Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 26

Thread: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

  1. #1
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Thumbs down Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    **********
    Last edited by whirlerz; 09-11-2011 at 09:17 PM.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  2. #2
    Member lindsknits's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Mile High City-ish
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Get a gun, or mace. I serious about that if you are alone a lot. Also keep a log of all of his harassment type behavior so that you can show the police how often he rings your doorbell etc. write down the date and time and his exact behavior. if you have a log like that it is much easier to get a restraining order or file harassment charges if it comes to that. it may sound extreme, but you're better off safe than sorry. I know you don't want to involve property management, but if worse comes to worse have them move you.

    I say this out of experience. I had a neighbor like that, and he ended up attempting to rape me. I would see him outside my bedroom window at night and his footprints would be in the snow all around the apartment like he was trying to get in, and he would sneak on my porch to put his cigs out in my ashtray. Be very careful, do not ever be in close proximity to his open door or be near him alone.

    edit again: my creepy ass neighbor also had a DUI, and had wrecked and brain-damaged himself. That was his excuse for his inappropriate sexual behavior- he retarded himself, he doesn't know any better than to try to rape women.
    Last edited by lindsknits; 08-06-2011 at 03:24 AM. Reason: cautionary tale

  3. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to lindsknits For This Useful Post:


  4. #3
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Mind Blowing Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by lindsknits View Post
    Get a gun, or mace. I serious about that if you are alone a lot. Also keep a log of all of his harassment type behavior so that you can show the police how often he rings your doorbell etc. write down the date and time and his exact behavior. if you have a log like that it is much easier to get a restraining order or file harassment charges if it comes to that. it may sound extreme, but you're better off safe than sorry. I know you don't want to involve property management, but if worse comes to worse have them move you.

    I say this out of experience. I had a neighbor like that, and he ended up attempting to rape me. I would see him outside my bedroom window at night and his footprints would be in the snow all around the apartment like he was trying to get in, and he would sneak on my porch to put his cigs out in my ashtray. Be very careful, do not ever be in close proximity to his open door or be near him alone.

    edit again: my creepy ass neighbor also had a DUI, and had wrecked and brain-damaged himself. That was his excuse for his inappropriate sexual behavior- he retarded himself, he doesn't know any better than to try to rape women.
    O, I am so sorry that happened to you! Thank YOU for posting this!
    You know it's funny, I always have a weird feeling, like he could try to rape me, he always stares at me so weirdly..I also wondered about him, he seems extremely immature, he's 40, but talks/acts like a teen. On the 4th, he had a big outdoor party, left a huge firepit smoldering & garbage everywhere. I am afraid someday he burn the place down, he barbeques a lot. He comes from a kinda upscale 'burb, his dad's a retired professional..I wondered why he dosen't act like he has more sense/intellegence..yipes. Thanks again, you gave me a lot of insight!


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  5. #4
    Member lindsknits's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Mile High City-ish
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    No problem doll. You don't live in CO do you? he sounds JUST like my old neighbor.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to lindsknits For This Useful Post:


  7. #5
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Crossfingers Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by lindsknits View Post
    No problem doll. You don't live in CO do you? he sounds JUST like my old neighbor.
    Aww, you're sweet! Nope, I'm in IL, Chicago burbs.
    However, it's been my longtime wish to move to CO! Seriously, I want to gtf outta here, especially where I live now! There's an abundance of weird, creepy ppl here, much more so than anywhere I've ever lived!

    As to stalkers, my ex stalked me to the point of my calling the police on him..3X's.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  8. #6
    Member lindsknits's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Mile High City-ish
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Aww, you're sweet! Nope, I'm in IL, Chicago burbs.
    However, it's been my longtime wish to move to CO! Seriously, I want to gtf outta here, especially where I live now! There's an abundance of weird, creepy ppl here, much more so than anywhere I've ever lived!

    As to stalkers, my ex stalked me to the point of my calling the police on him..3X's.
    HOMG!! come here!! I have zero friends here bc of an abusive ex who coincidentally stalked me. we are like twins!

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to lindsknits For This Useful Post:


  10. #7
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    6,948
    Thanks
    2,845
    Thanked 5,526 Times in 3,113 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by lindsknits View Post
    Get a gun, or mace.
    You have to know how to use a gun, and be willing to use it, long before you are forced to do so. If she could and would use one, she would probably already have one.

