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    After a long convo with my friend about the industry, and how draining some SDs/custies are (playing games etc) I realize what matters most for me is not them. Who cares. They are only wallets. No matter how good looking, romantic or nice.. What matters most in life is my own well being, my soulmate SO & my best friends. These are the real people in my life.
    Custies/ sugar Daddies sometimes play the romance card for their own excitement only. Don't get caught in their web. Just focus on the wallet. This is a recent lesson I'm learning.

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    Don't get caught in the custy-SD headgames. Just focus on the wallet.
    Last week I was in limbo because one SD said that he wants to propose marriage to me. So much drama and I realize at the end of the day that it's just pure fantasy - head games per se on his part.
    What a lesson.
    Don't let the games drain you, just focus on the $$$

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    compartmentalization is soooooooooo important. glad you have realized this! many dancers never do.

    *hug*


    Quote Originally Posted by kristalyne View Post
    After a long convo with my friend about the industry, and how draining some SDs/custies are (playing games etc) I realize what matters most for me is not them. Who cares. They are only wallets. No matter how good looking, romantic or nice.. What matters most in life is my own well being, my soulmate SO & my best friends. These are the real people in my life.
    Custies/ sugar Daddies sometimes play the romance card for their own excitement only. Don't get caught in their web. Just focus on the wallet. This is a recent lesson I'm learning.

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    yeah this is true... keeps your head clear

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    compartmentalization is soooooooooo important. glad you have realized this! many dancers never do.

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    Thanks Camille It takes time to realize and yeah..it's not worth the hassle. Compartmentalization is a must if we want to survive in this field.

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    pink_bunny -- exactly, just focus on money. Don't get caught up in his looks if he's good looking, in his talks if he's sweet talking, in his drama ...it's exhausting.
    I realize it's not worth thinking over. When he's out of sight, he's out of mind.

    He's deluded as always thinking we having a "relationship" and this "relationship" in his mind is just a fantasy on his part but he expect you to act upon it..

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    Default Re: I realize what matters most (regarding custies&sugar daddies)

    Great advice. I got so wrapped up in one SD-turned-boyfriend, and I'm still paying for that experience years later. So not worth it.
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    Shake your ass and preserve your heritage.
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    Do it for the present and future generations.
    Have fun and stick it to the man at the same time.
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    I don't see customers as just wallets, they're people as well; so I treat them as such. However, I do let them know from the start that I'm all about business, and that it will stay that way.

    I try to keep them close in case I may need something in the future from them, but I treat them they same way I treat my customers from all my other vanilla jobs.





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    Default Re: I realize what matters most (regarding custies&sugar daddies)

    When a customer asks you out to dinner yeah that's nice and all.

    When a customer asks you how much to take you out to dinner, he's got sugar daddy written all over him.

    Yes I see customers as people but when customers just see me as ass they start to look more and more like a wallet.




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    ^
    That last line is very true!!!!!!!!

    Because of that, I try to avoid customers like that; if the customer makes me feel unease, is usually because he only sees me as tits and ass.





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    Default Re: I realize what matters most (regarding custies&sugar daddies)

    how do you compartmentalize?

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    I'm still learning to compartmentalize also..because it needs practice. Guys have this skill naturally, while us women have to learn and practice.

    I read some pointers from this online article, since I been trying to find out more about compartmentalizing. I found some two important points : (link on bottom)

    So here’s the How-To:

    1. Remember that your personal space includes your feelings, your thoughts, your actions. Don’t let someone invade them. As soon as they do, you can’t control your feelings, thoughts, or actions.
    2. Practice compartmentalizing early and often. At the smallest bother, stop, take a deep breath and say — out loud if you must — “I don’t care.” Pull the emotion aside, close the door, pocket the key and get on with it.

    Taken from this site http://completeflake.com/i-dont-care/

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    Default Re: I realize what matters most (regarding custies&sugar daddies)

    UPDATE ON SD's TRYING TO MINDFUCK

    I recently cut out this wannabe SD for telling me that he needs an "audition" to get a free session with me (meaning:sex) before deciding to recruit me as his paid girlfriend. I said.."Sorry there are no auditions available" and he said "Too bad".

    Basically, I cut him off and today he maneuvered on Messenger, posting romantic status probably directed at another girl..perhaps his new conquest.
    When I asked him "So, you found your audition already?" he replied "Nooo..this status is for you,darling...I'm always thinking about you"

    That's his maneuver, his game and his mindfuck. Spot on.
    I'm moving on..NEXT!

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    I'm kinda burned out
    Sometimes I hate the drama & mindfuks ..

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    Default Re: I realize what matters most (regarding custies&sugar daddies)

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    I don't see customers as just wallets, they're people as well; so I treat them as such. However, I do let them know from the start that I'm all about business, and that it will stay that way.

    I try to keep them close in case I may need something in the future from them, but I treat them they same way I treat my customers from all my other vanilla jobs.

    I used to see them as people. Unfortunately they don't see us as people or give a fuck about what we think or want. It's all about them usually. Your there to make money not be their friend, just pretend to be.

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