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    Ugh. I am mixed but in club lightening i look Asian. Now, I am a great hustler and do well with guys of ALL races, backgrounds, EXCEPT OLD asian men. I now there might not be that many asian girls on this site, but, I was wondering if you guys have noticed that you do the worst w/ older asian men?

    I have noticed older asian men of all backgrounds, economic status, etc, dont treat asian strippers as well, often bordering on downright rude. THis is for Asian-American older males only. It's likethey dont like asian girls cuz they can't realistically get blondes, brunettes in real life so in the club they treat them like gold. They can get asian women OTC, so if they see them in the club, they treat those girls like shit.

    Now, that would be fine...BUT they often use tricks to lure these asian girls to hang out with them (i.e., let's get a dance! But, i dont like this music...wait until the next song...next song...BS) and then go get a dance with a non-asian girl. It's almost as if they are spiting the asian girl.....

    Now, I work in washington state,oregon, and several major California cities and this is EVERYWHERE.

    it suck cuz being half asian, i see older asian men in my family and friends all the time and everytime I see them I have this burning flame of hatred inside of me....I am good at judging men and i know for a fact that if half of these men were in a club they would treat me like shit! (accidentally throwing away my drink, bsing girls, etc)

    it's really messing with my mind...

    I do not EVER notice this with young asian men...only older asian men >40. Younger asian men seem to have grown up in a more open generation and so they dont take their hatred out on asian strippers!

    what do you guys think?

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    I am part Korean and part Native (like an aboriginal or indian).

    I don't really approach men. I let them approach me. I have really big tits and I am sorta tall (5'7). So I have had some older Asian men come to me and end up being good customers. But for the most part the Asian men leave me alone.



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    I agree with the last post. Just avoid them. Since they may be far and few in a club , I would converse with other men and allow them to approach me if they are so inclined to do so.

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    Old asian men hate me too (i'm 1/2 hispanic). I avoid them at all costs. They aren't generally very big spenders anyway, so I don't really care. Lucky for you most white guys love asians, and they have looser wallets

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    I never did well with asian men of any age or background, and I'm white with red hair. I always figured I'm too bold, curvy, busty for them. lol


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    I'm older big boobs brunette. I've had exactly TWO Asian men in my whole career. those two were great but I've found they like blonds mostly. Of course they aren't going to like half or full Asians it's not unusual to them. just leave them alone
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    I'm white and I've never had an asian man spend a dime on me.

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    By older how old are you saying? Cuz the Asian men who are like in their 30s and 40s love me and treat me really good and spend a lot, they can be too perverted though. I look young and am part Asian. I've had a nasty old Asian guy who looked 60's/70's who liked me at first and spent a lot then later on when I didn't call him he got mean. F that. At my club, seems like the ABC types (american born chinese) like petite blondes.

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    Hmmm,haven't noticed this,but could depend on the area.

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    I'm tall, white, slim, with red hair and Asians seem to love me. But, there have been Asian men who really don't like me, and I've had some even ask if there are any Asian dancers, so it certainly can vary.

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    The Asians that have spent money on me were always wayyy too handsy for my tastes.

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    I absolutely hate asian men! They are cheap, nasty, pervy and just a waste of time. Kinda is exactly how dating an asian guy is like. I will never do tha again. I am very asian and so are my mannerisms but I will out right deny an asian any day, especially at the clubs!

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    I am a white girl with dark hair and big boobs (natural)and don't think I've ever had an Asian man spend money on me. The few that I came into contact with were somewhat rude to me.

    Now if by Asians you include Indians, I've had a few spend money on me but all were handsy and rude. I've developed such a dislike for them that I avoid them in my dating life too.

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    I've been lucky with lots of Asian men(no older than 40's, at least I don't think). Most of them love me. I'm a light skin petite dark haired Latina, skinny(small frame) but curvy, with an ass and fake boobs. I haven't had any problems with any of them, except one. They are my bread and butter.
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    Um, I'm half white and half Asian. Some Asian men like me, some don't. Some prefer white girls, some prefer Asians. Some are jerks, some are reasonable. It all depends on the individual. Why do I never see these threads about white guys?