    Wasp and Hornet spray in the face will temporarily incapacitate an attacker, and you will not have problems witch some halfwit jurisdiction that outlaws guns, mace pepper spray, etc.

  11. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to slowpoke For This Useful Post:


  12. #8
    Featured Member vivianbear's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Southern CA
    Posts
    1,507
    Thanks
    555
    Thanked 2,238 Times in 572 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    I'm so sorry you're dealing with this!

    My advice: be extremely mean. Like, overtly so. Even if its very far outside your personality. If he tries to engage you, shout, "NO! I'm busy. I don't have time for you" and just continue on in that fashion. You don't have to be insulting (don't call him names or make jibes) but just don't be nice or at all polite. Give the impression that you're anti-social at best and regularly abrasive. I'm really small/petite and have used meanness as a defense mechanism for years. It works. Grown men don't know how to gauge how hostile you may be and typically assume a woman who is willing to look them in the eye and forcefully tell them off could just as easily be armed and dangerous.

    I have a neighbor who is well-intentioned but a little aggressive about wanting to socialize. He may ring my doorbell at odd hours and ask if I want to have a beer (often with others, which is cool) or do something. I just answer the door and flatly say "No." and he gets the hint and leaves. Like, I know he's well-meaning but I don't want to get it confused: when I want to engage, I'll pursue it. Any other time, I am very forward about refusing offers or conversations.

    Good luck!
    "SS=stripper shit, in the same spectrum as CS=customer shit, which is within the spectrum of SaS=sales shit, which is all contained in the universe of BS=bullshit." -- Jay Zeno (mod)

    "Show me a hot chick and I'll show you someone who's tired of fucking her."






  13. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to vivianbear For This Useful Post:


  14. #9
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Hey thanks, everybody! I do have wasp spray, actually it's foam. I don't think the foam would work (on humans), but the spray, it's a GREAT idea!!
    Really it's not overtly dangerous here (not talking about just him) but there's potential for trouble. I am/try to be very aware!
    example: I am walking down the access road to our mail box hut..this weird beotch resident here, walking the opposite way, comes toward me..keep in mind the road has about 2 1/2 car length width, she goes from her side to mine, just to get in my way, & to make me walk around her!? I mean, really?


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  15. #10
    Veteran Member obscurity's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2006
    Posts
    310
    Thanks
    8
    Thanked 84 Times in 49 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Hey thanks, everybody! I do have wasp spray, actually it's foam. I don't think the foam would work (on humans), but the spray, it's a GREAT idea!!
    Really it's not overtly dangerous here (not talking about just him) but there's potential for trouble. I am/try to be very aware!
    example: I am walking down the access road to our mail box hut..this weird beotch resident here, walking the opposite way, comes toward me..keep in mind the road has about 2 1/2 car length width, she goes from her side to mine, just to get in my way, & to make me walk around her!? I mean, really?
    omg.....this reminds me of the other day....i was driving a rental car...2011 cadillac...and the gas light came on as the guage said i had half a tank....wtf??? so i pull off the highway just to be safe and get some gas. now of course its in jankyville....lolololol. this guy is in the middle of the lot shouting JESUS!!!!!(how come crazy ppl all eventually bring Jesus into it? lol) he kept thwarting ppl...walking way over to block them etc......i figured my computer needing to be reset was the problem with the guage....and that driving to another station would have a way better outcome! lol weirdos......

    i carry/have available all sorts of 'convenient' weapons......my car key snaps open....and its perfect for eye gouging .....thinks cops cant fault YOU for....etc
    June Cleaver stripper

  16. The Following User Says Thank You to obscurity For This Useful Post:


  17. #11
    Member lindsknits's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Mile High City-ish
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by slowpoke View Post
    You have to know how to use a gun, and be willing to use it, long before you are forced to do so. If she could and would use one, she would probably already have one.

    Wasp and Hornet spray in the face will temporarily incapacitate an attacker, and you will not have problems witch some halfwit jurisdiction that outlaws guns, mace pepper spray, etc.

    That is extremely true. Because I have always had access to guns and learned how to shoot when I was in grade school I didn't even consider that she might not know how or be willing to do it. Thank you for your more practical advice.

