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    Mind Blowing Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    Ok so my fiancee has not been allowed to have his daughter over night per the baby mama since he has met me. Because two weeks before we met my mother died and i posted about getting drunk, pills and weeds. Ive been sober besides alcohol over half a year. On facebook. She contacted me 2 weeks into our relationship that her child will never be around a druggie stripper and i might as well leave him because he cares about my opinion and his daughter more than a hoe!!!
    She is still obsessed FYI. Still wears the engagement ring and its so obvious her main issue with me is just being in the picture and hes actually happy.

    She has given me hell since then. Texts. Trash talk around town. Finally I say hey enough with the BS lets go eat ill buy for you and Alex ( the daughter) . Everything went great. She changed her opinion on me.

    3 weeks later " she hears a rumor" and is back saying I'm abitch cant be around alex. I blew up on the phone asking how the hellshe could be two faced do quickly. ---- she heard gossip. To be frank my only friends are my fiancee my son and our one best friend who never talks to her. So it wasnt reliable sources and just petty to go off it. But that same convo she decides to say the only reason you have money is because your mom died- id rather have mine alive and spend everyday with her than have money. So i wouldnt be so proud you have money!

    ^^^ bitch is very lucky this was on the phone.

    Anyways ina two day span recently we were going back abd forth. Her purposely pushing my buttons- me getting fed up saying get off my ass and stalking my FB and let your child see ger father!

    She calls my fiancee a sperm donor and a bf shes had for a year " the real daddy". Trained her one night to call the bf daddy and my fiancee by his full name.

    Her grandpa is sherief of the county i have the court with her in.

    I got served for STALKING AND BEING ARMED AND DANGEROUS!!!!!!!

    She used stalking because i said she was a creeper stalking my FB. I have no car and have seen her twice.. And I would just never stalk someone lmao.

    On the OP it said 2 things. Never seen an op granted for two accusations. One was half a sentence " cracked skull and arm out of socket- expect it"---- that's referring to me bringing up in the custody court this both incidences happened on her watch to the child

    The other was i cant wait till someone gets fed up and knocks you out you cocky bitch.

    So she has tbe daughter on the OP. Ofcourse me and my fiancee live together. Shes trying to get him to choose to be a single father or be with me.

    Alex asks to " go to daddy's and play with Jaxon ( my son) and begs abd begs. Her mother rushes her inside. O ya he can only visit her at her house for like an hour twice a week. If it wasnt a mpney issue we would have buried her bs by now but now i even have to find a lawyer for this bullshit!!!!

    Idk how i have an op when only two things were listed one referring to harm she caused the child and the other not a direct threat.

    I dont do drugs. I dont dance anymore. Im a stay a home mom doing my best. How in the hell do i deserve this and have this on me?!

    Why would anyone grant this?!? She was the very first one to ever talk to me n has givin me shit since n put us both thru hell. Yea i snapped a few times- just like she does daily only on us.

    She only got this bc of her grandpa who has snooped on everyone we know.


    ^^^ sorry soooo long! But seriously, WTF do i do?!?!? Corrupt sheriff backing her n a lawyer. As of now i have no lawyer. She has created texts of her making manipulating our convos. I deleted all them because this shit never crossed my mind n i know i dont deserve it.

    If she actually gets grabted this. I have a 2 year op on me i assume i cant do the daycare thong anymore. Hobby of guns just got thrown away. My fiancee n i cant have alex here or near me at all. When ofcourse he wants weekends. Not to mention if i cant be around my fiancees kid once in a while will me and my own son be looked into?!?!

    Cant sleep. Begging fam for help in legal aid. Shes got shit on me from my past and manipulated texts. I dont have shit.

    But i dont own a fn gun. Im not armed n dangerous. Never atalked her not once. Never threatened her let alone to make her a victim n fear for her life. She treated me like shit pushed my buttons purposely aggravated me.

    Isnt there some kind of punisgment dor filing a false op? N it feels like fn harrassment to me!!!

    Opinions?!? PLEASE HELP!!!

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    In a criminal case you are entitled to a lawyer whether or not you can afford one. You need to find out how to get a public defender appointed to your case. Alternatively, you can look for "legal aid" in your area, which are attorneys who will take your case for a discounted rate.

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    I am sorry you are going thru this, in addition to legal aid, there's a website called nolo.com, they have a lot of legal info on there. Good luck


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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    I also wouldn't want my daughter around someone who has substance abuse problems, or appears to because of their posts on a social network.

