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    My girlfriend( and mother of our 4 year old), used to dance. She
    stopped for a while, but wants to return to it. She accepted a gig at a bachelor party, just her and two other girls. So I decided to go, as "security" because she said it makes her feel safer. So I agreed. It was a disaster, and ended with me almost getting beat up. She made a decent amount of money that night, and wants to book another one, but she asked me not to go
    this time because she's hired a "friend"(whom she used to date). Well
    he's a bouncer. It makes be feel shitty to know she no longer wants me to go.


    Should I just accept these terms? Or argue that I should go? Maybe I could go too?

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    Im not a stripper but anytime a man is involved w the girls job it turns out to be a bad deal. Unless of course ur a cpl camming together..but thts a whole nother subject. I think she shouldn't have asked someone she previously dated to be there even if he is a bouncer. But if you are only wanting to go bc you don't trust her then u have bigger problems.

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    No, I want to go because I want to protect her, if need be. But she doesn't think I can , I think that why she hired her friend, because he's really big and a bouncer. I just don't like that he gets to look out for her.

    When I went some big black dude was spanking her ass while she was dancing, so I said stop, then he got in my face and she had to beg him
    to back off. It looked really bad for me I guess.

    I trust her, that's not the problem. I just feel shitty

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    Well you need to be up front and honest w/ her and how you feel about it all. If she still wants to go w/out you...see if you can compromise some how. Like maybe she can find a different guy (not once dated) to come w/ her to protect her. Im not trying to be rude but there isn't any reason for you to go if you REALLY can't protect her. You said last time you almost got your ass beat. It's really sweet that you tried but u need to leave that to a real bouncer. Anyways, hopefully she cares about you enough to consider your feelings. =)

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    Thats a tough spot your in...you have to remember she is doing this because she needs too not because she wants too. If you have a problem with her doing this, find another one. As far as you going to protect her thats a bad idea. I agree that she should have tried to find someone she hasn't fucked to protect her or atleast not told you because that can't be good for your head. You need to talk to her & be real about how you feel. Your feelings are valid.

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    It's sweet that you want to be the one to protect her, but if you almost got beat up, maybe that's just not realistic. It's always bad to mix family and work. Try not to take it personally - it's just business. She needs someone who can handle those situations and it turns out that you couldn't when you tried. Wouldn't you rather she be completely safe in the hands of a professional bouncer without you ending up in the hospital than you possibly getting annihilated and her having no one left to protect her after you failed?

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    if the other dude is bigger and is actually a bouncer, then it's a good idea that she hired him.

    this is about her SAFETY, not your insecurities

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    She needs a bouncer.......you are not a bouncer.......she hired a bouncer.

    You say you trust her. Should be no problem.

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    You shouldn't go at all. You're going to overreact every time some guy touches her and you're going to get yourself into fights and confrontations. She probably already knows how to handle grabby customers and can diffuse these situations herself. By you being there you're actually putting her in more danger. Let the bouncer/ex-boyfriend take her. That's his job and he'll do a good job of protecting her.

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    dont take it personal. its better when there is a guy present especially if he worked as a bouncer. three girls going as security kinda looks like a joke- its safer with him around. its strictly business, notthing personal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julythrunov View Post
    No, I want to go because I want to protect her, if need be. But she doesn't think I can , I think that why she hired her friend, because he's really big and a bouncer. I just don't like that he gets to look out for her.

    When I went some big black dude was spanking her ass while she was dancing, so I said stop, then he got in my face and she had to beg him
    to back off. It looked really bad for me I guess.

    I trust her, that's not the problem. I just feel shitty
    well maybe this is why she doesnt want you to go. i understand why you were upset but what you did was very unprofessional. work is work, do not get involved. with things like this, you take her to the side and talk about whats bothering you instead of getting in a customers face. what you did was not cool in my book. she let the guys slap her ass and thats for you and her to discuss, not him. this is bad business.

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