  18. The Following User Says Thank You to lindsknits For This Useful Post:


  19. #12
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Thumbs down Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Tonight, as I was getting ready to head out to wal mart, I look in my rearview, & see him standing down the access road (he lives 2 houses from me) just staring Creepy, very.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  20. #13
    Featured Member FiendishGyrator's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2010
    Location
    Touring Louisiana
    Posts
    1,915
    Thanks
    532
    Thanked 1,536 Times in 735 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    It sounds like you do need to bring the property management into it, and possibly the police. I would say since he's already had a DUI he might very well be on probation so whatever complaint is made could be kicked to his probation officer.

    Now, I do think, due to this and your other friction with the property management, that you should move asap, but the thing is-- he will just start up freaking out another girl who may not be able to protect herself as well as you.

    So I say leave a paper trail so if some woman after you needs to complain, it's taken more seriously. I certainly hope it's taken seriously in your case, but it also sounds like he just needs some tough love from some direction to knock shit off.

    I had a older male neighbor who was a complete creep who wanted to socialize and I finally had to tell him after two mornings in a row of waking me up to see if I wanted to go to lunch (which I never did--though I did check out his house once though I certainly had my pepper spray on me and stayed aware because I was giving him the benefit of the doubt of if he was being nice anti-social, or if he was going to be one of those turds who was going to increasingly become a problem. Thinking back I feel way stupid I even ever let him chat me up.)

    So definitely use the mean thing, but back this up by dealing with the property management, telling them, and going to the cops and insisting his probation officer deals with him.

  21. The Following User Says Thank You to FiendishGyrator For This Useful Post:


  22. #14
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Thanks hun^ He's now out there setting off fireworks, & has the firepit going, ugh. I was going to call the cops, but he stopped now
    Also: he got in a fight (argument) with another neighbor, police came & put him in handcuffs, but let him go, this was a couple weeks ago


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  23. #15
    Member lindsknits's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Location
    Mile High City-ish
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 11 Times in 9 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    I would be firm with him, but not rude. you don't want to provoke him to further harass you by angering him.

  24. The Following User Says Thank You to lindsknits For This Useful Post:


  25. #16
    Featured Member sananeko's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2009
    Location
    stuck in hell and ready to escape
    Posts
    1,861
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked 540 Times in 332 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    I say tell him again how hes bothering you and if he doesn't get the picture I would call the management or the police. If its a locked apartment building place the management first, if not I would call the cops first.

  26. #17
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    6,948
    Thanks
    2,845
    Thanked 5,526 Times in 3,113 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Another thing to consider, there are small flashlights bright enough if you shine them in an assailants eyes at night, he wont be able to see, long enough for you to get away. I recently discovered there are LOTS of them, besides the expensive surefires we have all heard of.

    http://www.batteryjunction.com/flashlight-tactical.html

  27. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to slowpoke For This Useful Post:


  28. #18
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    246
    Thanks
    310
    Thanked 275 Times in 112 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    I just went through a situation with an awkward neighbor following and staring at me all the time. Hope yours gets the picture and moves on. Def start a paper trail, you never know what else he may have done or will do in the future, where this information would be helpful. Take discreet pics of his behavior on your phone. In situations like where he watched you get in the car, get on your phone and pretend to make a call about it, don't let him think he's scaring you. Can you install an alarm or get a big dog for security? Continue being aware, and keep mace on your keychain maybe keep a bat in the house.

  29. The Following User Says Thank You to GummyBear For This Useful Post:


  30. #19
    God/dess
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Posts
    7,964
    Thanks
    6,155
    Thanked 10,183 Times in 4,602 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Is moving to another place an option? If you're having issues with property management and neighbors, maybe it would be worth finding another place to live.

  31. The Following User Says Thank You to eagle2 For This Useful Post:


  32. #20
    God/dess whirlerz's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2004
    Location
    Midwest
    Posts
    27,134
    Thanks
    55,898
    Thanked 26,028 Times in 13,271 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1
    My Mood
    Aggressive

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by eagle2 View Post
    Is moving to another place an option? If you're having issues with property management and neighbors, maybe it would be worth finding another place to live.
    I'd so LOVE to move; however, no it's not an option. I am/have been working on it, I really hope to get out of here for good, for all practial purposes it's quite a dive here

    Gummy: dogs aren't allowed, I am looking into getting some type of alarm that turns on lights/radio when doors/windows are messed with.


