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    Duh Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    Ok so im kinda new to dancing and ive noticed some problems that i have that i cant seem to get over so i would like some advice from you guys. My first problem is that I get easily intimidated by white custies. Usally the older ones. Im Black but i looked mixed and for some reason when i see a old white guy i automaticly think he thinks im ugly and will reject me automaticly. So i dont approach them. My second problem is that i cant approach big groups of men. Any number higher than 3 and i just cant do it. ESPECIALLY if they are white. These fears I have are affecting my money for sure and i dont want to go to Toronto with these problems. Do you guys have any advice to help me get over it? And drinking is not a option.
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    Really? IME old white dudes out here love the chocolate aisle of the candy store!
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    Default Re: Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    I think it's common to feel that way about a certain type of guy. We all have those guys that we know we generally do well with, and the guys that we tend to avoid. It's easy to stereotype at work.
    But it's also important to try and approach everybody. For example, I generally do not like young guys. I feel like because of my personality I have a hard time getting them to spend on me, and I'll admit I usually avoid them. However, this past weekend was very good for me, and nearly all my customers were young guys. So you just never know.

    As far as fear of approaching them, you just have to do it. And the more you do it and the more you see them not react to you with disgust the easier it will get. You WILL be rejected, it happens to us all so don't take it personally. You will also find guys that like your look and you would've never gotten their money if you hadn't tried.
    And besides, if you approach them and do get rejected it might sting at first, but 10 minutes later you'll be on to someone new and it won't even matter anymore.

    As far as groups, I find these hard to approach myself. One thing I like to do is ask a friend to go with me, that makes it easier.

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    Default Re: Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    Older white guys...like really really white countryish guys too...they love the sexual chocolate girl! Where I work some of the girls who have regulars who spend a ton on them are black..and the custies are always white. I notice they tend to like darker girls who speak well (no ghetto-ness) and girls who have long hair. Also try dancing to rock...like some classic rock or 80's. They love it. I also think it makes them seem more approachable.

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    Default Re: Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Really? IME old white dudes out here love the chocolate aisle of the candy store!
    In fact, use this line on them.

    As a white person, I can attest that white dudes find the idea of a non-white woman "novel" or "exotic," so keep that in mind. They have an attitude that we in women's studies like to refer to as "colonizing." They think of non-white women as a challenge, something to conquer, and that tempts them.

    Don't let them intimidate you! Intimidate them right back.

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    Default Re: Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    Girrrrrl you better approach those white men! My biggest spender thus far has been a white man, and at the club I'm at currently they are totally infatuated & awe struck with the chocolate hunnies. It's like forbidden fruit to them & one they can only entertain inside the club; play on that and run with it!

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    Default Re: Need Tips on Getting Over Intimidation

    LOL
    Thanks guys. I will definetly start trying to approach those white guys. And here i thought they didnt like black girls at all! Now that i know for sure that im missing out on money i will definetly fix that!
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