hi! its my 1st time posting here and i am hoping am posting at the right place, if not forgive me.
so i have been going out with this guy 4 two years and we are in a long distance relationship.i have been through a lot and he has always been there for me through difficult times but what gets to me is he hardly discusses his problems with me because he says i have got problems of my own and he doesn't want to add to that.recently he just stopped calling ,IMing n emailing me.i was so worried because this is so unlike him.i wont go much into detail but then he finally wrote me n email n told me one of his relatives is on life support and his sister needs financial help n he's sorry he hasn't been in touch but needs time to sort everything out n wants me to understand.
the truth is i am hurt that he's going through this and didn't bother to tell me until i left him more than a dozen voice mails and emails.when he's going through a difficult time i have to drag it out of him always or he'll never tell me n it really worries me.i don't know what to do and it breaks my heart that he's going through this and he doesn't even see the need to come to me.all i want is to be there 4 him like he has done 4 me so many times.i just want him to let me be strong 4 him,love him and be there 4 him, am i asking 4 too much? it always helps to have someone on the outside looking in because you see a lot of things that i don't.i don't know what i want to hear right now but all i know is i am worried, need to talk to him but he said he needs time and wants me to understand,how do i give him time without driving myself crazy.i worry about him a lot because he doesn't talk much u know how man can be, they bottle things up and want to work them out on their own unlike us we talk bout things.
i just want to be there 4 him without feeling as if i am being too pushy or selfish or... i don't know what to do please help me out.![]()



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