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    Question Intense desire to return to stripping...

    So I left the industry in October 2010...I was completely burnt out, hating the clubs I was dancing in, hating the customers, etc. I graduated from college with my degree and got a fantastic job that will likely turn into a lifetime career for me.

    That being said...in the last month or so, I've been experiencing this insane desire to return to dancing. I've been thinking about finding a club where I can dance just one weekend a month, pull three shifts, and get it out of my system. I've been stalking clubs online, dancing around the house in 7"ers, and even calling some clubs for more information. I have an obsessive mind, and I have been obsessing over this!

    I'm really trying to figure out where this burning desire to return comes from. I certainly don't need the money, so it's not just that (though I wouldn't strip for free, that's for sure).

    Have I just romanticized stripping in the time I've been away from it (watching too many stripper movies)? Do I need to strip to reassure myself that I won't end up committing suburbicide like so many cool people do? Would returning end up being a really bad idea??

    Has anyone else gone through this before? Have you left dancing and then missed it? Why did you miss it? If you returned, was it satisfying? Or do you wish you'd left it and never looked back?

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    Default Re: Intense desire to return to stripping...

    I don't dance in strip clubs, but years ago i used to dance podium in normal nightclubs, then missed it for years after. I can imagine a lot of that feeling is tied up with the attention you get. It's hard to go from having every man in the club's eyes on you, to just being little miss normal. I expect your body probably misses the buzz of the physical exertion too, dancing takes a lot of energy and gets you really fit. I say do it, just try that weekend you were talking about, then if you want there's nothing to stop you dancing just now and then when you need extra cash or just feel like it. It doesn't have to be a full time thing x

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    It's crazy...I mean, as an asexual, I really don't miss the attention...attention from men doesn't really do anything for me. And I get enough of that in my day job--though in a much less overt way, of course.

    Maybe I just have a chip on my shoulder from never having danced in a nicer, classier club? I've only danced in two clubs, and they were both complete dives. Maybe my brain thinks that working in a prettier club would somehow be better?

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    It's crazy...I mean, as an asexual, I really don't miss the attention...attention from men doesn't really do anything for me. And I get enough of that in my day job--though in a much less overt way, of course.

    Maybe I just have a chip on my shoulder from never having danced in a nicer, classier club? I've only danced in two clubs, and they were both complete dives. Maybe my brain thinks that working in a prettier club would somehow be better?
    I'm having that thought process right now. Now that I'm in an area that has bigger clubs with nicer stages and actual dancers I'm going ape shit not being able to dance right now!

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    Default Re: Intense desire to return to stripping...

    ^ Why do you want to go back? Is it just the money?

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    Default Re: Intense desire to return to stripping...

    When I was teaching, I was the same way. I stalked stripperweb, researched clubs, read a ton of stripper-related books. It was crazy.

    I solved the problem by going and stripping out of the state every now and again, about 3 times during that year. It really helped get the itch out of my system. I honestly don't think I was ready to give it up yet, and have since returned to just dancing. I like my job right now, and am pretty happy with dancing. I think in another couple years I'll try "retirement" again.

    I get a high out of teasing guys and getting them to part with their money for such a silly thing as a lap dance. I am good at doing that, and every sale is like another high. Maybe that's what you miss?

    I think dancing every now and again will probably help solve the problem. Or maybe you could just try going as a customer and see how that works out?
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    I did this ! I walked away in Nov. 2010 and then I "had to" to dance a little in January and then "had to" dance a little in May. I'm not really sure why I did it ! I sort of needed the cash, but I also could have pulled it from other sources. I just kind of went with what I wanted to do ( but I picked my home clubs when I was visiting my home area because I was not in the mood to scout new places ). I almost did it just to do it or something. I had the great " I used to be a stripper talk with D " and then all of a sudden I was like " no .... not used to .... I still AM .... I still need to do this " .

    I still say you just do a strip trip / vacation combo and work at a luxe club.


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    I still might find somewhere to strip if they will put me on some sort of a Grandma stripper program where I can leave at Midnight or 1.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    ^ Why do you want to go back? Is it just the money?
    I know its not just the money, even though its fantastic, I just really miss being on the stage and the girls and having a lifestyle I fit into, and also having a reason to get dressed up. I honestly miss being a stripper and having people I can openly talk to about dancing and shoes and just generally bsing around at work without getting repremanded for it. Don't get me wrong I have had friends not in the business or never have been but its not the same, they say ignorant remarks about dancers or sex workers because they don't know what I did before I met them but its still hurtful. They don't get how hard the work is and they think all the girls are nasty even though unknowingly they are friends with one of those girls. Honestly over all other than my relationship my life was just better dancing and I really miss that feeling of knowing I'm 1.independent 2.physically fit 3.sexy 4.working in an environment I'm comfortable in with people who are a little less full of shit.

    Sorry I got all heart felt because I haven't really thought about why I want to go back to dancing so bad, I've been asking myself that since about two months after quitting.

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    You ladies kick ass.

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    Default Re: Intense desire to return to stripping...

    Thank you so much for posting this. I'm struggling with the same thing, and I have no idea why. It's really weird. I don't even know what I miss about it or why I want to go back so badly. It's like some weird compulsion.

    I hope you will keep us posted on what you decide to do.

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    Yes, exactly like a compulsion. Thank you so much for speaking up. I feel less crazy.

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    Default Re: Intense desire to return to stripping...