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

  33. #21
    Veteran Member Seatortuga's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    201
    Thanks
    95
    Thanked 493 Times in 204 Posts

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Ugh..so he's at it again, I haven't seen him in awhile, been staying in a lot, I ignore him when I do see him. Today the neighbors had a little backyard party, they asked me to join when I walked by. I stayed there for a bit, then walked to the corner, on my way back I saw him, he's running (training for a marathon). I sped up walking, & so did he, as I turned a corner, I ran (my place was nearby). I mean I guess he was running, but I had a feeling he was trying to catch up to me. Had my cell w/me as always,,but it was disturbing. I called my friend, she told me I should call the cops, but really what am I gonna say?

    Have you discussed these things with other neighbors? What are there thoughts? Maybe you guys could band together and try to do something with this guy.
    Also, it may ease your mind if you ask someone you trust at your neighbor's party to walk you home.

  34. #22
    Banned
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Aboard The Spaceship
    Posts
    4,787
    Thanks
    3,183
    Thanked 10,142 Times in 3,290 Posts
    My Mood
    Breezy

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    So my neighbor keeps 'stopping by'. He's way weird, & doesn't drive cause he has a Dui which he's always blabbing about. I've been just walking away when I see him outside, & not answering my door..the obvious thing would be to have a guy or friend over. I tried talking to him, but he just dosen't listen/get it/care. I don't want to involve the property mgt either, I have issues w/them right now. I'm not seeing anyone right now, am kinda isloated, my friends are long distance ones, and I work at home a lot. What can I do other than above mentioned, or I keep my cell/cordless phone w/me. Prob. not much, but anyway thanks.

    Umm honestly? Move. ASAP. You're going to be paranoid until you move. When I still lived with my parents (I'm young, so this was fairly recent), my next door neighbor's new husband would always hit on me when she wasn't around. Not in the traditional sense, but in the creepy I-know-you-are-a-stalker sense. Sometimes I would see him standing outside my house just kinda looking. He did that A LOT! Who does that?? Considering my room was at the front of the house, and I had a large window, that was really weird. I randomly moved out one night.

    Rule #1: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS! Always be aware of your surroundings.
    Rule #2: Pepper spray and taser always
    Rule #3: Keep all windows & doors locked
    Rule #4: Have a notebook somewhere (maybe keep it in some drawer in your kitchen or dining room or something) where you write about strange people / occurrences. This will be EXTREMELY helpful should you start to notice a weird pattern or need to prove something in court, restraining order, etc.
    Rule #5: File a police report if something bad does happen. If if its small or its a suspicious (ex.: you *suspect* there's been a break-in in your home). That'll come in handy later should something happen
    Rule #6: Mention these suspicions to close family/friends

  35. #23
    Banned
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Aboard The Spaceship
    Posts
    4,787
    Thanks
    3,183
    Thanked 10,142 Times in 3,290 Posts
    My Mood
    Breezy

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by lindsknits View Post
    I would be firm with him, but not rude. you don't want to provoke him to further harass you by angering him.
    I would NOT even do that! Some men CANNOT take rejection, and may seek out some sick form of revenge. For all anyone knows, he could be a psycho whose created some false reality love story. You never know. Avoid him, is what I'd recommend. Don't talk to him or engage him in any conversation.

  36. #24
    Veteran Member sweetsam's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    493
    Thanks
    508
    Thanked 426 Times in 177 Posts
    My Mood
    Busy

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    I also think you should look up sex offenders in your area, and see if his name and or picture comes up!! You never know! He might have a history!




  37. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to sweetsam For This Useful Post:


  38. #25
    Senior Member Slutdust's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2011
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    193
    Thanks
    33
    Thanked 110 Times in 46 Posts
    My Mood
    Inspired

    Default Re: Stalker-ass creepy neighbor

    Quote Originally Posted by sweetsam View Post
    I also think you should look up sex offenders in your area, and see if his name and or picture comes up!! You never know! He might have a history!
    shit!! google his name!

    and i would DEF tell the office and the police.....and move.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Squats: Nice ASS or Fat ASS
    By Tatiana X in forum Body Business
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 05-12-2011, 06:20 PM
  2. Creepy Dude You Blocked is Being Creepy
    By bun in forum Other Work
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 04-28-2011, 12:02 PM
  3. This is a creepy ass picture
    By Miss_Luscious in forum Member Boards
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 10-02-2008, 04:57 PM
  4. Neighbor Hook-up!!! Do Not Do It
    By Desiree in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 03-05-2008, 05:29 PM
  5. I KNOW my neighbor wants me!!!!!!!
    By Optimist in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 09-03-2007, 09:44 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •