Hi. WARNING this will be long....
SO I know there is alot of posts about Bfs, husbands, and the industry. But I really need to vent and see if anyone can relate to this.....
I currently bartend in a strip club. Its a small club, only one bartender on duty... only like 3-8 girls on at a time. I like bartending there, I make good money. Just as much, and many time more, then the dancers. BUT I have to work a 12 hour shift and I have alot of responsibilities (the bartender is the manager during the shift). Well I, I had to cut back my hours bc of my BFs job (bf, fiance, husband...whatever you wanna call him. We own a home together, we have kids, we live a "married life".) I also am in school and had to cut back my hours bc of this. I NEED MONEY. BAD. To pay my tution, day care for kids, bills, my wants and needs. My boyfriend pays the mortgage, utilities, but I pay for the food to feed our family of 5, gas, household items etc....My boyfriend never gives me money form myself. SO its up to me to make it.
Well I have been considering dancing at my bar, bc I will be able to go in late at night, work a few hours, and walk out with the same I make bartending. I plan to keep bartending there too on the weekends. But 2 week nights I want to dance so I can make some extra cash I deperately need. I think I would make good money, I CONSTANTLY get told I am the hottest thing in there...I CONSTANTLY get asked to give dances, etc. My manager says he is totally ok with me bartending and dancing, and wants me to start immediately.
Now heres the problem. My BF says hell no. HOWEVER...his last fucking girlfriend was a stripper!! And to add to that, before he met me, he constantly hung out in strip clubs. His good friends owned one, so he practlically lived there. He also messed around with tons of dancers...Also, he looks at porn, and naked girls online all the time sneakily behind my back, despite me not being ok with things like that.
Why was it ok for his last girlfriends to be dancers, was why it ok for him to frequent strip clubs, and me not be able to be a dancer?? Why is it ok for him to look at naked girls, but not for me to be naked for other men? At least I am getting PAID for it! His only response is that "he loves me, and doesnt want me to do that".... well My response is that until he starts paying ALL my bills, he cant tell me how I can and cant earn my money.
Anyone else deal with something like this??



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And I don't mean this to be harsh but your man does not seem to possess the enlightened outlook men need to deal with our lifestyle.



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