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    I’ve never told anybody this, but my best guy friend is five years my senior. We’re each other’s confidants and just have an unnerving amount of things in common - not to be too cliché but I’ve never loved anybody more.

    He’s given me nicknames - sweets, darlin’, lover, his girlfriend - he’s asked me to marry him I don’t know how many times. He’s only kidding, but still says he wants me to take care of him.

    But no, we’ve never been intimate or anything of the like. Last night a little while after we had left each other, he sent me a message telling me he was going to sleep but gave me the sweetest birthday wish and confided something in me.

    Distance is a -huge- factor and is a real problem in our friendship, but as it turns out we're moving to the same place in a few months for school!

    I don't know at all how to handle this - again I've never even said a word of it to anyone. I try hard not to let my feelings get the better of me or romanticize our friendship in any way at all, but as pathetic as I'm being it was simply love at first sight for me. Any advice?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Discuntent View Post
    I’ve never told anybody this, but my best guy friend is five years my senior. We’re each other’s confidants and just have an unnerving amount of things in common - not to be too cliché but I’ve never loved anybody more.

    He’s given me nicknames - sweets, darlin’, lover, his girlfriend - he’s asked me to marry him I don’t know how many times. He’s only kidding, but still says he wants me to take care of him.

    But no, we’ve never been intimate or anything of the like. Last night a little while after we had left each other, he sent me a message telling me he was going to sleep but gave me the sweetest birthday wish and confided something in me.

    Distance is a -huge- factor and is a real problem in our friendship, but as it turns out we're moving to the same place in a few months for school!

    I don't know at all how to handle this - again I've never even said a word of it to anyone. I try hard not to let my feelings get the better of me or romanticize our friendship in any way at all, but as pathetic as I'm being it was simply love at first sight for me. Any advice?

    What's to handle? Let it happen..... What is the worst that can happen..... You both get broken hearts...... Sometimes love is worth a broken heart..... Besides the world is full of broken hearts...... But the feelings you have, once acted on, are the best feelings in the world.

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    Love Love!! this sounds so perfect. Going to the same schools? wow I think this may be the one

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    Thanks for the kind words ladies, I suppose I win either way - I have a great friend!

    Mutual friends have always predicted so but just with the distance we've had to try to stay stable in our friendship - it's always confused me because he'll make passes jokingly and I kid back, but I worry that I over personalize every interaction of ours. Ah!

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    I thought it was another chick....bummer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zeke View Post
    I thought it was another chick....bummer.
    Hah! It would be easier. I don't even know what I'm asking at this point to be honest. Do I or don't I tell him, how do I deal with it when we go to school together, etc. etc..I just don't really know where he stands.

    Again thank you to anyone who even took the time out to read that, you're a saint!

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    I say take it slow. Just one day when your hanging out ask him if he ever wanted to try out the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Just don't looked pissed if he laughs at it. He might first think its a joke. Or he will take it seriously but you will be putting it out there. I say take it slow cause its rare to have such a longtime guy friend that never gone pushy sexual.

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    I say go fast! GO FOR IT! I am willing to bet he's got the hots for you too! Sometimes guys are stupid this way...they are secretly pining away for a girl that they think only sees them as a "friend."

    I'm not sure how to tell you how to go for it, but hell yeah baby...hit the gas!

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    You KNOW already if he wants to take it further or not.

    If you have the vibe that he wants to..... some evening when you are together, plant a passionate lip lock on him and see what his reaction is. If he say's what was that for?..... tell him you were just curious. Then tell him if it was what YOU were expecting.

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    You might find out that he feels the same way but be warned this could cause you to lose a friend. I have lost guy friends because they wanted to be more than friends and I didn't. In two cases I started dating guy friends, the relationships ended (both on their account)and so did the friendships, leaving me severely broken hearted. So yes it is a risk and it could pay off (boyfriend, perhaps marriage)or leave one of you hurt and lose the friendship. I do know a few who were able to resume the friendship as before but so many like me who didn't.

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    Wow, so many responses! I can't thank you all enough for the encouragement. Now I need to just grow a pair. As cliche as it is I would really hate to wonder what could've been. We're only going to be at the same place for a year - but it's pretty agreeable that we take things slow, even in friendship. The distance doesn't make it exactly easier but he does like to give me mixed signals. Gah!

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    Do it, DO IT!!!

    My guy and I went to the same high school but he was a year ahead of me. We knew OF one another but weren't friends. After I had graduated we became REALLY close friends. We hung out together almost every. Single. Day. We had a blast together, were best friends for a year and a half. Then we became friends with benefits but were still just friends. Then eventually we decided to go for it and do the boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Now we are COMPLETELY in love, celebrated our 3 YEAR anniversary back in June and we definately see marriage in the cards.

    JUST GO FOR IT!!!!!

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    Thank ya darlin'! Congratulations on your anniversary by the way, you give girls like me hope

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    Quote Originally Posted by Discuntent View Post
    I’ve never told anybody this, but my best guy friend is five years my senior. We’re each other’s confidants and just have an unnerving amount of things in common - not to be too cliché but I’ve never loved anybody more.

    He’s given me nicknames - sweets, darlin’, lover, his girlfriend - he’s asked me to marry him I don’t know how many times. He’s only kidding, but still says he wants me to take care of him.

    But no, we’ve never been intimate or anything of the like. Last night a little while after we had left each other, he sent me a message telling me he was going to sleep but gave me the sweetest birthday wish and confided something in me.

    Distance is a -huge- factor and is a real problem in our friendship, but as it turns out we're moving to the same place in a few months for school!

    I don't know at all how to handle this - again I've never even said a word of it to anyone. I try hard not to let my feelings get the better of me or romanticize our friendship in any way at all, but as pathetic as I'm being it was simply love at first sight for me. Any advice?

    Go for it! You'll regret it if you don't. What's the worst that can happen?

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    Go for it, x755345788! Better to go for it than spend your whole life wondering what if.

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