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    Default Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    hey there.
    I do not post in this section much, but I do read other threads. Its interesting to me to see what other people go through and how they deal with stuff..
    anyway..
    here is a little "story" that I m not sure how to deal with and I would appreciate any comments on this.
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    My good friend has a new BF. We live very close to each other so visiting each other is just a matter of minutes..
    Ok, so she is very interested in learning martial arts. She has a full time job so does not have enough time to go to a gym to do so. Instead, it so happens that her new BF is a martial arts blackbelt. ( they are seeing each other for just a few months now,, and she met him online, if this is relevant)..
    I have practiced martial arts for a few years when I was a teen so I am familiar with the moves and the whole thing.. she knows this and at times we fooled around showing each other some moves ( no body contact with each other...)
    Now her BF comes over her place during the weekend and they practice together. SO she recently asked me to come join them. I said ok. And I went over last weekend..... and what happened there did not seem right to me...
    "they" already bought me a new Gi.. I was like.. "ok.... I wasnt ready for this, I thought I would watch more... then... practice with you guys, but ok, lets do this why not."..
    We start to "warm up" and do some moves, bla bla...
    Then the BF starts telling us ( me in particular ) that he belives in full contact practice and that we will do it because we need to "learn" the real deal.. He said nothing that would injure anyone, but we need to make " contact"..
    Ok... Fine... untill... He started to show us some moves that involve "pressure points".... Long story short (lol)... I had to put my foot on his face and "press" even if I insisted I do not want to do that... I had to practice .. She had to pretty much kick him in the balls to practice " pressure points".... and I was supposed to do the same. but I totally refused to do this one..
    I am not comfortable doing this again and I will not, but how do I tell her without hurting her feelings.. she really wants to train with me but all this full contact thing and the BF that I have to touch does not seem right ( to me).
    What would you tell her?
    Thanks for reading

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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    1st of all..what's a gi?
    Sounds kinda weird to me, like he likes pain, one of those guys that likes to be kicked in jewels.


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    Gi is the Martial Arts outfit.. that white kimono..

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    Yeah your feelings are right..strange. Sounds like they need to practice together...alone.

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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    I think you just got tricked into satisfying someones fetish.
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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    Sounds like he's into the idea of having his ass kicked by 2 girls in Gi's. Y'know, sexually.

    Tell your friend you're not comfortable with contact and you want to practice with her one-on-one from now on.



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    I agree with all of the above.

    And why sugarcoat it with your friend? That sounds incredibly awkward and uncomfortable for you and I would put it in no-nonsense terms that her boyfriend makes you uncomfortable so that you don't have to socialize with them at all. I know your question was just about practicing with them, but after that I'd be like, hell no! Your freaky ass boyfriend can hang out by himself.

    Who the fuck buys a gi to practice at home? I mean really? If you're going to get attacked you're likely going to be in street clothes, so him trying to make things "realistic" is laughable.

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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    It sounds more like hes trying to get his rocks off...

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    I'd tell her that you're not into fetish play, cause let's face it, that's what it is. The only thing that the three of you have been practicing, is him getting his rocks off. If she wants to keep practicing with him that's cool, tell her "knock your self out", (just not literally) but that you're not interested, cause it's just not your thing.

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    thanks guys, I really appreciate it

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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    Honestly guys usually pay to get kicked and stomped on.

    I think he's using you two girlies.

    But that's just me.




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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    Maybe he is getting his jollies - maybe he's one of those guys who's just way too invested in the concept of martial arts and thinks he's going to be called upon to be an urban ninja or something... I've met a few guys like that. Just tell her that your idea of martial arts doesn't mesh with his and you think it would be better if they practiced without you because you don't want to bring down their practice time with your discomfort.

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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    I'd say just let her know that you're content with what you're currently doing and that you aren't interested in practicing with them. Say that it's great she's learning but that you are too busy to meet up with them and that you prefer doing the same thing you've always done ... something like that.
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    Default Re: Anyone else feels this is not right... please comment..

    Sounds to me like what everyone else is saying....fetish for him. But even if its not, you are not comfortable with his teaching style......that is all you have to tell your friend..........it doesnt matter why.

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