



To get the thread back on track...
I don't regret it at all!
I regret not getting into it sooner!![]()


I currently escort and travel but I do it as I want since I have been stripping/escorting for years. I have built a clientèle that will allow me to travel as i escort. Do I regret it? No. But I can do it as I want.
I love working as a VIP Hostess more in higher class Gentleman's clubs. I love attention... so what can I say. I have worked in many states and have made friends with many owners/managers so I can come back and work.



I only tried it for a summer. It definitely wasn't for me. I don't regret trying it, but I do wish I hadn't tried so hard to push myself. A very valuable life experience, even if I only ended up seeing 2 guys. The money was AWESOME, but overall it wasn't worth what I was giving up to make it.



So escorting just came on to my radar on Wednesday; a guy came into my club, he told me he runs an escort business, and today we met and had a meeting. I'm seriously considering doing this, so I was hoping you could elaborate on what exactly makes you regret escorting.
Fiona, "this guy" already met you. It isn't like that when you get hired at an agency. Don't be "that girl" and do something silly. Amanda Brook's has written a few escorting for dummies books. Invest the forty dollars and do yourself a favor. I am thinking this guy just hung out with you for free. Where is his website? Are his girls reviewed? ANY presence on the internet? I think you either got fooled or are about to be pimped.



I'll look into the book. I met with him twice, at his apartment, and we chatted for a long time. After last nights meeting with him, that's the word that came into my head...PIMPED out. He basically explained 2 different situations to me... a) I'd call him and he'd just send me to clients and then "Green Dot" his 50% after each meeting or b) he'd get me the best clientele, but I'd give him ALL the money and he'd take care of all my bills for me. I told him that there was NO WAY IN HELL he'd get to hang on to my money that I earn (which he came back with...there's no "me" in this business). I've been a dancer for a long time, so I only think of money in terms of ME. I told him I'd go with option a and then couldn't sleep last night because I couldn't get the prostitute being pimped out, out of my head.
And yeah I have no idea what exactly escorting involves. Is "escort" a cleaner term for "prostitute"? Before I met this guy I thought that escorting was a companionship thing...but yeah I don't know. I only lost my virginity a year ago (at 21 years old...and yes, I was a virgin the first 2 years that I was stripping) and I don't want sex to lose it's "specialness" so quickly, you know? I don't want to forget that most people have an emotional attachment with the person they're having sex with only a year after losing it.
I should probably just start a new thread, sorry to hijack. I did a forum search but didn't really get any answers out of the posts I found.




Definitely DON'T do it if you simply feel that way about it. I'm in the same boat (been with my SO for 4 years and before him I had sex only ONCE!)
I was thinking about escorting but I really don't want to lose what ever "innocence" I have left. Even though the money sounds sooooooo good, I still can't take it with me when I leave.
Always listen to your gut feeling.
And about the guy? NEVER talk to him ever again.
Research if anything, if you're still interest in escorting.
Goodluck.
-LX
"Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."
That's a pimp, by definition. Get the fuck away from that guy!
A real escort agency owner wouldn't have you come "chat" at night at their apartment.
There's no "me" in this business?
BullFuckingShit! This business is ALL about "ME".
That's just a manipulation tactic for a pimp to control a weak-minded woman. He wants you to think "you" aren't important. I.E. "there is no 'You'..."
Yes, an escort is a prostitute, but is generally regarded as 'upscale'.
If you are that recently deflowered, you should definitely NOT consider escorting.
I didn't want to admit this because of the way they get treated here but I used to escort. I really REALLY regret it!
I was 18, starving, and thought there was no other way. I wish I would have discovered webcamming, stripping or even body rubs first. Same money, less emotional damage.
And to the girl above, take heed to the advice you've been given. That is a pimp. He's already trying to chip away at your self worth. Get real, as an escort you'd never need anyone BUT you but again I'd try anything else in the adult world first.
Bitch? Actually I'm an evil cunt. Slut? Try dirty little whore. Either way, you have to pay for it.


