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    Dizzy How to Prevent STD in this Industry??

    Lately I've been reading a lot of sites and forums regarding STD and was shocked on how rampant it has become. I have even been thinking of giving up sex unless it's with a monogamous partner only. Imagine this.. You can get Herpes HSV-1 through kissing, sucking/licking nipples..... Not too mention gonnorhea, HIV, chlamydia through oral sex... Guys lick/suck nipples that's a fact especially as dancers sometimes we encounter that request, which fortunately I never allow. But.. Eeeeeeeewwwww What are the steps you are doing to protect yourself? I just begin a sugar daddy relation and yes sex will be involved in the future but now..I really think I'm about to back off. you know how guys are...they always think that kissing and making out is safe. It is NOT anymore.

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    ooooooooooooh dear.
    majority of us on here are clean dancers, which means we dont have to worry about directly catching anything while we work because there is no physical/sexual between us and the custys apart from lapdances.

    so wait a second, you say you dont allow guys licking/sucking your nipples but you're prepared to sleep with a sugar daddy? ? ? ?? ? ?? ? ?? ? ??

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    anouk-- i'm thinking about it because I need the cash..but seriously all this is news about STD is making me scared. Really am.

    My SD will travel to Eastern Europe soon (Bulgary) and I am NOT SURE whether he will stay loyal to me or not..since he's very fond of Eastern European women. Long ago he told me if he had a chance he would try some girls there...

    We just discussed periodic allowance few days ago and he insisted to give me a monthly amount which is good and in return he expected sex once a month from me....it's good money considering the frequency of sex is only once a month though.

    I'm just rethinking the whole thing. He wanted long term arrangement. Me too. But, he travels. I just want to be safe.

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    have you ever had a SD relationship before? how much is the monthly allowance hes offering?
    theres heaps of very helpful SD resources i dont know if youve seen them, the general consensus states most SD's are looking for a budget hooker and are in denial about it and rip the girls off big time.

    if you need the money you can
    1. dance
    2. escort. then you can do all the proper screenings, demand bigger money and have it on your terms and be paid when you want, not vaguely per month on his terms. im not experienced at all in the escorting area so you may wanna post this is the 'other work' thread and have escorts and experienced sugar babies help you out.

    honeslty, if youre down with sleeping with a man for money just go and escort. most girls who had SD's who slept with them or have not said its a mindfuck, draining and annoying.
    you can still see the one client long term [regular] with escorting and you will be safer in terms of std's. with screening. i guess.

    like i said, ask in the other work section.
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    Default Re: How to Prevent STD in this Industry??

    Quote Originally Posted by anouk.oui View Post
    have you ever had a SD relationship before? how much is the monthly allowance hes offering?
    theres heaps of very helpful SD resources i dont know if youve seen them, the general consensus states most SD's are looking for a budget hooker and are in denial about it and rip the girls off big time.

    if you need the money you can
    1. dance
    2. escort. then you can do all the proper screenings, demand bigger money and have it on your terms and be paid when you want, not vaguely per month on his terms. im not experienced at all in the escorting area so you may wanna post this is the 'other work' thread and have escorts and experienced sugar babies help you out.

    honeslty, if youre down with sleeping with a man for money just go and escort. most girls who had SD's who slept with them or have not said its a mindfuck, draining and annoying.
    you can still see the one client long term [regular] with escorting and you will be safer in terms of std's. with screening. i guess.

    like i said, ask in the other work section.
    I would agree with this 100%. As someone who has had sugaraddies but never had sex with them, and who has never been an escort, if you're going to hook up with a sugardaddy, you'd be better off just being an escort, moneywise. The SD requires so much time, energy, and nurturing that it just isn't worth it.

    If you throw sex in the mix, he will kind of have already got what he wanted, right? And he's likely to either drop you completely, or expect even more time and attention for the same amount of $$. They are just EXHAUSTING! And they want your attention RIGHT when they want it, and will throw a fit when they don't get it. I would look at him like a walking wallet, and drag out the time before you have sex with them if you are planning to. Otherwise, just escort.

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    Default Re: How to Prevent STD in this Industry??

    A third vote for escorting...

    For all the same reasons above listed.

