so like what do you do if someone is sending you harassing text messages?
so like what do you do if someone is sending you harassing text messages?
Last edited by Swagz; 08-24-2011 at 10:36 AM.





Well, from what you said, he sounds like..a real stalker, being that he contacts you over & over, after agreeing not to. I had an ex bf that contacted me after several years, then like two years ago, & again recently. I called the cops, they call him, so far he's stopped.
I honestly don't know what to tell you, (other than be careful of course) it seems like you've taken some good steps so far.
Good luck to you, I hope you can be rid of him
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt
When you say you had the cops call him, how did you do that? Sounds nice and informal. If he does this again should I just get a TRO or should I call the same officer and have him do the calling since he offered to help me again in the future?




Unfortunately, I've had too many dealings with stalkers. It will shoot your nerves to hell if you just leave it thinking he *probably* won't do anything. I don't post a lot of info on forums anymore because I'm afraid some of mine might get bored one night. Please don't think someone who has been non-violent up to this point will not cross that threshold if given the opportunity.
If the guy goes to Harvard and is going into a big career, you should try a restraining order, or at least the threat of one. He won't like the idea of that to his name. Even if you can't get one just from him contacting you, if you ask a police officer to contact him about the harassment, he/she would likely be willing to hint at the possibility of one in order to deter him. Keep any documentation you have of his contact and even though you haven't seen him in a while, watch your back. I had one guy send me a map from his town to where I was staying and tell me he knew several ways to kill someone without leaving a trace o.O And he was another exceptionally intelligent and obsessive type who seemed 100% harmless at first.





I totally agree w/Tues.^. In my case, I had actually called the 1st cops on him via 911, he showed up at an apt. where I lived which I had not disclosed location of..then years later contacted me by phone. I tried to get the record of the time he showed up, but since it had been years ago, & no arrest made since he complied when told to back off, the record was gone, or so I was told. Subsequently the other times he contacted me by phone, I stopped in my local police station, & since THEY said there wasn't enough to arrest/charge him on, they phoned him & left him a message (2 different stalking occasions, years apart) to call them (police) back, which of course he never did.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt


The escalation of his obsession worries me most - the increased frequency, exorbitant dollar amount offered, etc. He's getting worse. Probably in direct proportion to the stress and anger in his life. His own self-hatred and misery drive him to hunt and frighten you.
That he could and might blackmail you is particularly alarming esp. when it sounds like you could do that to him in a heartbeat.
All your steps taken sound good. Can you try to relocate and take yourself off the map?
Pls check out this article: http://kissingup.wordpress.com/2011/08/19/stalking/
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quote Candy Girl: The escalation of his obsession worries me most - the increased frequency, exorbitant dollar amount offered, etc. He's getting worse. Probably in direct proportion to the stress and anger in his life. His own self-hatred and misery drive him to hunt and frighten you.
Well said! Good article. There's also a book, it's been out awhile that helped me: Obsessive Love, Idk the author, but it's a lady psychologist. It's from both stalker/stalkee point of view.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt





if you meet the legal statute to get a temporary protection order, get one.
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