Unusual for me to start a thread but... does anyone ever find they get so, so damn lonely doing this job? I love it but....
Any suggestions? Ideas?



Unusual for me to start a thread but... does anyone ever find they get so, so damn lonely doing this job? I love it but....
Any suggestions? Ideas?
Yep. I can't tell anyone about it. My family doesn't know. I told one friend and she stopped speaking to me. My husband knows of course. But I come on here and read, write posts. It helps me feel not so alone. But as far as the "real" world, not many suggestions there. Hopefully you have at least one friend you can talk to about it.
But I do start to feel cooped up. I make sure that I get out at least once a day to run errands, etc. I do very small grocery trips so I end up going out a couple times a week just for food. And I do yoga a few times a week. That helps me feel like a "normal" human being. I can go be a yuppie for a few hours a week, people like me there, and it helps me to do something just for myself and to feel connected to people who are NOT begging to see my tits![]()
Sigh...I've been feeling like this all week. I don't have anyone that I can openly talk to outside of SW, and even here I don't feel free to discuss certain things. What helps me feel better is doing nice things for myself, like taking a few hours from the day to do a full mani/pedi and clay mask. Sometimes I'll go downtown or to the mall to remind myself there is an outside world and usually afterwards I'm happy to be home. Whenever I start to think about the life I can make for myself if I save my earnings, I feel better.;![]()
U are not alone, GlitterGoddess you have us![]()


That sucks Jess. I have been shocked at peoples reactions to my confiding in them though. The one person who I thought would flip her shit actually was really interested and is considering becoming a cam model too. You just need to fish around when you talk to people. "Ha ha ha I know of a way to make a lot of dough, Well you see my friend starting doing web camming and she is making tons of money, I wish I was confident enough to do that..." and gauge their reaction. I have often thought that maybe us girls should have meet ups and get togethers.



I go through phases like that where I feel really isolated since I work and do school online so Im always home, then I feel lonely. I found what helped me get out of it was I bought a bike. I'm by no means a hardcore cyclist but I got a practical cute one and when I start to feel cooped up I go for a little ride and enjoy the nice weather. Theres something about the fresh air and coasting down a hill, seeing different areas that just feels great![]()


Biking really helps me too! I don't want it to ever be winter. I'll go NUTS here camming in bumfuck nowhere.
I do feel lonely, too. I don't have much advice. Some custies make me feel less lonely; since we chat and all, is that sad or what?![]()


OMG...YES... Went through a weird depression period during the winter/spring for awhile. No car and I work at home. It was horrible but I know I can get lonely. 3 hrs feels like 6 and it gets old fast.




see i really dont understand the isolation other than the time i work.....everyone i know ...KNOWS i do this .....what i wont do is tell them what sites or my user names....but all the girls i know love to talk about this job.....few what to put in the hours tho........ I only wish i had a girl doing it with me so i could be shooting the shit with her while working.
I love the internet....its so big most people cant find you
I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"



I think the key is to still maintain a social life in spite of your job. You don't have to tell people you're a cam girl. You can just tell them you work from home, or you can make up a different job altogether. It's really no one's business what you do but you still should be able to have friends. I don't intend on quitting my job as a server/bartender when I do go full-time camming. I want that interaction with my coworkers, my regulars at least 1 day a week. But if I do eventually decide to quit my day job altogether, I still have a couple of really good friends who I can hang out with. I've only told my 2 closest friends who I knew would be cool with it. I'll never tell anyone else. Not because I'm ashamed (because really i'm not). I just don't need the judgement.
But check out social groups in your area. I know when I lost my job back in 2007, I almost went crazy and I found this social site called meetup.com. It's basically a whole bunch of different groups that meetup and do different things based on whatever the common interest of the group is. It's a really good way to meet different people without a ton of commitment.
Yeah, i made a mistake telling that particular friend. But people can be such posers, pretending to be real liberal, etc. The second time i told someone, i started by asking what she thinks of porn, strippers, etc. We talked about it as a moral issue as tho i was interested in an intellectually stimulating convo. I was, but it was a good way to find out she was ok w/it. Still, what ppl say they believe & what they believe in reality sometimes don't mesh. So i can talk to her but she doesn't know anything abt camming & we just don't have the time for long explanations.
Here, at least everyone has a background on the job.



I'm sorry, I don't have any suggestions but I can continue in the reassurance that you're not the only one.
i've been feeling this too, pretty hard.
Socializing is really hard for me, and i'm off in a city an hour away from home (and everyone I know) with not even a car.
I did have a day job, but that was only part time and I've since left there..My mental health issues make it really challenging to function in the "real" world.
Maybe I'll try to at least go on more walks, if you guys think fresh air makes that big a difference. Worth a shot. Any other ideas?
~We Be Hustlin', Bitches Be Hatin'~



In a word yes. Sad but true.





Yes.
I get lonely all the time.
When I do go into public to run errand. With no makeup, hair in ponytail, bulky sweats. Even then I get sexually harrassed. Feels pointless to try to go out and have a social life, when I hear the exact same lines as I do working.
Recently did take a chance. Went out with a total hottie. He is super sweet. Glad I took the risk. Yes, he knows I do porn and cam. Total gentleman. Opens doors, pays for the parking, meals and movies. Incredibly romantic that I am super excited. Never met a man so sweet and considerate before. The fact that he is much much younger than me and OMG HOT.
Not once has he been lewd or crude. Enjoying the time I spend with him at this time.
Good Luck Ladies never accept anyone who doesn't treat you like a princess. Because you do deserve the best.
Smooches,
Sam





Yes..due to my formerly being a caregiver, I got very isolated from that. Now that I'm not in that role, but doing pso & cam..isolated. I keep saying I'm going out, then I get tired. Tonight my allergies are giving me hell. Hopefully tomorrow I may be able to venture out, Sun. night industrial type place I've been wanting to check out.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt
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