    And I know it may seem counter-productive to your fear of STD's but its not. A sugardaddy wants and expects things on his terms, cause hes the one providing and taking care of you. As an escort, its your business, your terms, your rules. If you want to make them all take a shower beforehand, you can. If you want covered for everything, you can. If you want rules on how you can be touched, what he can and cant do...you can.

    Also, Ive found something to be true that I figured all along, many of these guys are married and do not want to bring anything home...so they are very careful and appreciate it in return..unlike an SD who travels and may or may not get kicks from places and women unknown. At least with a guy who sees escorts, he is seeing women who have a business to run and a commodity to protect, who will not take chances with him as a client.

    Ive said it before elsewhere on here...I feel better about a guy who sees escorts and are professionals, than one who picks up women in bars, who may well be sleeping with other guys they just hook up with in bars...that to me is whats scary!

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    Thing is, STDs are as freely available to usual girls who aren't very careful, as to escorts or those who have sugar daddies. It scares the hell outta me

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    Uhhh check your partner? Getting herpies on your nipple is so freaking rare. Actually without actual intercourse getting an STD isn't a huge risk factor. Honestly I have seen more girls who are in relationships get std's.

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    I'm a clean dancer, no kissing, sucking, fucking, whatever. In my mind, if it involves a bodily fluid of any sort, it's over my boundary. (Not judging, these are simply MY boundaries)
    That being said, I've been vaccinated for 2 different kinds of Hepatitis. Hep A, simply because the vaccine is available, I currently have insurance, and it's recommended for travel.
    Hep B, because the vaccine is available and it's pretty contagious. I work in a bar. In the French Quarter. I can't count the number of bar fights, busted bottles, bloody noses I've seen. That would be the case even if I wasn't a stripper.
    Hepatitis is considered an STD, but I think that since the vaccines are available, that anyone working in a bar would be wise to get it. The vaccine is good for life and it consists of a series of 2/3 shots, spaced a month apart. I had no ill side effects.
    As far as the other STDs out there, my biggest worry has been my POS slutbiscuit exhusband, not my job.
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    You probably already have herpes hsv-1. 90% likely actually....

    You shouldnt need to worry about stds if you are a clean dancer. The sugar daddy thing is a whole new can of worms...
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    wait, so I'm curious-- you aren't planning on going condom-less with your SD right?
    Because you can still get STDs with a condom but yeah....that'd be an automatic veto if it was bareback.

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    Reading this thread makes me so glad I don't do those things. A lot of these guys are older and "have nothing to lose" and some of them don't even care if they have/get an STD.

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    The thread title kind of bugs me. STDs aren't limited to people in this industry.

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    So, what if you AREN'T a clean dancer?

    I've been wondering about this lately. How do the extras girls protect themselves? Do they bring in condoms if they are giving guys a HJ/BJ? Or what if they are letting guys lick their kitty? Just let the guys do it, no protection?

    I'm honestly just curious. I am not a dirty dancer, I'm just wondering...
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    Quote Originally Posted by papillonluvr View Post
    So, what if you AREN'T a clean dancer?

    I've been wondering about this lately. How do the extras girls protect themselves? Do they bring in condoms if they are giving guys a HJ/BJ? Or what if they are letting guys lick their kitty? Just let the guys do it, no protection?

    I'm honestly just curious. I am not a dirty dancer, I'm just wondering...
    I've found condom wrappers/used condoms in the private rooms after closing. We're a pretty clean club with cameras in the rooms and everything so honestly it was surprising, but at least someone is being smart(er) about it I guess.
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    I want to ROFL without judging anyone. Can I do that?

    A man who pays for sex is not going to be loyal to you. You are a possession...something that he is paying for. Do you refuse to watch tv at a restaurant just because you have one at home that you paid for.

    As for the STDs...as long as I've been in the biz the only infection that anyone every caught without doing extras was staph. I know things are different now, but either way you should always protect yourself, whether it's for money or in a serious relationship.

    Papillonlover - I sell clothes at a club that is known for prostitution. They have condoms in the side tables and the door to the VIP used to lock from the inside until the "paid off" police sheriff decided that was too much and made them change it. I know for a fact that $50 will get you BJ, $100 will get you all the way, and a little more will get you bareback. It's a shame what a girl will do for such a small amount of money.

