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    Default If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    Just curious as to how many would choose their baby's sex if they were able to.
    I was just watching something and some believe it's a good idea because some people get late term abortions after finding out the gender of their baby.
    Which, just shocked me!

    I don't think I could do it...
    I wanted a girl soooo bad, but have been blessed with 2 beautiful, healthy, happy boys..and now, can't even imagine having a girl.

    Although, if I was to ever get pregnant again (which..I am totally done with...lol), I'd hope for a girl. I dunno if I'd use science to get the results I want though.
    (Which I guess can be done!)

    I mean, maybe if there were a button or something or like a certain day to conceive on..lol, but I don't think I could or would use science to get a girl.

    What about you? If you were able to choose the sex of your baby (if you ever had kids) would you??

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    Default Re: If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    To be honest, people having late term abortions because of the child being the wrong gender really bothers me. I feel you should be happy to have a child because so many want kids and are infertile. However, I will admit though that I really want a daughter more than a son. If I could only have one child I would prefer a daughter but would not abort a son.

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    Default Re: If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    I think it's hideous that people would get an abortion just for not liking the sex of their child... maybe this is a case for making sure that people who are deadset on a boy/girl, get what they want... then again, I don't think someone who would abort the baby just because of sex is really fit to be a parent anyway...

    I think I would use this technology if I already had one child and wanted to ensure that the next would be the opposite sex, because I think (if I had 2) I would want one of each. For people who wanted one thing, but got another, of course they can't imagine trading in the kid they got, nor should they. But if you had gotten the girl you wanted, then you would have a beautiful baby girl that you'd love just as much. I don't think it's horrible to want to determine the sex of the child, but if it didn't work, I wouldn't get rid of it or love it any less.

    I actually JUST watched the Yes, Dear episode on this very discussion! lol I don't know if anyone watches that... haha

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    I don't think so honestly, regardless of how much I wanted a boy. As much as I believe in advancement in science and all that, this is too close to playing God for me. My personal opinion is that there are some things we're not supposed to be in control of, or be able to manipulate.
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    Default Re: If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    I would choose boy, then girl. But I wouldn't abort if the sex wasn't the way I would like ideally.

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    I don't think I could choose if I had the option. I'd feel weird doing it. I really want my first child to be a boy, but I'd also be happy with a girl too

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    Default Re: If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    If it were up to me conceiving a child with selected specimens, I would have no problem selecting gender (I wouldn't really care, but a boy and girl would be nice), screening out genetic defects, or even selecting specimens with known superior qualities (basically Gattaca). Not to fly off on a religious tangent, but I don't believe in a all powerful deity that decides what your child should be like. We're not too far away from science giving us those sorts of choices, so it should be very interesting to see the response from religious groups.

    As for aborting a child of an unwanted gender...not a choice I'll ever have to make, but I would never encourage an abortion unless it was medically necessary. I think the gender based elective abortion issue is most prevalent in China due to the one child policy, and other Asian cultures where a couple can only support one child and they are counting on that child to support them in old age. It's not a pleasant thought, but all too often ethics go out the window due to economic realities.

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    I'm not fond of the idea of gender selection. Has anyone ever heard of the 'missing women' problem that some countries that have been practicing gender selection for ages are now facing?


    I'm sure that wouldn't happen here, but it still scares me.

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    Late term abortions for gender selection in the U.S. is extremely rare. Its much more common in countries that have a societal preference for one gender, or in societies that limit the number of children a couple can have. Like Krill said, China has this problem. And there's a theory that an entire generation of Chinese dudes will be SOL when it comes to finding a wife.

    I would never have a late term abortion, unless it was absolutely for certain that I would die if I continued the pregnancy. But if there was some way I could magically wish on a star or something, in a heart beat I would choose to have a girl, I already have my little boy and I would LOVE to have a girl. I don't know if we plan on any more kids, but to be 100% honest, the idea of having 2 crazy boys running around makes me a little nervous.

    If you're doing IVF and chromosome analysis to screen for genetic diseases, they can easily tell you if the embryos they're implanting are boys or girls. I think thats a lot easier for me to be okay with than a late term abortion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Just curious as to how many would choose their baby's sex if they were able to.
    I was just watching something and some believe it's a good idea because some people get late term abortions after finding out the gender of their baby.
    Which, just shocked me!

    I don't think I could do it...
    I wanted a girl soooo bad, but have been blessed with 2 beautiful, healthy, happy boys..and now, can't even imagine having a girl.

    Although, if I was to ever get pregnant again (which..I am totally done with...lol), I'd hope for a girl. I dunno if I'd use science to get the results I want though.
    (Which I guess can be done!)
    http://www.fertility-docs.com/fertility_gender.phtml
    I mean, maybe if there were a button or something or like a certain day to conceive on..lol, but I don't think I could or would use science to get a girl.