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    change your privacy settings so strangers cannot contact you or view anything that you write. take screenshots of any facebook messages from her. if she calls, let everything go through to voicemail. don't respond to any text messages.

    maybe when you're less upset, you can edit your post to make it clearer and you will get more information.

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    OP, you need to get away from this drama and right away. First off, get a job and get the hell away from your fiance. He might be a nice guy but he's got way too much drama. This will keep going on. Also, I would ask them to move this case to another county because if her grandpa is sheriff that sounds corrupt. I would also go to the media.

    I'm sorry this is happening to you, you deserve better. However, this is why it's never a good idea to get with guys who have kids and a living ex. Things like this always happen.

    Was he married to her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    I also wouldn't want my daughter around someone who has substance abuse problems, or appears to because of their posts on a social network.
    I would have to agree.

    Sorry but you gave her fuel for the fire when you posted about coping with your grief that way. Try being smarter about what you say on the internet. This isn't your kid and you may be engaged but that's not your husband (yet). He obviously has obligations beyond you to his kid and his baby-mama. This is for him to negotiate, not you.

    I say, if its too much heat, get out of the kitchen. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life dealing with someone who has so many family issues? If you stay, you know what you're dealing with. But this sounds like a huge drain on your own resources with very little return.
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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    Start keeping a record of every dealing with her from now on. Keep all her text messages, FB posts, phone calls (write down times and what was said).

    Delete anything bad/questionable from your social media (twitter, facebook).

    I don't know much about how these things work, but I feel like there's no way the stalking charge could hold up.

    Also, this may be a wake-up call...do you really want to spend the rest of your life in a relationship where this woman is always going to be a part?? I feel like there are going to be a lot of future instances where your fiancee will be forced to choose between you and his child.

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    When people post stuff like this or complain about facebook drama, I thanks my lucky stars that I never got attracted to having this daily net-community bullshit in my life.

    It also makes me wonder why people who experience such facebook drama even continue to have accounts.

    Is it really worth all the hassle?

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    This is why I will never date a man with kids my BF's ex girlfriend is enough drama let alone if they had kids!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aslinn View Post
    This is why I will never date a man with kids my BF's ex girlfriend is enough drama let alone if they had kids!
    Yep. I am going to save this thread for next time someone here or some other site tells me I am being unreasonable for not dating dads. This is perhaps the best thread ever for explaining why dating dads is bad news.

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    Well, even if you deleted all the text messages she sent you. A copy of the phone bill to show that she sent you a reasonable amount of messages may show that she went beyond simply telling you "to quit stalking her." I would assume that can show that you both actively engaged in an argument together. Cant hurt to get a copy anyway....

    Also, i agree with legal aid so you can get your case moved to another court where there is not a conflict of interest. If your boyfriend is serious about you, then i also should assume that you and him will be working on this issue together as far as paying for a good attorney if he can afford it. I would love to hear what his opinion is on the matter.

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    It's very tough dating dads....ESP when the babys mother knows you are a former dancer. They love to communicate how "ugly you are for a stripper" lol. Still, good single dads get bullied and if they are serious about the woman i believe they can fight and work on a solution that allows them a happy relationship and as much time with the child as possible.

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    !!!!!!!!!!!!!! i want to put lightbulbs around this and do a dance to draw attention to its truthfulness.

    Quote Originally Posted by FiendishGyrator View Post
    When people post stuff like this or complain about facebook drama, I thanks my lucky stars that I never got attracted to having this daily net-community bullshit in my life.

    It also makes me wonder why people who experience such facebook drama even continue to have accounts.

    Is it really worth all the hassle?

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    am i the only one who clicked this thread because they were curious what a corrupt itch was?

    anyway, re the fb comment: i went through fb dramaz a few months back, but fb is the best way to keep in touch with a lot of ppl in various places. being a travel nut, i have friends scattered throughout the world. if all my friends were just in one location though, it wouldnt be necessary.

    and re OP: im not willing to read through your post because it is super long, but arent you the girl who was complaining that your BF said you dressed like a slut? it so, i maintain this idiot is not worth the hassle.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    don't marry this guy until this stuff is 100% sorted out.

    also, your fiance is the FATHER. this is HIS responsibility. HE needs to handle the ex, not you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    OP, you need to get away from this drama and right away. First off, get a job and get the hell away from your fiance. He might be a nice guy but he's got way too much drama. This will keep going on. Also, I would ask them to move this case to another county because if her grandpa is sheriff that sounds corrupt. I would also go to the media.