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    If you do have sex with him, insist that he use a condom. If you can afford it, and if it's available where you are, I suggest you get the HPV vaccine.

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    Seriously? Bareback in a strip club? That's just gross....
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    The best way to avoid STDs is very simple; do not do extras nor have sex with customers.





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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    The best way to avoid STDs is very simple; do not do extras nor have sex with customers.
    Totally. My thoughts exactly.
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    I'd be most worried about getting a cold or flu from some a guy who licks my face against my will, which happens once in a while. I don't think you're going to get anything from a nipple lick unless you had a cut.

    1. Never exchange bodily fluids with someone you don't trust. 2. Don't trust anyone. Just remember that ANYONE can have HIV, even if he or she is attractive, rich, and educated.

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    STD's are very common and many of us have one or more, even from being clean dancers. I had HPV, which I was lucky to have been removed. I have always been a very clean dancer, even at parties and yet I got this. How did it happen? I'll never know but I did do one hardcore movie (with condom and spermicide)but likely got it from a former boyfriend. After I did the movie I was so freaked out about getting a disease that I had myself tested for other diseases like AIDS and nothing else was discovered. I was diagnosed with HPV years later. HPV btw is very common and something like 80% of all women eventually get it. This scare has made me celibate for years. My health is not worth a lose because of sex.

    Personally, in this environment I would not sleep around. I don't understand all these people who do sleep with many partners, and I'm not talking in the sex industry. Rather, I'm talking average people dating and how many sleep with them so early on. Why they aren't afraid I don't know. I will not sleep with a guy until we are exclusive, nor will I even date someone who just sleeps around. If he doesn't want to wait he's not into me.

    These women who do bareback are taking a huge risk.

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    No amount of money is worth your health.

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    Kristalyne you'd definitely benefit from some more education:
    • HPV on your nipple is incredibly, incredibly rare.
    • Chlamydia and gonorrhea are things to be avoid for sure, but they're simple bacteria infections and 1-4 pill, 1 day fix. I'm not saying go looking for it, but be aware its a pretty straight-forward solution.
    • There are 0 documented cases of HIV transmission via oral sex, but its still recommended you avoid it with a cut in your or your partner's mouth.
    • You may also want to think about: staph, mono, plantar warts, colds, etc as physical health risks involved in a contact-related sex industry.


    Fear mongering is both ignorant and dangerous, do your research and do not buy into it.


    For everyone else, 10000% NO THE OP BECOMING AN ESCORT!
    Yes, she'd make more than as an SB or dancer but, without discussing concepts like "safer sex" and having a thorough knowledge base about STIs, I would prefer not to work in the same industry.

    Kristalyne, maybe try camming?
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    Quote Originally Posted by beckatron View Post
    Kristalyne you'd definitely benefit from some more education:
    • You may also want to think about: staph, mono, plantar warts, colds, etc as physical health risks involved in a contact-related sex industry.


    Fear mongering is both ignorant and dangerous, do your research and do not buy into it.


    For everyone else, 10000% NO THE OP BECOMING AN ESCORT!
    Yes, she'd make more than as an SB or dancer but, without discussing concepts like "safer sex" and having a thorough knowledge base about STIs, I would prefer not to work in the same industry.

    Kristalyne, maybe try camming?
    Definitely on the colds! That's the one thing I hate about touring... I almost always end up coming back with a cold.

    It is very possible to be nonmonogamous and STI-free (with the possible exception of HSV-1 since it's absurdly common). Safer sex works, testing works, negotiation works. That said, it's important to do your research and then figure out your own realistic risk tolerances. Some of my sex partners use barriers for every kind of sexual contact involving fluids (gloves, dams, condoms, etc.), some only require them for some types of penetration, etc. Most people will accept and adapt to your safer sex protocols, especially if you're confident and matter-of-fact about them.

    Kristalyne, if you're not sure about having those conversations yet I'd definitely recommend holding out on escorting and even moreso on sugar daddy-ing until you've got a pretty good feel for your own boundaries. Sugar daddies especially will try to push them, since many of them are trying to get as much for as little as they can it seems.

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