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    Hey SW!!

    *Sigh* So I've been working at this bikini bar for 2 weeks or so, but Ive only been about 3 shifts each week. Ready for my horror story::

    Last night, there were 4 customers from 10-2 - A group of two couple that came together. I was the ONLY bikini dancer--and I made NO money.
    There were about seven waitresses who kept jumpin on stage in their converse shoes and shorts-playing on stage. No rythem, no sexy, no nothing. This is not the first night it has happened-- one night two girls were actually making out on stage. Isnt that illegal?? o.O Anyway... the shift before that was thhe same. A group of 5 regulars hung out the whole night and got drunk...no dancers, just myself and ONE other girl--and waitresses on stage acting like Girls Gone Wild. >.> Thanks to the drunk group--I left with 50. The other dancer 30. No we didnt pay tipout. Another time I was there, and a customer was actually dancing with her BF on the side steps leading the the stage. WTF? Umm.. you're not a stripper---WHY are you so damn close to MAIN STAGE!

    From reading the threads--I figured I needed to not go back. So today I went and tried to get hired at a few nicer clubs, I'm still a newb--but SW had given me enough ammo to go in make it through a night. IF I COULD GET HIRED!
    I got turned away from The Mens Club[I dont know why--I'm 5'5 &&115lbs--too fat?? Are they racist o.O], St. James [I hear it's hard to get in here...], Micheals[ there were mostly hispanic], and now my self esteem is suffering, like damn--maybe I was at the Bikini Bar because thats the only place that will hire me--I think I'm attractive, but maybe I dont have "the look" for this??? (Should I post a pic???)

    I'm at a loss--I have no money to drive around and not get hired, and I only have one more place in mind-their grand opening is tonight...so I dont know ANYTHING about the place. Any suggestions??

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    Default Re: Ego Deflated-- Am I Not Cute Enough or What??

    Your club sounds awful. I'd be ready to punch the waitresses in the face for fucking with the strippers' money like that. And your traffic doesn't sound very good to begin with... honestly, I'm surprised you made 50 bucks off only 5 guys for the entire night. No, it's not good money, but considering how many customers you had That's pretty impressive. But it's still not good enough, especially with that atmosphere.

    I would not consider 5'5'' 115lbs fat. Maybe these other clubs aren't hiring right now. Maybe they have a very specific look they're going for. Go check out that new place and see how it goes. If you still don't get hired there, honestly, I would start looking into something different. Doesn't sound like a good area to get hired or work. You might be better off waitressing at the bar instead or try camming?

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    Once the club doesn't put a stop to all those activities from non-dancers, it will continue. That's a real shame because it affects your money even though I assume they let it happen to keep a party atmosphere going in the bar, or they just don't care.

    If this is what you have to contend with, you might as well go to the other clubs and see if you get hired. Wondering is only slamming the door in your own face. At least get out there and give it a shot. It's not the easiest thing because people are looking you over and deciding if you are worthy to work in their club. You very well might be, but if you don't have the look, maybe have a few too many pounds, maybe there are too many dancers, they are at their black girl quota, etc you could be turned away. Or you could be hired.

    Get your confidence up before you go in. Take some time and really believe it, and believe in yourself. Get made up, and put on a sexy outfit. I don't know how women dress in your area, but you are going to a strip club- even if Saturday night sexy is too much, casual sexy is the next best thing.

    Hopefully someone else can chime in on why you weren't hired at The Men's Club. If that is the premier SC in the area, they will always be very picky as to who gets hired. That doesn't mean you can't go back in the future and try again. Not everyone gets hired the first time.
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    Default Re: Ego Deflated-- Am I Not Cute Enough or What??

    I hate to say it but some clubs are racist. A lot of clubs have "race quotas" meaning they have to keep the numbers of "ethnic dancers" to a minimum. You may have just walked in at the worst time. Timing is everything in this business, even when you're just applying.

    From your avatar you look fine to me. You could just be a victim of the cosmos. It's the middle of summer, you're in Texas, things are slower than molasses in January. If it's any consolation, nearly all of us have gotten rejected at one point. Keep your head up, keep your balls intact and keep trying.

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    Race quotas are definitely an ugly truth of this industry. Ethnic girls often have a higher standard to live up to to get hired in clubs like that. I'd recommend going back to the clubs in a week or so during a slow shift, like Sunday-Tuesday shortly after opening. There aren't many girls, so they'll be more likely to add another onto their roster.

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    Well, I don't have much to offer in the way of advice, but yeah that place sounded awful, ridiculously run, & plus the time of year as was mentioned. You look great, I hope you can get hired. Good luck


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    Quote Originally Posted by Its.Marley View Post
    Hey SW!!

