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    Default If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    If you need a break for whatever reason (holiday, family, study, whatever), do you ever worry you'll lose your best regulars to another dancer during that time?

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    I never had a lot of regulars or took a break and came back to the same club. But I can tell you from observation that if the regular was really devoted to the dancer, it shouldn't matter. Many times, I would start to cultivate a regular who hadn't seen his regular dancer in awhile, then she would come back, and he was instantly off with her again and ignoring me. If a regular is truly that loyal, he'll probably go back to his original dancer when she returns. If he's going to switch favorites, it probably would happen anyway, whether or not the dancer was in the club at the time.

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    From my experience, regulars aren't permanent---not to be pessimistic, but realistic. Like Aurora said, all you can do hope they will stay loyal. I offer my email address to my best regulars and let them know when I'll be back and when to come see me, but that's all I can do. Everyone looks for the bigger, better deal [and that has nothing to do with whether you're in the club or not].

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    I took a two month break before my finals and I have to say I lost quite a few regular customers. Other girls prepared to give personal phone numbers and do more in VIP sank their claws in! But if they're into extras then maybe that's not what I want in a regular... and it was quite likely that I would have been dropped eventually in favour of higher mileage whether or not I took a break!

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    A good friend of mine took 6 years off from dancing. When she decided to go back, she called her best regulars, and they were thrilled. She spent the first week in back-to-back VIPs with regs who couldn't wait to see her again. She was surprised - she wasn't sure if they'd remember her, or if they did, if they would still care. I told her there was a reason these guys had spent so much $$$ on her over the years - and of course they would remember her!!

    Of course, she had been dancing for almost 10 years before she took time off, so she had developed relationships with these regulars over several years. I guess it would depend on your relationship with your regs (i.e. - how long you've been dancing ofr them, how devoted they are to you, etc.).
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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    Nope, took time off all the time. Never cared. Why do custies tend to think that regulars are so essential?

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    There's always more where that came from...
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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    ^ This.

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    If the lady is concerned about losing established regulars or wants to keep them, best thing is to maintain any level of contact there was prior to her leaving. If she sent test messages or emails....continue to send them while gone. Keep them innocent so as to not encourage OTC but do it merely to keep up any 'dreamworld' the customer might be living in. Simple 'miss ya' or 'see ya soon' would personally keep me interested and would help me avoid the 'it is only the money' reality !!

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    All of my favs know that regulars come and go. The chances are far better that a reg is going to get dumped for becoming too much of a PITA than a dancer losing him because she decides to take some time off...
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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    I've never worried about it. I don't hoard customers. They like me because they like me not because I manipulate them.

    If I lost a customer because he was easily manipulated by another dancer then that is not what I would call a good regular so it's no loss to me.

    Good regs see through the bullshit.

    Some have told me with disappointment "I was approached (or tried) another dancer".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raider View Post
    If the lady is concerned about losing established regulars or wants to keep them, best thing is to maintain any level of contact there was prior to her leaving. If she sent test messages or emails....continue to send them while gone. Keep them innocent so as to not encourage OTC but do it merely to keep up any 'dreamworld' the customer might be living in. Simple 'miss ya' or 'see ya soon' would personally keep me interested and would help me avoid the 'it is only the money' reality !!
    I'd think that most customers already know that the dancers are doing it for the money. It sounds like that reality is tough for you to handle if you're trying so hard to avoid it. If that reality crosses your mind, does it stop you from getting dances from her? Is it an earth shattering event for you?

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    My comment was sorta 'tongue in cheek'. Well aware of what reality is.

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Nope, took time off all the time. Never cared. Why do custies tend to think that regulars are so essential?
    Different dancers have different attitudes towards regulars depending on their experiences. You're obviously one who doesn't rely on them. That's not to say that others don't.

