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    So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years-- going on 5.
    We live together. He's a great guy. Okay.

    Doing cam, I bought my first dick replica dildo ever and was w/e about it.
    Honestly, my dildo feels 34905784307 times better than my boyfriend's dick aside from it being rubber and not warm (my boyfriend isn't circumcised) and I feel bad about it.
    We were having sex last night and I just wasn't feeling it to the point that we had to stop.
    A few weeks ago when he found out I bought a dildo he got super upset saying that "I want another dick inside me other than his" .

    What would you do in this situation? Ever since I've felt like this, I wonder how it would feel fucking someone else, other than him. *sigh* I sound like I'm 16 right now.

    -LX

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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    there's more to a man than his dick?

    For instance, a dildo isn't good at cuddling, or talking to you, or giving you a shoulder to cry on.

    Ya gotta look at the whole picture.


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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    is your boyfriend really small?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    Sorry about writing about this but I just HAD to let it out to someone lol.
    My boyfriend is pretty average (5-5 1/2 and his girth is probably 1 1/2)

    @smurf true true lol but my dildo never argues with me or can get me preggo!

    "Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."

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    its probably either a size issue since you are accustomed to larger toys, a grass is greener/freaking out because youve been iwht one penis for so long issue, or an indication that you guys have been arguing to much-- as hinted by your last post.

    however, you said he is a great guy. if he really is a great guy who is supportive of your job (this seems to be hard to find) then hopefully you wanting a different penis will just be a fleeting thought. im guessing swinging would be a terrible option for hte two of you?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    We don't really argue that much, I think it's more of a size issue now :/
    I feel like I've lost my innocence again dick size wise now lol

    And swinging is definitely not an option.

    "Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."

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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    smaller dildo maybe? then you can get used to that and be more accomodating if its a size issue with him.

    maybe its like a been-together-forever rut? i kinda went through that stage and after not sleeping with him for a few weeks, just flirting and kissing, by the time we did it again the anticipation made it amazing.
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    That doesn't make me not smart, it means my taste in men sucks and I should stop thinking with my vagina.

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    His dick size doesnt matter.
    Females hold resentment. This greatly affects their lust for their partners.
    Weird to me that he would be jealous of a toy. An insecure man is NEVER SEXY!

    Do you make more money than he does? That can make a man less attractive to a female and very insecure that he isn't being a good provider.

    You have a fear of getting pregnant? Do you not want to marry this man and have his kids?

    4 years going on 5 is a LONG time. You called him boyfriend and NOT fiance. No ring on the finger while he is getting all the benefits of a marriage can be a problem?

    Many things interfere with a females desire for a man. It is never simple.

    Having desires for sex with another person is natural in long term relationships. Hence why men watch porn & see us cam gals. hehe

    Is the romance and courting over? Does he expect to roll on top without warming you up without foreplay? Females take longer than men to warm up sexually. If he is done by the time you are just getting started makes that imitation dick alot more fun to play with then.

    Does he do his share of housework and laundry? Or is it all your job, making you to tired to really get into having sex with him and resentful that you are always the one to do it all.

    There are many things couples can do to keep the fire alive. Men get LAZY quickly, thus the charm & flirting disappears.

    Boils down to if the man isn't meeting your emtional needs then it is hard for a female to desire sex from him.

    Men are simple. Tell him what you need outside the bedroom so that you can feel the hots for him inside it. A good man will do as asked, one that is lazy and not in love with you won't bother. Then it is your choice to find one who will, because life is to short to be miserable.

    Dildos dont argue or leave a mess where ever they go. If he isnt satsifying you during sex then why bother fucking. I rarely give a bj without expecting them to go down on me in return. If I dont cum then why the fuck should they. Sex is for both people.

    Have a long convo in a neutral place far from the bedroom and never as pillow talk about wha you need from him to feel better and get the sex hot again.

