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    Dizzy At home and need advice

    Ok heres my story. Im 21 years old and danced for a few months. I moved out my parents house for a short while but had to move back in. Heres the problem-my family highly suspects I was dancing, escorting or working in porn. Now that im living with them again, there always suspicious and worried about what im doing. I stopped dancing for a while but I MISS IT ALOT. I miss the independence that came with it, dressing up, the music etc. So I figured ok il go back to it and save my money, get my own place and I wont have to deal with my family anymore. Im sticking to that plan but Im always stressed and anxious that they will find out. They are very strict and conservative and already suspect Im doing something (even though I haveant for a while). Has anyone else been in this situation and how do you deal with it? Where did you say you were working?
    And also, how do you know when its time to switch clubs? The last club I danced at, I worked dayshift and was lucky to make 200 a shift. (This was a small club with $5 dances during the day. Are clubs like this even worth it??) I was thinking of doing private parties too. Basically I want to make as much as I can so I can leave. Ive never been on my own before and I feel like I need this so I can figure out what else to do with my life. Sigh. Ok thats the end of my rant.

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    If you're living under their roof and they have an issue with your dancing, then it's not really fair for you to go behind their backs and do it anyway. You may get away with it for a while, but it'll inevitably come out, especially if they're already suspicious - and I can pretty much guarantee that the shitstorm will be bigger because you hid it, than if you were to just come clean from the get-go. How do you think they would react to a mature conversation where you explain the benefits of it and try to dispel any misconceptions they may have that make it such an undesirable option? Or, is there any chance you can get a loan or help from your parents to move out to your own place so you can be fully independent and THEN go back to dancing?

    If you're really set on doing it behind their backs, you need to have an airtight story. The most common cover story is working at a bar/lounge/restaurant since that helps explain the late hours, make up, not answering your phone/texts, big tips, and the bag you carry with you. Find an exclusive/VIP/even gay bar to deter them from checking up on you and use it as your cover place. People tend to talk about their jobs, so make up customer interactions (extrapolate from club interactions!), know menus/drinks, etc. If you don't mind working only day shifts, it'll be a bit easier to cover for yourself since a plethora of other jobs are possible cover stories (call centre/assembly line are good, pretty well anywhere they can't visit you), and people don't seem as suspicious over working during the day.

    Also, come up with an explanation for why you suddenly have enough money to move out while working at a bar/call centre/wherever. Sure these places pay well, but not THAT well. Might be smart to bide your time and save up more than you need so you move out around a time that makes sense for you having a "straight" job.

    It's time to switch clubs when you find yourself stagnating and not wanting to go into work, or when the money just isn't there anymore. This varies so much by area, so it's impossible for me to answer for you. Sounds like you don't really want to go back to your old club (with $5 dances I certainly don't blame you!), so why not start fresh at a new one?

    Best of luck with whatever you decide to do!

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    Thank you for your advice. You made a lot of good points. I guess I need to decide if I can wait a while before going back to the club. Its hard dealing with my family though and I was alot happier the short time I was gone. I was thinking about looking for a regular job regardless if I dance or not. So I can at least have a source of income and I wont have to lie as much. Im not sure if they would give me a loan but I know having a conversation is out of the question. They pretty much think its degrading and the worst thing a woman can do. Im not sure how I ended up with such different views as them but its makes it hard living under their roof.

    Oh and your right Im not really excited about going to the club I was at before. Its more of a dive bar and it has some pretty bad reviews. A lot of the custies there seemed to expect more than just dancing. I want to try a more upscale club. I could use a change.

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    Maybe you could get a part-time regular job like you had planned and then dance very sporadically? Like one Friday/Saturday night here and there, or whatever happens to be a good money shift where you are. You won't have to worry about an elaborate lie with a fake job, you can just say you're going out with a friend if it's only once a week or even once every two weeks. You may not make as much money, but it'll still be a substantial amount that will be very helpful in speeding up the moving out process, and you won't have to deal with the guilt and constant suspicion of dancing regularly.

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