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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    Quote Originally Posted by Raider View Post
    Simple 'miss ya' or 'see ya soon' would personally keep me interested and would help me avoid the 'it is only the money' reality !!
    I personally don't really think it's impossible to enjoy your SC experience without denying yourself the reality that it is really about the money. In fact, I think it would actually be better if both parties were aware of it and happy with the arrangement.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Different dancers have different attitudes towards regulars depending on their experiences. You're obviously one who doesn't rely on them. That's not to say that others don't.
    Obviously not considering you have a whole thread of dancers saying the exact opposite.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Obviously not considering you have a whole thread of dancers saying the exact opposite.
    Saying the exact opposite as in saying they don't rely on regulars?

    Well, maybe "rely" is too strong of a word. I should probably have said there are, I'm sure, dancers who "appreciate" having good regulars.

    You're probably now going to tell me that most dancers don't really care about having good regulars. Ok then. I understand. That's the nature of SW.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Saying the exact opposite as in saying they don't rely on regulars?

    Well, maybe "rely" is too strong of a word. I should probably have said there are, I'm sure, dancers who "appreciate" having good regulars.

    You're probably now going to tell me that most dancers don't really care about having good regulars. Ok then. I understand. That's the nature of SW.
    No that's not what I'm going to say. I am going to say (again) that there are always more regs to cultivate. No one stays a reg forever. That's what's being said here. If you're taking time off, there will still be guys when you get back. Guys are constantly switching their ATFs for one reason or another (take a read down in the basement for examples) why should we (dancers) be any different? Sure a good reg is always appreciated. That doesn't make you irreplaceable.
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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    Like others have said, regulars aren't forever. I took off ONE of my weekly shifts where I had this one regular and he was picked up by another girl. Other regulars won't even come into the club unless they know I'm there, doesn't matter if I take a break or not. They've all got a shelf life and different levels of interest in you specifically. Sometimes vacation coincides with that interest dwindling, sometimes it doesn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Different dancers have different attitudes towards regulars depending on their experiences. You're obviously one who doesn't rely on them. That's not to say that others don't.
    Um, yeah thanks, I actually know other strippers and have worked in the clubs for years. I am aware of the regular game. I just always read on here all of these questions from customers assuming that regulars are so important. Well, they simply are not. Even the ones that are here now could dissapear tomorrow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    I just always read on here all of these questions from customers assuming that regulars are so important. Well, they simply are not. Even the ones that are here now could dissapear tomorrow.
    Bingo! Last December my ATF's biggest spending customer asked her to go out with him on New Year's Eve. She turned him down knowing full-well that he would probably stop spending the $1000 or more a week he had been spending on her for about two years. She didn't care. She doesn't date customers and had never led this guy to believe he had a shot. He had been leading up to this and getting increasingly whiny and possessive during his visits to her club. Sure enough he disappeared for a few months after she turned him down. It hurt her money for a while but eventually she simply replaced his money with money from other customers that she had been too busy to spend time with when the former regular was monopolizing her afternoons. The guy returned after a few months but spends no where near what he did before. This is fine with my ATF as she doesn't allow him to monopolize her time the way he did when he was a big spender either.

    I'm willing to bet that every confident, established dancer on this site could tell the same kind of story, probably with multiple examples.

    As customers some of us would like to think that we have the upper hand in the clubs because we spend the money. The fact is we don't. Yes, you get to decide who you want to spend money on but that's about it. You don't get to call the tune when it comes to controlling a dancer's time. Dancers go in to work every day with a financial target in mind. They will attain it with one guy or with ten different guys depending on what opportunities present themselves during that shift. A regular customer who is a nice guy and spends generously will always be welcome by most dancers but don't kid yourself, she is going to take money from the a-holes and "one-dance" guys too. Her job is to get all the money, not just yours. The minute you start thinking that you can throw your weight around because you spend a lot of money on a girl is the minute your usefulness to her starts to dwindle. When your attitude outweighs your financial contributions you are gone. This is why things like taking an extended break or changing clubs is something that dancers just do without worrying too much about regular customers. The non-PITA guys will be around when she comes back or she will let them know when she moves on to another club. The rest of us wind up on TUSCL or SCL asking if anyone knows what happened to so and so...
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    Default Re: If you need to take a break, do you worry you'll lose your regs?

    Nope they might stray but they always come home to their "wife"

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