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    Duh Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    Ok so last time I worked I had one of my boyfriends coworkers come in. I didnt know that he worked with my boyfriend until after the fact. He came in tipped me onstage and said he wanted some dances after I got off. He looked pretty familiar but I just assumed that I had seen him in the club before. I went and danced for him and he spent a pretty decent amount ($300) and asked about a VIP. I dont go to the VIP rooms so I turned him down. I asked him during the dances why he looked so familiar. I even asked him if he knew my boyfriend. He said no.

    Anyway, after the dances I went outside to smoke and he pointed out my car. I asked how he recognized my car and he changed the story and said he saw me come see my boyfriend at work. I told him not to mention me dancing for him and he said he wouldnt. After thinking about it though I decided to tell my boyfriend anyway which in hindsight I think I should have just kept quit about it. I told him because I thought maybe he was sending people in to check on me.

    His coworkers and friends know I dance because he would bring them in when he would come see me. He just never brought this particular guy before.

    Now he is freaking out because he thinks all the guys that work with him are laughing behind his back and trying to get with me. He says that he will walk into the room when they are talking and everyone will go quiet. He isnt sure he can deal with me dancing anymore. He was furious and hurt when I told him.

    I have no idea what I can do to make him feel better and let him know that Im only for him and that its just a job. Im not going to quit dancing for at least another year because I pay most of the bills. Im not really open to finding a new club to dance at just because I have established so many regulars at my club and rely on them. I hardly ever go up to tables unless Im asked for a dance.

    Any advice on how to make him feel any better? Id like to get guys perspectives on this as well.

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    Default Re: Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    Tell your boyfriend to stop being a fucking baby. I would be pissed off if my boyfriend was acting like this. Who cares if his co-workers are talking about him/you. I had catty co-workers at my last job, and I didn't give a shit if they talked about me. They weren't my friends.

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    I'm not gonna say anything you want to hear hon. Your bf is not only being paranoid he's being an idiot on top of it. You shouldn't have to let him know you're only for him. He should know it. He shouldn't care what his co-workers think. It shouldn't matter. Not to mention that of course they're gonna go and see you if he himself has brought them there to see you. Why is this suddenly a problem? Bc this dude came in alone? If your bf had such a problem he had business to keep his mouth shut about what you did in the first place. He has no right to suddenly start demanding you quit now. Tell him to grow a pair.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    Tell your boyfriend to stop being a fucking baby. I would be pissed off if my boyfriend was acting like this. Who cares if his co-workers are talking about him/you. I had catty co-workers at my last job, and I didn't give a shit if they talked about me. They weren't my friends.
    not only this and what JayATee said about growing a pair but the guy spent 300$ on you. Who gives a shit if they are laughing? You two should be laughing at how much money he dropped on you just so him and a few other guys from work could laugh at you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancingDaisy View Post
    His coworkers and friends know I dance because he would bring them in when he would come see me.
    So... it's okay for his coworkers to come see you naked when they're with him... but not on their own?

    He's completely overreacting. Tell him he needs to stop worry about what other people are talking about since most of them probably already knew you were a stripper anyway.
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    Default Re: Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    He's handling it all wrong. He needs to be like "You spent 300 bucks to get a dance with someone I get to fuck every night. Jealous? Oh and thanks for paying our cable bill, suuuucker."

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    Default Re: Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    I can see him being upset about it for like a night ... but after that he's gotta grow up!
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    Default Re: Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    That he seems to be overreacting and is so hurt by this makes me wonder what else is going on. Maybe the deeper issue/question is why does he feel so insecure with your relationship?

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    Default Re: Didnt know I was dancing for boyfriends coworker...

    This seems silly to me. I agree that it's weird that he would be fine with his friends seeing you while he's with them, but wouldn't be ok with them seeing you while he's not there. My bf used to bring friends into the club to see me and was fine with it. But if I would tell him that one of his friends had been in the club while he wasn't there, his only response was "oh really?" Then again, his friends never got dances with me... so I can see how that would be different.

    But if he should be mad at anyone, it should be his friend who went in to see and spend money on his gf without telling him.... or you. He even lied to you when you asked if you knew him. I mean, really? Who's the real jerk here? I understand him being upset, but his anger is misdirected.

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    LOL...love this!


    Quote Originally Posted by Arianna419 View Post
    He's handling it all wrong. He needs to be like "You spent 300 bucks to get a dance with someone I get to fuck every night. Jealous? Oh and thanks for paying our cable bill, suuuucker."

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