    I'm sorry this is happening to you, you deserve better. However, this is why it's never a good idea to get with guys who have kids and a living ex. Things like this always happen.

    Was he married to her?
    Well said. I would never date a dad especially one with a living ex.

    Niko, I know this may sound mean (perhaps I am over stepping here), but I think you should seriously consider if you want to continue a relationship with this man. By the sounds of it this woman can and already has made your life a living hell.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    am i the only one who clicked this thread because they were curious what a corrupt itch was?
    No, you're not the only one.

    Anyway, tldr; sorry.

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    I know you were very upset when you posted, but your initial post is very confusing, please edit it so we can better understand your predicament.

    Your making it sound as though this is all between you and the other girl, it SHOULD be all between your BF and her. This guy needs to step up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    am i the only one who clicked this thread because they were curious what a corrupt itch was?
    no maam, you are not!

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    for better or worse, Hollywood Stripper Stereotype is alive and well in most states' family court systems.

    Obviously some local judge had no problem issuing a restraining order against you based on the Hollywood Stripper Stereotype plus some quotations from your FB page in regard to unproven allegations that you represent a physical threat to your BF's ex.

    Some family court judge could just as easily rule to deny / revoke joint custody and/or unsupervised visitation rights for your BF based on unproven allegations that you represent a 'negative' / corrupting influence toward your BF's / ex's children.

    IMHO just walk away from this BF ... the drama, and the potential personal fallout ( i.e. having violent crime related restraining orders on your own permanent record etc. ... creation of a family court public record that you are a former stripper / alleged drug user etc. ) simply aren't worth it.

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    I wouldn't go back and forth with her over it. This sets the stage to what kind of communication you two will have as long as you and the dad are together.

    At some point, it is best to be the better person. The minute she started attacking you personally and not saying something like "I am very cautious who my child is around" for example, it should have been shut down.

    She may have been concerned about her child's well-being, but I can't help to think she saw an opportunity that you gave her, and she ran with it even though she can pass it off as good intentions.

    1. Don't hire a lawyer for this issue until after you get married. Even if you are the step mother, I have a feeling dad needs to be apart of this. Why would you sue the mom? Dad needs to do that. If/When she brings you up, you can be there to defend yourself if necessary.

    2. Try your best not to engage this woman, even for ammo. If you have to for some reason, watch your replies. If in the future you have to bring up all she said, she can do the same to you. Keep your nose clean.

    3. Let your guy deal with his child's mother. I would never let my SO talk to my ex under those circumstances.What good can come of that? All the adults need to do their best to maintain a good relationship. Even if one is being a bitch, the others should minimize the drama if they care about the little one.

    She has the law on her side, which makes her more untouchable than others in her position. That's bad news for you, but even more reason to keep your nose, mouth and facebook clean. Do some damage control, then attack it head on down the line when she has less ammo against you. The child seems a bit young, you have time to correct this situation.
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    I agree that your fiance needs to start getting involved and dealing with his ex directly. You did a very mature thing in inviting her lunch and trying to smooth things over, but it seems she is going to be irrational instead. You did your part - your fiance needs to do something now. Set your facebook so she can't see anything. Do what you can to find a lawyer within your means. If she already has corrupt law enforcement on your side, you can't fight this yourself. You need legal counsel. I understand a mom being cautious who her kids are around, but at this point, she's just making stuff up to make your life miserable. There's no negotiating with crazy, and she will always be around. You need to get help.

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    Default Re: Corrupt itch got me served!!!!

    This is all something he should've been dealing with, not you.
    Don't contact her, don't post on your fb about her or anything else that can be used against you.

    Deal with whatever issues you've been served with and then let it go. His ex is HIS problem, and you don't need to get yourself in trouble over something you shouldn't be involved with anyway.
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    Lol 1) It got dropped she admitted she lied
    2) i'm glad i didnt listen to the girls who said leave him. It's not his fault and she will listen to noone she tried.
    3) for the women who said they agreed theyd keep their kids away too- newsflash--- people change, and guess what? Most moms dont want their kids around strippers.
    4)just because there's drama in a man's life - doesnt take away his love for me or my son and everything he does for us
    5) yes he had concerns about how i dressed and I then realized some things were innappropriate. He cared.

    I appreciate the women who don't bash. But for the women that do- cut a girl some slack- you don't know me. I think Im done here

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