    You are not alone. Since I left the club dancing every so often I decide to return to it. I think of the great money and times I had. I even went and auditioned at a few clubs because I was so sure I wanted to return. However I realized that for now it's a fantasy again and I really don't want to do it. The last time I auditioned the club was empty and it hit me of the times I danced and made little money. Also, this particular club went from bikini to nude and allows touching now I hear. I ask myself would I be comfortable with touching and the answer is no. Would I be happy coming home with little money? Nope. Do I want to deal with the assholes who reject me or the dancers who are bitches? Nope. I feel it's my past and it should stay there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    I still might find somewhere to strip if they will put me on some sort of a Grandma stripper program where I can leave at Midnight or 1.

    My apologizies for butting in girls, but I found this really funny...too funny to just walk away and not let carmenn_b know

    I personally don't see anything wrong with dancing occasionally charlie, if you can find a nice club to work on a whim whenever you feel like it (every 4-8 weeks?) why not? Just make sure none of your vanilla co-workers find out...if they are "paying attention" to you now, that "attention" could turn very uncomfortable very fast if they knew you were a dancer. Good Luck!

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    Just work on the weekends or like you said three days if a club will allow it.

    I didn't dance for 5+ years and went back for several reasons and glad that I did.

    It was probably more the feeling of accomplishment and the thrill of selling. I could get that at a regular sales job but those jobs are mostly taken and controlled by men. My career back then was not as fulfilling as I thought it would be and I was going broke in the process.

    We were getting plenty of attention from guys and going to clubs and dancing so it wasn't that.

    Those obstacles are minimal in the dancing world.

    Seriously save and invest all the money you make in those three days!




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    Awesome feedback...thank you all so much!

    Stripper Hacks--I've always been super good about saving and investing my money. That's something I picked up and took to heart when I started as an 18 year old! I'm still living off of the money I saved over those four years...it'll be a year before I even have to start thinking about using the money I'm making at my mainstream job!

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Awesome feedback...thank you all so much!

    Stripper Hacks--I've always been super good about saving and investing my money. That's something I picked up and took to heart when I started as an 18 year old! I'm still living off of the money I saved over those four years...it'll be a year before I even have to start thinking about using the money I'm making at my mainstream job!
    I'm only 19 now so I still have time to save if/when I start dancing again. I basically blew a years worth of money away and the only thing I have to show for it is my car...Ahh the troubles of youth lol but seriously I could take a lesson from you about saving.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.adventure View Post
    My apologizies for butting in girls, but I found this really funny...too funny to just walk away and not let carmenn_b know

    I personally don't see anything wrong with dancing occasionally charlie, if you can find a nice club to work on a whim whenever you feel like it (every 4-8 weeks?) why not? Just make sure none of your vanilla co-workers find out...if they are "paying attention" to you now, that "attention" could turn very uncomfortable very fast if they knew you were a dancer. Good Luck!
    This is great advice, and SO true. Thank you.

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    YES! This happened to me. I took last summer off dancing because my parents found out and weren't too pleased. With respect to them, I took a job as a waitress in a local restaurant. A month later I found myself missing dancing A LOT. I had gained 15 lbs over the course of the summer and for some reason I could not stop thinking about dancing. I missed getting dolled up, performing (since I used to be a ballet dancer as well), the fast money, and big part of it was that I missed the great body I had from dancing! Working in the restaurant really made me respect the money I made from dancing a lot more. I would make 60 dollars in tips from working my ass off, and think to myself....I could have made that in 10 mins at the club!!

    Needless to say, I returned to dancing last fall....(but only if the club was 1hr or more away from home)...the 15 lbs melted off and now I have A LOT more respect for the money I make dancing. I am also a lot happier being in the club than I was before I took the time off.

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    I totally have been where you are a couple of months ago. Swore off of dancing but HAD to go back.

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    I have felt like this at times because I've never perfected stripping as a whole ex: my unique look, my hustle, being a top earner, ability to rely only on stripping. I sometimes have the urge to start again because I feel like I will be better than before.

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    I left for my career for 4 yrs then realized I hated my career and came back because it would allow flexibility and money while I came up with a new plan. So back in university now and dancing again to fund my new dream. Although it has it's ups and downs I really do love it. I like the club I work at and the people I work with. Then of course the fact that I make 5-6x more than my fellow classmates means I maintain an adult lifestyle. But if I didn't have to do it, I probably wouldn't because I'd rather have more time with hubby, friends and for study.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Xplicit18 View Post
    I totally have been where you are a couple of months ago. Swore off of dancing but HAD to go back.

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    Le sigh. So much truth to that.

    I think I'd be much more comfortable going back to it, now that I have a very stable career during the day.

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    I personally believe day jobs make you a little more grounded than if you were just dancing. I also think it would help with the burnouts because when you start to feel it creeping up again, you got the day job bringing in cash too.

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    Miss Adv. : I'm glad you found that amusing! Of course , it's not the fact that you CAN'T leave at Midnight or whatever but it's that the good money comes in around Midnight ( bleh ). At my home club, I can leave at Midnight, but it wouldn't even be worth it to not capture the "golden" last two hours. ;(

    Well ..... I've been on a little adventure traveling to another place and then living there but I am getting bored now too and might go finally find a club haha. In this location, it very very likely that my double life of completely hiding dancing will not work. I'm literally split 50/50 right now between wondering if I should give up adult work completely again or embrace it again. I can't decide.

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