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    Default Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    I'm not talking about HOT bartenders/DJs, or the bartenders that can catch liquor bottles behind their back and do tricks while mixing drinks - that's an interesting skill. But even average-looking bartenders and DJs get play from the ladies. It's not like these guys are in a band. Ladies please help me understand this phenomenon. Thanks.

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    they make good money? I don't know. I never though people were "obsessed". girls don't exactly flock to the dj at my club and he's ok looking.

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    I'd imagine for much the same reason men are "obsessed" with fucking the bartender.
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    Maybe it's because they seem a bit harder to get than the other guys at the bar... If they're not cute though, I don't really get it.
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    ^ confidence is sexy. I guess.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    I'd imagine for much the same reason men are "obsessed" with fucking the bartender.
    [quote=xGigi;]they make good money? I don't know. I never though people were "obsessed". girls don't exactly flock to the dj at my club and he's ok looking.

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    Yeah, I was obessed - with kicking his ass. Jerk outed me, to everyone at 'reg.' job. Nice, whatever.
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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    I heard about this too! Someone said it was because they actually announced them properly ooh and they usually played the songs they wanted without drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    I heard about this too! Someone said it was because they actually announced them properly ooh and they usually played the songs they wanted without drama.
    Isn't that their job, though, lol?^


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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiebelle View Post
    Maybe it's because they seem a bit harder to get than the other guys at the bar... If they're not cute though, I don't really get it.
    I think it's this. bartenders and djs are always talking to people and you have to fight for attention. I think it's a typical case of "wanting what you can't have"

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    Their jobs seem "cool." They're like the laid-back, bad boys of the professional world. Plus, what Gigi said - everyone wants to talk to them, so if you "land" them, you're cool cuz you had to fight for it. Plus... if you're dating the bartender, you get free drinks

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    ^^^ I like your theory A_S, but thanks to the other posters. When I posted this thread I was thinking more "regular bar" than "strip bar."

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    Yeah, I would say the social aspect of it & the DJ is the party at the club.

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    It's all a form of being on stage and hustling. Behind the bar I'm fun, flirty and always having a good time. It's how we all make our money. Obviously that attitude of in control and fun is going to be attractive.
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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    I dated one strip club DJ and he turned out to be an ass and a pimp. Outside of that I've never dated either a club (any club)DJ or a bartender. What would be the purpose?

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    I'd imagine for much the same reason men are "obsessed" with fucking the bartender.
    Only if she's hot. Girls will hang on a bartender or DJ if he looks like Ron Jeremy.

    OP...I don't get this either. Maybe it's because he's in a pseudo-power position in their minds...ie he's behind the bar/booth, he's visible, people all want him for something, whatever...but I don't get it either.

    I will add this...this is something where men and women are different, and this subject illustrates it. If the woman behind the bar was Sandra Bernhard's ugly cousin, no guy would want to touch it...but girls? They like guys that they have to compete to get, and as I said above, I guess some women see this type of guy as something that other women want. He's safe...you know where he works, you know he has a job...and he is in demand by others for his services (at least on the spot), and works in a place that *she* thinks is cool. He's not some random guy in a bar that the girl knows is probably only scamming on to bang (reality...he's scamming too, but that's ok...he's "safe").

    OTOH, a guy could see a chick with a huge rack sitting in a corner drinking by herself, looking bored as hell, and as long as she's at least a 5-6 facewise....GAME ON!

    Not saying one is better or worse than the other...that's just the way the sexes work.

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    ^^^ You are so right Mr. Hyde. I think it's definitely more of a "standard bar" scene. There is an upscale bar I go to near Minneapolis and some of the women that go there (a lot in the 8 to 9 range on looks) hang on their bartender's every word.

    And JayATee, if you tend bar for me I'll keep my thoughts pure.

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    I'm obsessed with lawyers and bankers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    Only if she's hot. Girls will hang on a bartender or DJ if he looks like Ron Jeremy.

    OP...I don't get this either. Maybe it's because he's in a pseudo-power position in their minds...ie he's behind the bar/booth, he's visible, people all want him for something, whatever...but I don't get it either.

    I will add this...this is something where men and women are different, and this subject illustrates it. If the woman behind the bar was Sandra Bernhard's ugly cousin, no guy would want to touch it...but girls? They like guys that they have to compete to get, and as I said above, I guess some women see this type of guy as something that other women want. He's safe...you know where he works, you know he has a job...and he is in demand by others for his services (at least on the spot), and works in a place that *she* thinks is cool. He's not some random guy in a bar that the girl knows is probably only scamming on to bang (reality...he's scamming too, but that's ok...he's "safe").

    OTOH, a guy could see a chick with a huge rack sitting in a corner drinking by herself, looking bored as hell, and as long as she's at least a 5-6 facewise....GAME ON!

    Not saying one is better or worse than the other...that's just the way the sexes work.
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    ^^^ You are so right Mr. Hyde. I think it's definitely more of a "standard bar" scene. There is an upscale bar I go to near Minneapolis and some of the women that go there (a lot in the 8 to 9 range on looks) hang on their bartender's every word.

    And JayATee, if you tend bar for me I'll keep my thoughts pure.
    Let me add one thing...this thing that chicks have for bartenders/DJs is DEFINITELY a youth thing...women that are older than about 28 and/or that make decent money themselves, or have career jobs, etc...this phenomenon is much less prevalent.

    In other words, you'll see this scene played out at bars where there are lots chicks under 25...but go to a bar where the clientele is women 30 and above...not so much.

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    Default Re: Why are some women obsessed with bartenders and DJs?

    Vyanka - What about engineers/computer programmers?

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    I've met Ron Jeremy and he seems cool, but would never date him. I don't find bartenders attractive at all and I prefer professional men. If a guy is still bartending at my age (unless it's a part time job while he works a career)then he's not someone I would have much in common with.

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    Fuck no. I have excellent taste in men. I don't know any woman who finds that wild beast attractive.
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    Vyanka - What about engineers/computer programmers?


    Too

    BTW, Mr. Hyde is right about the age thing. For me personally, even at a young age(teens/early 20's) I never went for that type of guy.

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    I saw Mr Hyde posted as I did and I agree with him. It definitely is an age thing. I would never date a man at my age without a career unless he's unemployed due to the economy (which is happening a lot). I just turned down a guy who is a career KFC cook who has never held a better job and he is 50!

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