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    Default Greetings from KS and a question

    Any one here from KS? More eastern than western, I get out to the TopekaClubs once or twice a year (so not nearly a regular).

    And a question:

    I've had times when a dancer has approached me for a lapdance and I've politely said no, then she sits down with me. At that point no other dancer will approach since I've been 'marked'.

    Usually if a dancer I like sits with me, I'll chit chat, offer to buy her a drink and then inquire about the pricing of the dances (even if I damn well know what it is). The dancers I don't like I'll ignore and won't buy drinks for and won't ask about lap dance pricing

    So, how can I tell the dancer to GTFO without saying that in so many words and avoid looking like a cheapskate?

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    I usually go into my local SC to see a specific dancer so I just tell her no thanks, I'm waiting for my regular dancer. Most are usually OK with that and some will even say they will go and tell her I'm here.

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    Try sitting at the bar.

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    Try just saying outright that you're waiting for so-and-so and you already promised her your lapdance money. I can't believe there are strippers stupid enough to sit and chat with a customer that has already blatantly said "no thank you" to a lapdance At that point, you may have to just be as blunt as possible and say, "Sorry, I don't want to waste your time, so you should know I have no intention of buying a dance tonight." You don't necessarily have to say "from you." If she sees you getting a dance from someone later, she may get mad but it's none of her business, and if you weren't planning on getting in her good graces, it shouldn't matter to you anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisDay View Post

    I've had times when a dancer has approached me for a lapdance and I've politely said no, then she sits down with me. At that point no other dancer will approach since I've been 'marked'.
    If a gal sits down uninvited I tell her that I am not looking for any company right now. Sometimes they thank me for not wasting their time and sometimes they get a bit snippy as they don't like being "dismissed" before they have a chance to take another crack at getting my money. I am polite about it but, as you said, when they do this it makes you untouchable to other dancers (and don't think for a second that they don't know this). Just ask them nicely to leave you alone.
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    Last night I had one get a bit bitchy about it. I suspect she felt I was like the bunch of the guys who were not paying for dances. Then the one I was waiting for showed up and asked the guy to my right if he wanted a dance... Ah well, I ended up giving her tag team friend all my money.

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    One time one of my faves asked if she could sit with me for a while and rest her feet. She said nobody would bother her for a dance if she was sitting with a customer. This was fine with me, as I enjoyed her company almost as much as her dancing, and I did not feel guilty as I had spent quite a bit on her that evening anyway.

    One time an overweight stripper orange spray on tan sat with me and would not leave. I couldn't get a dance with any of the other dancers, so I gave up and left.

    Another time, I had spent all my money and was sitting and finishing my drink before leaving. A dancer came and asked if she could sit with me. I replied, "You're welcome to sit with me as long as you want, but I already spent all my money on __________." She smiled and thanked me for being honest with her.

    And that's all I have to say about that.

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    Default Re: Greetings from KS and a question

    Can't you stand up and approach the stripper you find interesting? If that doesn't work for your, give the uninteresting stripper a non-financial reason. Something like "Honestly, I'm looking for an older brunette with big fake tits."

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    Be a dick.

    Works every time.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    Be a dick.

    Works every time.
    Yeah, I'm sure it does...but I realize its a job so I try to be firm but nice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    Be a dick.

    Works every time.
    This is pretty much the only solution sometimes.

    Usually if a girl sits down who I'm simply not interested in, I'll be polite but dismissive, and will essentially act like she's not even there until she gets the message and leaves.

    Sometimes I'll get a real winner who won't take a hint, so at that point I'll excuse myself to use the men's room or something and when I come back out I'll take a seat at the bar or at the stage, leaving the girl sitting at my old table until she finally gives up and works someone else. One girl got pretty pissed when I did this to her, because 10 minutes later I was sitting at a table with a (much younger, hotter) dancer chatting it up and eventually buying dances.

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    Cross your legs and/or scoot your chair very close to the table until one that you like walks by.

    Also, grow a pair and tell the girl no thanks and that you don't want company. Cross your legs quickly if you see one going for the lap.

    Just as one is trying to sit say you have to use the restroom and get up and actually go to the restroom. One of my regs does this and I find it hilarious, but effective:-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post

    Also, grow a pair and tell the girl no thanks and that you don't want company. Cross your legs quickly if you see one going for the lap.
    I've politely said no I guess you missed that in my initial post.

    It almost ironic, that dancers wanted to be treated like real people, but when a customer says they've said no politely we're told to be dicks. Can't really have it both ways, since I'm sure if I said "no, I don't want a dance from you', she would post about "if you don't like girls, then whatcha doing here?".


    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    Just as one is trying to sit say you have to use the restroom and get up and actually go to the restroom. One of my regs does this and I find it hilarious, but effective:-)
    Actually, that's not a bad idea. Thank you
    Last edited by ChrisDay; 09-01-2011 at 10:33 PM. Reason: bad formatting

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    Default Re: Greetings from KS and a question

    I'm from Kansas but recently moved, what club did you go too?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisDay View Post
    It almost ironic, that dancers wanted to be treated like real people, but when a customer says they've said no politely we're told to be dicks. Can't really have it both ways, since I'm sure if I said "no, I don't want a dance from you', she would post about "if you don't like girls, then whatcha doing here?".
    You're assuming that all dancers have the same commitment to their profession, and intelligence and business sense, as those that post here at SW. The reality is that anyone who seeks out a site like this and who is in the industry is a girl who is looking to be the best that she can be at her profession. The girls that you're talking about --- the clueless ones who sit with you once it's clear you don't want a dance --- are the kinds of girls who would never dream of joining a site like this one, and who probably make very little money and are completely clueless as to why.

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    blame this shit on the dancers in hustle hut who are thinking up ways of how to not take no for an answer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    blame this shit on the dancers in hustle hut who are thinking up ways of how to not take no for an answer.
    LMAO. Seriously? A girl who is plotting to "not take no for an answer" is basically ruining the club for everyone. The guy she refuses to take no for an answer from is almost certainly planning on spending money on another girl at the club. And there's probably another guy at the club who wants to spend money on the girl who's begging for a dance from the guy that's refusing her. Essentially these girls who refuse to take no for an answer are screwing up everyone's game. The club is suffering, and so are all the girls, not to mention we customers.

    Think about it this way: the girl who "won't take no for an answer" is like the gambler in Vegas who goes to the blackjack table but is clueless about the rules of blackjack. Not only does that sorry gambler lose their money, but they screw up all the other players' hands as well.

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    I dunno... It is so easy to see which guys are interested in me. I sit with them. Or better yet one tells me to come sit with him. I'd never sit or stay unwelcomed. That is a waste of time

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    If a stripper you're not interested in getting dances from sits with you despite you letting her know politely that you're not interested, then by all means be a dick. Also, be a man and approach the dancers you like, or better yet, get your ass off your chair and tip us during our stage show, and let us know you're interested - we appreciate that. You should especially approach/tip the dancer you like if she's very busy doing lap/VIP constantly - she may not have the time to approach you sitting there all quiet in your dark little corner.

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