITIVE he loves ME. Who cares if he looks at a chick or bangs one? That's not love, and I know that. If anything it's made us super close.
Granted there are parameters, but ultimately it's proved to be such an asset to our marriage... And fun too!





Jack you are wrong and I'll tell you exactly why. You're wrong because your view can only take into account your narrowminded view of sex. Since you've quite obviously never experienced this type of relationship you can do nothing but speculate based on your tiny bit of experience. It has NOTHING to do with being too lazy, being a voyeur, being addicted to porn, or being humiliated or dominated. This is a puritanical view if ever I heard one.
Sorry I missed church. I was too busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.
"If you're good at something, never do it for free." The Dark Knight
"you conjunctively engender an intoxicating combination of wicked, wholesome & insanely intelligent" - a friend describing me
Blessed Be
Wow, this is exactly my angle for my open relationship. I really enjoy "sharing" too.![]()
...and Jack isn't wrong. He just didn't cover every other facet of the motivation. Yes there are couples that swing and enjoy a little variety every once in awhile like so many in this thread, but there are also couples who get off on exactly what he's speaking of (objectification, degradation, etc). Ever hear of "Mandingo Parties"?





More power to you who can do this. I can't. I can see the sexiness in it though, like live porn. I don't like sharing, i'm more territorial than a junkyard watch dog. I do LOVE watching the guy I am with masterbating. So hot. I need my visuals too.










Your are right there... theres tons of reasons but I would say the ones you listed first are the less common ones and the ones you've listed second are the more common ones in my experience (and Ive done it with many a husband! hehe). I know one husband who actually wanted his wife to go on a date and have sex and he wouldn't be there at all... it was the fantasy that he could imagine anything could happen that turned him on... he was limited in this case only by his imagination. I would say his motives are closest to #6 in your suggestions. People swing for all different reasons and Ive actually never ever in 6 years in the scene met a dom/sub couple who was interested in humiliation... not saying it doesn't exist just saying it doesn't seem that common. I think its hard for people who are subs to disclose this to their partner a lot of the time and hence why you don't see it in couples that often... that being said I have met a dominatrix but that was her career...she didn't use it on her partner. Most of her clients are married but do not share their needs with their partners out of fear of rejection.





Well, in that case, I love having a "puritanical" narrowminded view of sex, because it allows me the privilege of being "bad", "dirty", "naughty" and "kinky".
If by being "broadminded," all sexual acts become acceptable, common, ordinary, normal and "clean"... and as mundane as washing your teeth... that's just the worst thing that can happen to sex, IMHO!
I prefer to keep the "naughty" in sex.![]()
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





^ I wouldn't say that... lol... my sex is still very raunchy and naughty even when its just with my hubby on a monday night.
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