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    OK... I had this customer and he came to the club on Monday night and spent a decent amount of $$$ on me and even bought a private dance/show later. Gr8, it made my nite.... He wanted to buy another hour and I said no.... dumb me, I know... I wuz too tired and I felt bad taking so much $$$ from him at once...--- yeahhh I know.... I learned my lesson on that one..

    Tuesday, I txt him, and said I would be at the club, and later on he showed up...and WOULD NOT spend a bloody dime on me....not even tipped me on stage.. he said he wuz taking easy everytime I went to talk to him.... BUT bought dances from 3 different girls, one of them banked on him --- gud for her ----and nothing from me...

    I wuz trying not to get annoyed, but finally I couldn't help it... I found very disrespecful... why lie? "I spent too much money on you last night, and gotta take it easy...""" Really???? But, this song and dance didn't apply to the other girls.

    Anyhow, I know I don't own him or anything, but we had a good connection, and fun the night before... he even told me he has a crush on me,,,, wanna be my boyfriend, so I don't understand his behavior....

    I guess any insight on how I should handle him nxt time I seen him at the club would be much appreciated .... Maybe, he felt I ripped him off during the private dance? Actually I did not do that, and even stopped him from spending more $$$, so he could spend on someone else next day lol

    Thank you ladies!!!
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    I've had this happen to me before. They like the power that they have over you and the fact that you are like "take me take me!" The way that I deal with it is by going over and asking if they want to go with me and if they say no just walking away and not talking to them again or giving them any attention. You made the money from him and giving into the game just feeds his weird mind game fantasy thing of girls "needing him". I have also made money by ignoring those guys. Eventually they come up to me and say "let's go!" if they have any intention of taking me again.

    never turn down an opportunity to make more money again though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by luscious sadie View Post
    I've had this happen to me before. They like the power that they have over you and the fact that you are like "take me take me!" The way that I deal with it is by going over and asking if they want to go with me and if they say no just walking away and not talking to them again or giving them any attention. You made the money from him and giving into the game just feeds his weird mind game fantasy thing of girls "needing him". I have also made money by ignoring those guys. Eventually they come up to me and say "let's go!" if they have any intention of taking me again.

    never turn down an opportunity to make more money again though.
    Thank you so much luscioussadie... that was exactly what I did, ignored him after approaching him a couple of times, but then, EVERY TIME a customer would take me in the lapdance area, he would would do the same with a different girl... The night before he was like... " want you to be my gf etc..., then that shit?!?!? whatevahhh ....

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    he's just being a baby and wants your attention more. What a fucking loser.
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    Default Re: Customer playing games

    He's definitely just trying to get into your head. Don't let him get to you or HE WINS. And you have to win. You're the stripper, and the stripper always wins.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DDaisy View Post
    He's definitely just trying to get into your head. Don't let him get to you or HE WINS. And you have to win. You're the stripper, and the stripper always wins.

    Thank you, DDaisy!

    You are right! I guess when you treat your customers as human beings, some of them distorte/ take advantage thinking you are weak.

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    Default Re: Customer playing games

    He doesn't like you any more because you turned down his generosity.

    It's not a game. He's just not into you any more.

    Lesson learned.

    Men go to strip clubs because they want to meet women that are different than women outside of the clubs.

    Regular women want to split the check, don't want to seem like gold diggers, and don't need anything from a man.

    Guys hate that shit.

    Next time a customer in a club wants to give you money don't turn it down!




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    OMG Stripper Hacks..thanks for the post. I really learn a lot! I was facing the same/similar situation with the OP..!
    It was with my customer turned Sugar Daddy..basically I turned down his shopping offer to buy me a bag, after he already bought so many things at the mall for me and both our hands are full with bags.
    He was asking "Do you want that bag?" and I said "But you already bought so many things! I don't want you to go bankrupt" Then he said, "It's okay we can buy it next time.." But next time never happened!!

    Then my Gigolo friend (he's a male escort) told me the exact same thing you said, Stripper Hacks. He said "Men LOVE to be manipulated, never take NO for an answer"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    He doesn't like you any more because you turned down his generosity.
    Definite possibility.
    Men come to the strip club for fantasty/fun/to enjoy the company of women. Not to get turned down by 'some stripper' when he's got a wallet full of cash. That's a HUGE buzzkill for guys and can really turn them off a dancer.

    Absolutely seems like he's just fucking with you now. Best to cut your losses, learn your lesson and move on.
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    Customers play US just like we play them. I've been doing this forever and some of these guys are lifer customers too. Like one night they give you alot of money and the next they ignore you. I had guys who loved me at one club and when I moved across the street to another club they never danced with me again. Don't try to figure them out( they're customers) and sometimes tell us the same shit we tell them. Move onto the next!

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    He wants you to "chase" him. Fuck that.

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    Default Re: Customer playing games

    I don't think the psychology behind whatever he is thinking/doing is relevant, either way he is clearly uninterested for now. If he becomes re-interested he will let you know one way or another.

    In the future don't turn down a sale even if you are tired, unless the customer is someone you are uncomfortable dancing for altogether (i.e. drunk, too young, forceful, degrading, cheap, grabby).
    If you are willing to do for one year what other's won't, you can spend a lifetime doing what other's cant.


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