    Good Luck
    Wish you all the best.
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    @anouk
    I'm totally going through that right now. He ALWAYS wants to do it but I just feel "ew" now and distant. The dildo is making it worse. :/

    "Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady Xplicit18 View Post
    We don't really argue that much, I think it's more of a size issue now :/
    I feel like I've lost my innocence again dick size wise now lol

    And swinging is definitely not an option.

    Your innocence... LOL
    Pleasure is never something to feel guilty about. He can put his insecurity aside and start using the sex toys during sexual escapades you two can be having.

    Go to the sex store together or look online for a few to bring into your sex life.

    Swinging is not an option, most talk a good game about protection and such, but been to way to many swinger parties to know condoms are optional not manditory when the sex starts. Gross.... Also bringing others into the bedroom breeds jealous.

    I see nothing wrong with exploring eachothers bodies with sex toys of all kinds to find what is the most fun...

    Sam

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    His dick size doesnt matter.
    Females hold resentment. This greatly affects their lust for their partners.
    Weird to me that he would be jealous of a toy. An insecure man is NEVER SEXY!

    Do you make more money than he does? That can make a man less attractive to a female and very insecure that he isn't being a good provider.

    You have a fear of getting pregnant? Do you not want to marry this man and have his kids?

    4 years going on 5 is a LONG time. You called him boyfriend and NOT fiance. No ring on the finger while he is getting all the benefits of a marriage can be a problem?

    Many things interfere with a females desire for a man. It is never simple.

    Having desires for sex with another person is natural in long term relationships. Hence why men watch porn & see us cam gals. hehe

    Is the romance and courting over? Does he expect to roll on top without warming you up without foreplay? Females take longer than men to warm up sexually. If he is done by the time you are just getting started makes that imitation dick alot more fun to play with then.

    Does he do his share of housework and laundry? Or is it all your job, making you to tired to really get into having sex with him and resentful that you are always the one to do it all.

    There are many things couples can do to keep the fire alive. Men get LAZY quickly, thus the charm & flirting disappears.

    Boils down to if the man isn't meeting your emtional needs then it is hard for a female to desire sex from him.

    Men are simple. Tell him what you need outside the bedroom so that you can feel the hots for him inside it. A good man will do as asked, one that is lazy and not in love with you won't bother. Then it is your choice to find one who will, because life is to short to be miserable.

    Dildos dont argue or leave a mess where ever they go. If he isnt satsifying you during sex then why bother fucking. I rarely give a bj without expecting them to go down on me in return. If I dont cum then why the fuck should they. Sex is for both people.

    Have a long convo in a neutral place far from the bedroom and never as pillow talk about wha you need from him to feel better and get the sex hot again.

    Good Luck
    Wish you all the best.
    Sam

    Awww Sam you as soooo sweet and on point!
    I want to have kids someday but not exactly sure with him (which is bad since I should know by now).
    And the whole "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" thing bothers the crap out of me.
    I would like to have a fiance or a HUSBAND (I'm pretty young but one day) especially by 4 years. I feel like we just go through the motions now.

    Maybe counseling?

    "Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."

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    LOL I would laugh if someone I was dating found all of my dildos. Have a bunch, some modeled after real guys I have done porn with.

    Heck, my business partner has a suitcase filled with sex toys to have on set for the solo shoots for his site. I am always givng him hell about it. If a gal he was dating was to ever find those in his car or closet at home. There would be no explaining it.

    One of my best friends, her husbands Grandmother washed and organized all of theirs. She threw a fit. That this womans meddling and cleaning net freakness was just to much. LMAO

    Life is to short to be upset about a fake dick. Not like you care a picture of it on your phone.

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    Default Re: I don't like my boyfriend's DICK ANYMORE!

    Life is confusing.
    As females sex issues have to do with real life issues.
    Men sex issues mainly is not enough of it. LOL

    But after camming there are alot of weirdos out their, way to many men have questions about whether or not they are gay.

    Counciling is an option.
    Or alot of long walks. This is how I clear out my head and find solutions to my life. Working out actually helps us think better.