    What about you? If you were able to choose the sex of your baby (if you ever had kids) would you??
    I would choose the sex of my second child. Not the first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    I would choose the sex of my second child. Not the first.
    Out of curiosity why? What makes the second different?
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    Absolutely not! It irks me that anyone would actually consider it. I don't even understand people who "keep trying" for a certain sex when they can't even afford it. Baseball and princesses mean that much to the parent. I am a mother and I meant it when I said "I just want it to come out healthy". And, he is. It seems so selfish in a way--narcissistic even. White house, picket fence, 2.5 children. Why would you want to control every detail like that in your life? I am not even a God person, but it just seems so wrong. I want to throw something.

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    Default Re: If you could choose the sex of your child, would you?

    *sigh* Yes, if there was some way to be able to choose the sex of a child at conception, I'd pick one gender over the other. I'm carrier for a genetic disorder that apparently is MUCH more likely to effect one sex than the other. So yeah, if I had the option to choose, I would.

    That being said, I could never carry a baby full term anyway (unrelated reasons). Moot point.



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    I wouldn't change/choose the sex of my baby even when the choice was there for me. I would love it either way. Its part of me and my SOs, male or female as long as its mine I'll love it no matter what. But I cant see myself having kids anytime soon nor wanting them, but if I ever change my choice, it wouldn't matter to me, as I believe its meant to be what it is.

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    No I wouldn't. Only thing I'd choose is for an uncomplicated pregnancy resulting in a perfectly healthy baby.

    I can't believe people get late abortions becuz of gender...that's fuckin sick and contemptible. That's waaaaay worse then the story I heard at my ob/gym office a few mos ago bout a woman who "mysteriously" stopped coming back for prenatal care after she was annoyed to find out that she was having a girl. I mean I thought **I** was "bad" when I suddenly abruptly ceased contact with a doctors office last pregnancy after they recommended a (likely lethal) labor induction at only 20ish wks due to my pregnancy complications...but in my case atleast I walked becuz I was trying to PROTECT my baby from a (as it turned out to be) unnecessary possible induction, which my baby was too little to ever survive at that point (most babies don't survive bein born before 27/28 wks, and none do at 20-22 wks). And by the way, I did end up getting prenatal care again with that pregnancy, I just chilled for over a month then went to a brand new place (and yes, that late in my pregnancy I changed drs).

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    when I'm ready to have kids I want a son SOOOOOOOO bad, but if it's a girl I'll love her infinitely and no I wouldn't want to choose. things happen for a reason!

    my boyfriend is convinced that (if we have kids together) our first child is going to be a girl. he thinks it's men's intuition lol because since we've been together whenever he thinks about having a kid with me he pictures raising a daughter

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    I always knew I was going to have a girl with blond hair and blue eyes, even had her name picked out by the time I was 13. And voila-I have a gorgeous blond, blue-eyed girl with the name I had picked out.

    If I had had a choice, I would definitely have chosen the gender of my baby, and I would've chosen a girl. I am SOOO glad I had a girl.

    Even so, if by some chance I had a boy, I would'nt have aborted him. That, to me, is sick. I had a boys name picked out, just in case. Aborting a child because of gender is horrible.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Out of curiosity why? What makes the second different?


    I figure I want a boy and a girl. If my first two are a boy and a girl, I'm done, no needing any gender selection in any circumstance.

    However, I'll add one thing...if my first two were of the same sex, I'd go for a third and select the gender of that one (to be of the opposite gender of the first two).

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    I can't have children - ever. I found this out about 11 years ago - so - I would just thank the Lord for a healthy baby....whatever sex.
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    I'd rather someone use science to pick the gender of their child than to abort a fetus who is not the sex they had hoped for late in their pregnancy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    I figure I want a boy and a girl. If my first two are a boy and a girl, I'm done, no needing any gender selection in any circumstance.

    However, I'll add one thing...if my first two were of the same sex, I'd go for a third and select the gender of that one (to be of the opposite gender of the first two).
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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Just curious as to how many would choose their baby's sex if they were able to.

    I don't think I could do it...
    I wanted a girl soooo bad, but have been blessed with 2 beautiful, healthy, happy boys..and now, can't even imagine having a girl.


    What about you? If you were able to choose the sex of your baby (if you ever had kids) would you??
    I was the same....

    With our 1st.....I SAID it didnt matter, but i secretly kind of wanted a boy......we had a girl........and 3 years later when we were pregnant again......I couldnt imagine having a boy...i wanted another girl. We had a boy....

    Very nice to have one of each, but if i had 2 girls or 2 boys, I'm sure i would be equally happy.

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