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    ^ I can give you plenty of examples of white guy douchebags. But when there is a specific group that consistently gives you (us) the same problem that's when you start to feel like this. We all see the same kinds of things among these same groups too so it's not being discriminatory. I didn't start dancing with any preconceived notions about anyone. We're basing it on our own and our collective experiences.

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    I have stated that I generally can't stand young white guys because they tend to be the worst to me.

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    I've rarely ever seen any East-Asian guys in the club when I worked (in the southeast US). The first I ever talked to offered me a job and try to take me out for dinner. He was balling, but I was green at the time& couldn't do anything with it. btw - I'm black, short, petite.
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    Asian men are the only ones who love me, lol. I'm tall, really thin, have no boobs and no ass and most non-asian men find my androgyny quite repulsive. Asian men on the other hand embrace and praise me for my boyish features o.O

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    I think the behaviors people see a lot in Asian men crop up when they're actually from Asia and they don't get strip club appropriate behavior. You can choose to not deal with them, but in the process you are overlooking Asian men who are from here and who do understand what to do in a strip club in the US. And ones who aren't from here but who have figured it out. I understand you're trying to improve your night, but when these customers figure out that they're being treated poorly by you and/or others based on race, they will actually have a shitty night because of that.

    If I had a small sample of white customers throughout dancing, similarly to how most dancers have a pretty comparatively small sample of Asian customers, I could average out the number of douchebags vs. nice guys and come up with negative stereotypes of white men in general. I could probably do that now, but the number of white men I've encountered is so overwhelming that I'm pretty much forced to take them on a case-by-case basis, as most of us do.

    I don't think it's beyond the pale to operate on quick racially-based judgments about customers sometimes, such as when it's really busy. We are all trying to make money and figure out who will spend the most money fastest. But inevitably, those judgments bleed over into real life, and that is I suppose what concerns me the most.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeeBaby View Post
    I've rarely ever seen an Asian (oriental) in the club when I worked (in the southeast). The first I ever talked to offered me a job and try to take me out for dinner. He was balling, but I was green at the time& couldn't do anything with it. btw - I'm black, short, petite.
    Just wanted to put a little note out there that some Asian people strongly dislike the word 'oriental' when referring to them. I, myself, am half Asian and know you didn't mean it as an insult-- but just wanted to let ya know. Please don't take it as a flame, as it's not meant to be.. but just something to keep in mind Usually oriental is to refer to objects, such as rugs or furniture, but not people. Again, no disrespect meant so I hope you don't take this as me talking down to you because that's truly not how I mean it--but just thought perhaps you weren't aware of how some people view the term when used towards ethnicity. I've had the same discussion with my current boyfriend and he totally didn't know some people felt that way, but appreciated the insight

    As far as the original topic, I tend to do very well with American born Asian men. I have an exotic look. People are often trying to guess my ethnicity. I notice that Japanese men who were born in Japan will spend good money when their other buddies are as well. When tour groups from Japan come into the club, you get one Japanese man who start throwing 20s on stage, and the rest of the tour group follows suit. Score!

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    I actually LOVE asian customers! specially the ones from vancouver! guys in their 20-30's, but im white, platinum blonde, so of course they feed into the sterotype, but when i dyed my hair brown about 2 years back they hated me, lol, so it is totally a sterotype thing BUT exception....asians FROM japan dont like me, they are rude wont even look at you when you ask for a dance they just wave their hand in ur face....soooo rude, i try to bump their table as i leave to spill their drinks on them!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by HustlaBustla View Post
    Just wanted to put a little note out there that some Asian people strongly dislike the word 'oriental' when referring to them. I, myself, am half Asian and know you didn't mean it as an insult-- but just wanted to let ya know. Please don't take it as a flame, as it's not meant to be.. but just something to keep in mind Usually oriental is to refer to objects, such as rugs or furniture, but not people. Again, no disrespect meant so I hope you don't take this as me talking down to you because that's truly not how I mean it--but just thought perhaps you weren't aware of how some people view the term when used towards ethnicity. I've had the same discussion with my current boyfriend and he totally didn't know some people felt that way, but appreciated the insight
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    ^^^ just to put it in perspective, esp since you're black, it's kind of like someone referring to you as "colored."

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    I do well with guys of all races except Black. My friend is Black and does well with both young and old Asian men. I think some guys are just dicks and some aren't regardless of ethnicity.

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