There's been MANY discussions on this site bout baby moma drama and all the headache that can occur if a childless woman (ESP one who wants kids of her own) dates or marrys a guy with prior kids. Kellydancer has been extremely adimint on this issue. I agree, bein I was adamint too bout not dating dads before having kids of my own, and even now I dont think it's fair to a childless guy to have to care for my kids who aren't theres.
I also wrote more then a few times bout a former friend of mine who was a doormat in general and let people (including sc customers & staff) walk all over her, disrespect her, and rip her off. The epitome of her bein a doormat occurred a few yrs ago when her long time bf, who she'd always wished to marry and make babies with, got another girl pregnant during there brief breakup, and she still crawled back to him, not even a few yrs down the road but WHILE he was still "pregnant"! That soon! I was shocked he even proposed to her a yr later, but Needless to say the relationship ended in disaster, ended when he dumped her and told her to move out of his place and back home to her parents.
Well today I was watching Steve wilkos show and they had a clip that seemed to be the story of my former friend, but with reverse genders. U can watch it here:
This clip basically exemplifys all the points Kelly and others made about what they're tryin to avoid by refusing to date dads, and it also exemplifys what my ex friend went thru and even some stuff that I don't know if she went thru or not, but is probable. Like the way that guy (guest on Steve wilkos) wanted a baby of his own, but his now-wife didn't want a kid becuz she felt they had enough work with her current kid...thus making it MORE difficult for him to get the baby he wanted from a mom, then perhaps from a childless woman with family goals. So he's supporting a kid that isn't is, with no realistic chanse of ever getting a kid of his own anytime soon. Not only that, but the way the girl went about not having a baby with her now-husband, was underhanded and scumbaggish!...she took birth control BEHIND HIS BACK, then LIED bout it to him and to the lie detector! What a time waster!!
No wonder theyre having so many rifts and fights in there marriage.
Also, after all this guy did by taking her back after the pregnancy and supporting someone else's baby at the expense of getting the baby of his own he'd always wanted, he finds out she cheated on him. As Steve wilkos said, "no surprise there." granted he cheated on her too, but I wonder if sinse he suspected she was cheating on him, mebbe it was revenge cheating of some sort (revenge cheating...another issue discussed very frequently on this site lately). The girl wouldn't even tell her husband who the baby's father was, after all he was doin to support both of them...makes me suspect it's becuz she's still fuckin her baby's daddy.
And now if he decides to divorce her, he'll def be stuck payin child support for this kid and mebbe even alimony, esp sinse he was dumb enough to sign a birth cert for a kid he knew wasn't his, after his wife was dishonest to him (in that she pretended it was his kid at first, then when she admitted it wasnt, refused to reveal who the daddy was). But IMHO I don't see him divorcing her becuz the fact that he's put up with so much shit already, shows hes a doormat. For most it's once a doormat, always a doormat.
Moral of the story? Dating/marrying parents when ur childless urself is not worth it!...esp if u want kids of ur own soon...and even moreso esp if the parent is some1 who didn't become a parent until after u started dating them (e.g., pregnancy resultin during a brief breakup stint like this example, or worse, pregnancy resultin from cheating).
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) there's other problems the protagonist faces too, such as disrespect from her job, scorn & criticism from the town for giving mason the bf a chance, mason the bf mooching off her, etc.

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