In response to the OP's question...I have tried escorting, I do not 'regret' it per se, but I did not ENJOY it like I enjoyed dancing...so I decided to stop.
Things that made me not want to escort anymore were as follows;
*high expectations from clients due to other girls (the competition) doing things I personally am not comfortable with doing (ie kissing, 'bbbj', etc)
*clients wanting more and more from me as time passed
*clients that were too rough with me even when I told them it was NOT ok
*constantly being afraid of being arrested.
*i've had one or two condoms that had broken (even when I used lube)which totally FREAKED ME THE FUCK OUT
* new 'clients' that would show up to my room only to waste my time and get kicked out cuz clearly they weren't there to spend any money
*then I had a couple bad experiences with regulars. One in particular tricked me into meeting his parents (it's a very long story)(he had I guess told his parents I was his gf)
- One had brought me to his home and had clearly taken a viagra before the act and pretty much wouldn't let me leave until he finished (that was when I was new and nieve)
*stalker clients.
*oh ya and my mom finding my escorting add, that too
There are a few other reasons but ya those are the main ones. To me the $ just wasn't worth it, but to each her own....I have nothing against escorting, it just wasn't for me.






How do I get into escorting? I'm not fully decided but want to check it out.
How hard would it be to do this job while being in school full time and raising a toddler?
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Last edited by SweetPinkCupcake; 10-02-2012 at 09:56 AM.
im new to the industry, been working in a brothel for about three weeks now. and despite the fact that it was a super slow night and i only made $105 for a half hour booking, in my 8 hour shift, and my boyfriends bike courier friend came in and i intro'd him (hopefully he didnt recognise me) im not regretting getting into it at all!
xx





^ is that a usual amount at that place for a half hour booking?
i make $110 for a half hour dance at the strip club.
escorting is okay if youre into it kinda thing, but dont sell yourselves short, ladies!
and yeah fiona i think you need to research before you dive into anything. i cant believe you went to that dudes apartment! thats so dangerous! just shows how unprepared you weould be trying to handle a situation. and also as a recent virgin........
you know if you wanna get into it, fine, plz just do a lot of research, ask questions on here and get more [sexual] experience. x
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For the most part I do not regret it. I have always been very sexual and actually have always been interested in the sex industry ever since I was young. I like the fact that I can get laid and get money and also someone would spend money just to be with me. Typical Leo lmao. The only thing that is hard for me is that I know I can not have a normal relationship. Also I can't be honest with people about my life. Only 2 people know. One my best friend. The other my f buddy. The other thing is that when I do want to have just non paying fun I always think in the back of my head, I could be getting paid for this, instead of really enjoying it. Other than that I don't regret a thing.
Whats 6 inches long, 2 inches wide, and drives women wild?...... Money
@anouk.oui
yeah, it was just a super sucky night. rates are really good at the place i work and its super clean and awesome and everyone is sweet.