    Maybe your at a point where there is more to life than shacking up. Men are happy to shack up without a marriage license. Have a cousin live with a female for 6 years and 6 months, a house, 2 kids. When he found out local law was 7 year common marriage he moved out. He never once had any intentions of marriage to her. She was pissed off. Wouldn't let him move back in. He did the right thing and married her. Lesson: men will waste your time because they are getting their needs met.

    No matter how young. When something doesn't feel right, you know it. Trust yourself. Either things can be worked out or you move onto someone who can. But to men it will be over the size of their dick or wallet. LOL

    Good Luck honey

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    No matter how young. When something doesn't feel right, you know it. Trust yourself.

    Thank you guys so much, especially you Sam. You made me feel way better about my thoughts! Resentment most likely has alot to do with it and your'e RIGHT.
    I hate the fact that he freaked out over a damn dildo. I guess he's just one of those super overprotective latino guys. He pretty much calls it cheating
    I'm starting to work out every other day now which is making me happy.

    I didn't know whether to post this here or in Life Support lol.

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    Sam is totally right on the money. Most women's issues with sex in a relationship is caused by relationship issues and not the dick.

    It definitely sounds like you're just not that into HIM anymore. Whether that means the relationship is on the outs, or whether it's just a bump in the road, is for you to figure out. I know if I'd been with someone almost 5 years and didn't at least have a ring, I'd resent him too - actually I wouldn't last that long.

    But age makes a difference. 5 years with no ring in your 20s is different from 5 years with no ring in your 30s or 40s...

    If I were you, I'd talk to him about the state of the relationship and where it's going.


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    I totally agree with Sam

    Other than that - buy a wii vibe 2. Like seriously, go buy one NOW! Clit and g-spot stim DURING sex - yes please!



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    we vibe 2 even - you need the us version of this site I guess
    http://www.we-vibe.co.uk/?gclid=CPT_...FQoe4QodE1xY8g



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    Somebody call the WAHHHHmbulance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BritishBecky View Post
    I totally agree with Sam

    Other than that - buy a wii vibe 2. Like seriously, go buy one NOW! Clit and g-spot stim DURING sex - yes please!

    That was said with such a strong sense of urgency! YES M'AAM!!! LoL!

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    ^haha it's sooooo good!



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    My man has almost 8 inches, average girth and my toys still feel better than him and get me off much better. I'm sorry but in/out over and over again isn't going to do it. .Good thing we have more holding us together than the sex or it would have been over years ago! So when customers are like "ooh bb, i'd fuck you all the time if you were mine"...erm...no you wouldn't!



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    My man is like 6 3/4 inches long, and around six inches in girth; I like how it feels some times, but I hate that foreskin (my boyfriend isn't circumcised either).

    And yes, the dick is pretty secondary (at least for me) when it comes to sex. My ex hubby had a larger and fatter dick, but by the time I was feeling I didn't wanted him anymore, it stopped feeling as good as it did at the beginning. I had great sex with guys that have micropenises and awful sex with well endowed guys. I'm just that good with sex, lol.





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    I'm a foreskin fan for sure! It's so much easier to make it cum! lol My boyfriend had a monster cock! Wish it were smaller, but I like him, so I've learned to take it like a big girl. lol

    I have nothing useful to add really, but I do hope you can sit down with him and talk about. Maybe you two can work it out Best of luck to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SupaByoch View Post
    Sam is totally right on the money. Most women's issues with sex in a relationship is caused by relationship issues and not the dick.

    It definitely sounds like you're just not that into HIM anymore.
    But age makes a difference. 5 years with no ring in your 20s is different from 5 years with no ring in your 30s or 40s...

    At this point, I don't think I ever want to get married to anyone
    And you're right, I'm slowly withdrawing from him and just focusing on camming/money.

    My dildo is my best friend now...sadly lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    there's more to a man than his dick?

    For instance, a dildo isn't good at cuddling, or talking to you, or giving you a shoulder to cry on.

    Ya gotta look at the whole picture.


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