hey there.
I do not post in this section much, but I do read other threads. Its interesting to me to see what other people go through and how they deal with stuff..
anyway..
here is a little "story" that I m not sure how to deal with and I would appreciate any comments on this.
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My good friend has a new BF. We live very close to each other so visiting each other is just a matter of minutes..
Ok, so she is very interested in learning martial arts. She has a full time job so does not have enough time to go to a gym to do so. Instead, it so happens that her new BF is a martial arts blackbelt. ( they are seeing each other for just a few months now,, and she met him online, if this is relevant)..
I have practiced martial arts for a few years when I was a teen so I am familiar with the moves and the whole thing.. she knows this and at times we fooled around showing each other some moves ( no body contact with each other...)
Now her BF comes over her place during the weekend and they practice together. SO she recently asked me to come join them. I said ok. And I went over last weekend..... and what happened there did not seem right to me...
"they" already bought me a new Gi.. I was like.. "ok.... I wasnt ready for this, I thought I would watch more... then... practice with you guys, but ok, lets do this why not."..
We start to "warm up" and do some moves, bla bla...
Then the BF starts telling us ( me in particular ) that he belives in full contact practice and that we will do it because we need to "learn" the real deal.. He said nothing that would injure anyone, but we need to make " contact"..
Ok... Fine... untill... He started to show us some moves that involve "pressure points".... Long story short (lol)... I had to put my foot on his face and "press" even if I insisted I do not want to do that... I had to practice .. She had to pretty much kick him in the balls to practice " pressure points".... and I was supposed to do the same. but I totally refused to do this one..
I am not comfortable doing this again and I will not, but how do I tell her without hurting her feelings.. she really wants to train with me but all this full contact thing and the BF that I have to touch does not seem right ( to me).
What would you tell her?
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