    *Sigh* So I've been working at this bikini bar for 2 weeks or so, but Ive only been about 3 shifts each week. Ready for my horror story::

    Last night, there were 4 customers from 10-2 - A group of two couple that came together. I was the ONLY bikini dancer--and I made NO money.
    There were about seven waitresses who kept jumpin on stage in their converse shoes and shorts-playing on stage. No rythem, no sexy, no nothing. This is not the first night it has happened-- one night two girls were actually making out on stage. Isnt that illegal?? o.O Anyway... the shift before that was thhe same. A group of 5 regulars hung out the whole night and got drunk...no dancers, just myself and ONE other girl--and waitresses on stage acting like Girls Gone Wild. >.> Thanks to the drunk group--I left with 50. The other dancer 30. No we didnt pay tipout. Another time I was there, and a customer was actually dancing with her BF on the side steps leading the the stage. WTF? Umm.. you're not a stripper---WHY are you so damn close to MAIN STAGE!

    From reading the threads--I figured I needed to not go back. So today I went and tried to get hired at a few nicer clubs, I'm still a newb--but SW had given me enough ammo to go in make it through a night. IF I COULD GET HIRED!
    I got turned away from The Mens Club[I dont know why--I'm 5'5 &&115lbs--too fat?? Are they racist o.O], St. James [I hear it's hard to get in here...], Micheals[ there were mostly hispanic], and now my self esteem is suffering, like damn--maybe I was at the Bikini Bar because thats the only place that will hire me--I think I'm attractive, but maybe I dont have "the look" for this??? (Should I post a pic???)

    I'm at a loss--I have no money to drive around and not get hired, and I only have one more place in mind-their grand opening is tonight...so I dont know ANYTHING about the place. Any suggestions??

    Honey it's definitely not you. You have to realize that you are in the SOUTH...a place that is ass-backwards and behind times. The strip industry is definitely magnified in terms of racism when it come to hiring. I understand your pain; I know I'm not ugly and there is nothing wrong with my body...however it's a bit harder for black entertainers only because most of these strip clubs try to keep black customers out of their clubs. What they haven't realized is that these days, the urban gentlemen is most likely going to spend more money (like a dang fool) in the strip club than most of these white collar gentlemen, and that NOT EVERYBODY WANTS A BLONDE. ALL.THE.TIME.

    You just need to do your research and figure out which clubs will work for you instead of blindly going to just any bar hoping to make money. Texas is very slow during summer seasons. It's also a conservative, republican state where people tend to stick with what they know...there are several black strip clubs but if you are anything like me you probably want a place with some diversity. I like to read Yelp reviews on clubs, call before I audition to tell them I'm interested in working (I even tell them I'm a pretty black dancer...just to get a feel if they'll waste my time), and ask other dancers and clients where I would be a good fit. You have to do your research to find the club for you.

    I'm currently in Denver, CO. and I am loving it! It's very black dancer friendly and I'm making a ton of money. Definitely going to be my summer getaway if I don't decide to just move here.

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    Default Re: Ego Deflated-- Am I Not Cute Enough or What??

    Aww don't be down on yourself, your picture looks great to me, I'm sure you have a really cute face to match your hot body! 5'5" and 115lbs is not fat at all!!! I agree with the other posters, what those girls did was FUCKED UP!!!! They deserve to be punched in the face like Aurora_Sunset suggested! I'm not even a violent person, but your story of them doing that to you really made me angry, it's just not right! They knew what they were doing was wrong, and they did it anyway! GRR!!! I hate bitches like that!!! I'm so sorry you have to deal with that crap!

    Whew, rant over...I know your broke, but if you could hold out and try applying at different clubs in Sept (just around the corner!) maybe you'll have better luck, as it is slow season right now for every business it seems. Whatever happens though, please don't feel there is anything wrong with you...Good Luck

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    PleasureVictim- "Wondering is only slamming the door in your own face." this is some of the best advice. Seriously. too many of us just get discouraged. you got it girl!!

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    Sounds like my old club (the lack of customers). You look great in your avatar (probably better in person ), don't be afraid to try a new club, and I'm not sure if you were intimidated by the atmosphere, but you can also try approaching these jerks with a super friendly, "hey y'all! I'm Marley, who're you?!" I'm not sure if you tried to converse with them, but maybe they knew the waitresses and having had rapport with them from past experiences, they were friendly and wanted to tip? Maybe it's that sort of place. Or it could just be plain racism, as you suggested. Good luck, girly.

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    Don't be discouraged at all. Keep at it, you are not fat at all. As far as advice, you're probably doing this already but go into the clubs looking very classy and have a very glam look. I haven't worked at the Men's Club in Houston but I've worked at the one in Dallas and they definitely like a classy look. If possible try to go into some of these clubs during the day and eventually move to night.

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