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    Sad bf problems

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    So my bf and I are almost going to go on one year.

    I crashed my car around may of this year and I'm currently in school. My school is one hour away from my house but 8 min from his so we decided i should stay there the rest of the semester.

    I don't have enough money to fix my car right now so the semester started and I came to stay with him again.
    My uncle had to leave his truck behind because he went out of state so the truck was going to be kept at the bfs house.

    today we got in an argument because i messaged him on facebook telling him to pick me up at a certain time but he never got the message because i logged him off his phone of face to log in to mine and for some reasons the notifications dont go through

    he gets here and i go let me see your phone, in a normal tone and then he starts cussing at me and just telling me mean things in the middle of the side walk on campus.

    we get to his house and i tell him i want the keys to my uncles truck to go my a calculator and to go to take my test he wont give me the keys and he starts yelling at me and throws his shades one the ground and they crash along with his keys

    So he starts getting close to me and i push and scratch him for him to let me go and he struck me on my cheek really hard that still burns as of right now. so i say thats it you were over i try to leave and he wont let me and starts saying he didnt hit me because i hit is with a closed fist and that he slapped me.

    then he started saying his sorry and crying really hard but all i could feel hatred, he is always sorry but things never change
    but i feel week like im going to go back to him and i really dont want to that


    so now its 3:30 ish and i tell him i really have to go so he drops me off at school and i have no time to look over my notes and im just very upset and miss one questions to many

    I had a p.a test today at 4:00Pm that i was just one questions away from being in that class but if you dont score high enough you get kicked out. I feel that if the argument hadnt occurred i would have looked over my notes and gotten this one question. so im really upset over it

    now im stranded at school and i tried taking the bus home but i really need to get my uncles truck

    so i contacted his mom and she said she will try to help but idk how much help that will be.

    i feel this a very abusive relationship that is getting nowhere
    he threaten to grabb a knife cut under my eyes or slash my face so i couldnt dance anymore ;( and be ugly and not finish school

    he got on top of me and grabbed some pliers to try to rip my nose.

    this is the second time he is done something like this

    its not worth it right?
    he has ptsd, and it seems thats always his excuse for having anger issues
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    Call the cops.file a police report. Press charges.

    He needs to learn that he can't behave this way to women.

    You not calling the cops is actually encouraging his bad behavior.

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    I would call the cops and see if they could take you over there to get your stuff and get out.

    I would also go to the test people and tell them what happened and asked if there might be a possibility of a redo if they're willing to change the questions.

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    Call the cops. With that kind of behavior, your word against his is easily enough to get a temporary restraining order, and the cops will take you over to his house when he's not home and stay while you gather up your things.

    Girl, I worked at a women's shelter for 3 years, we had new women coming in literally every day for help. Not ONCE did I see a women go back to her abuser and stay safe.


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    Quote Originally Posted by elijah View Post
    So he starts getting close to me and i push and scratch him for him to let me go and he struck me on my cheek really hard that still burns as of right now. so i say thats it you were over i try to leave and he wont let me and starts saying he didnt hit me because i hit is with a closed fist and that he slapped me...

    ...he threaten to grabb a knife cut under my eyes or slash my face so i couldnt dance anymore ;( and be ugly and not finish school...

    ...he got on top of me and grabbed some pliers to try to rip my nose.

    this is the second time he is done something like this

    its not worth it right?
    There is never any excuse for this type of behavior. IMHO you need to get away from him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elijah View Post
    he threaten to grabb a knife cut under my eyes or slash my face so i couldnt dance anymore ;( and be ugly and not finish school

    he got on top of me and grabbed some pliers to try to rip my nose.

    this is the second time he is done something like this

    its not worth it right?
    he has ptsd, and it seems thats always his excuse for having anger issues
    No, it's not worth it. I don't care what his excuse is - threatening this sort of behavior or actually doing something this violent is NOT ok at all. Like others have said, call the cops. File a report. Ask them to escort you to get your things. Try to talk to the school and tell them what happened to see if they will let you retake the test or do something else to get your grade up. Don't speak to him again.

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    Please leave him, but that also means you either need to find a new place to live close to school, or another car. Make plans on how to stay in school, but please get out.

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    My advice is to leave him. I would like to say call the cops but unless you are willing to prosecute and be there at his hearing or trial, don't bother, but get the hell out of that relationship. It's unhealthy and he is only going to bring you down. You don't deserve that type of shit from anyone. Get out before it gets worse!!




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    In my experience, it's not going to get better. Since you've been with him for a while, you probably feel like you should continue to stay to work things out or something, but it's not worth it. I used to be with a pretty abusive guy and people would tell me time and again to leave him, but I felt like he was abusive because he was so unhappy and that if I just stopped fucking up and was enough for him blahblahblah, he'd be okay some day. Looking back, my mind was so warped from him systematically isolating me from everyone besides him that I had no perspective. Your boyfriend's PTSD (if legit) really is a serious issue, but if he wanted to treat you better, he wouldn't be using it as an excuse to continue abusing you.

    Accept that you cannot make him change and get out before it's too late.

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    get the fuck away from this fucked up piece of shit. thank you

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    If my bf told me he was going to slash my face I would tell him "Then Im going to rip ur eyeballs out, saute them, duct tape u to the ceiling and make u eat ur own eyeballs!" Nah truthfully I'd tell him I'd rip his face off first. Thats more my style.

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    Escape where he can't find you. Do not hesitate.
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    Definitely call the cops. Trust me, you'll always regret it if you don't.

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