It suits me well, and I often wish I'd gotten into the real-time side of the business sooner. I'm choosing not to work at "full capacity," instead inhabiting a narrower niche (and enjoying the mental perks of connecting with compatible clientele! My clients rock; I love to brag about how awesome they are.). I was getting a bit cabin-feverish doing just phone and cam. Being able to leave my office and not feel that I'm automatically losing money is so, so freeing.
I chose to focus on the aspects of this work that are the most rewarding to me emotionally as well as the most stimulating to me mentally because when I'm bored and not feeling an emotional connection to my work, I'm at risk of ennui and/or burnout. I don't personally have to be rich, but I do personally have to be healthy and happy. A particularly bad year of PSOing in an environment that was more deskbound and high-volume and less in-depth than I'm used to made that clear.
The main downside (for me): getting paid in cash. I am currently tearing up my apartment looking for $100 I earned, didn't spend, and now don't have in my hot little hands to deposit. I'm trying not to assume that my (soon to be former) housemate snooped in my purse and thought I wouldn't miss it when I had the flu, but the odds of a light-fingered housemate are a little better than the odds of me just somehow losing five twenties to the void. Ugh.
The other downsides for me have been fairly typical of any industry, just with different flavors: leads who want strange and inconvenient accommodations before they'll bite, the odd last-minute cancellation, travel expenses, pushy clients (rare for me), endless email and admin work, advertising expenses (also my second least favorite part of real estate), extra wear and tear on my car, and going through my favorite stockings far too quickly.
That said, this is not an easy job, physically, mentally, or emotionally. It suits me because it intersects with ways that I'm weird (nonmonogamy, strange kinks, ability to become suddenly fond of a near-stranger within certain set boundaries) and because I make it a point to build my job description around things I especially like as I'm lazy and refuse to spend much of my time doing something I don't enjoy.I'm out to my family and I'm polyamorous, so the double life and dating stress is mostly not an issue for me. Those are huge downsides for most people and I still run into those issues on occasion. I also get around the dating thing by hooking up with my sex-positive friends at conferences, which is nice because a) quality sex and b) time with friends becomes c) the best of all possible multitasking. Also, I'd rather have casual-ish sex with the kind of people who blog and tweet their STI test results than the kind of people who cross their fingers and spread their legs.
The escorting life is a bit of a whirlwind, and time passes before you know it. I can see where in the constant flow of cash and expenses someone who didn't plan to be a lifer could feel stuck and/or find it hard to leave the quick cashflow compared to most other lines of work.
Personally I'm pacing myself. I just regret not diving in for a big launch my first year (approaching the 1st year-mark next month) instead of holding back while sorting through some relationship stuff with my secondary. The endless processing could have waited while I earned some nice happy cash with nice happy clients. Ah well...
I don't regret it at all, never have, I really enjoy it. As far as the "fast" money, I hope you are building up some saving and not just blowing it all, that will stress you out every time because you feel trapped, like you have to just to pay the rent and have no other options. Just my opinion.

I regret not doing it the right way the first time. I was an independent provider, putting up ads, barely screening, and crossing my fingers. I only lasted a couple months before I had enough bad appointments to convince me to leave and start dancing.
I regret letting myself have an orgasm on one of the appointments. It took a long time--years-- before I could stand anyone touching me after that, even shaking my hand. I definitely became the prima donna dancer who cried to the bouncer 10 times a night.
I'm going back after 4 years and I'm not sure what to expect. I've decided to take the pay cut and work with an agency. The benefits are worth it. I've also learned how to hold to my boundaries working as a dancer and know how to say "NO, MOTHERFUCKER". I've also learned I can hit damn hard. I regret not having this knowledge my first time.
Some specifics:
I regret how much I was drinking the first time around.
I regret giving BBBJ's. I regret kissing.
I regret letting the men pay me afterward and letting them keep me past the paid time.
I regret using my normal phone without realizing my mother's name was showing up on the men's caller IDs.
I'm sure I'll learn more lessons, lol! Jeeze, my first post is describing how stupid of a person I was just 4 short years ago. Do I regret getting into the industry? No. Absolutely not. I don't regret the experiences, even if they were learning experiences.
I feel your pain. I'd love to see more SW threads about figuring out all our various "vanilla" pursuits. I think sex workers get a warped perspective about money because we are used to making large amounts of instant cash at a young age (before doing long tours of duty in straight jobs). I work freelance jobs and, even when the money's good to "normal job" standards, say $300 per diem for approx 8 hrs work, I'm lucky if I get my paycheck eight weeks after completing the work. I, for one, need to make structured time of a good 10-20 hours per week to pitch freelance articles and pursue proper career-building gigs. I tell customers I'm a freelance writer and building a future and blahblah cause their male egos wanna hear that I have an exit strategy (it soothes their savior complexes) but, in reality, I'm loathe to do anything that doesn't pay at least $50 per hour cash up front. I think making easy money has made me more lazy and indecisive than ever![]()
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