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    I went to one of my favorite clubs last night -- Hustler in Baltimore -- with some cash to spend. I happened to walk in the same time as two guys celebrating a birthday. To make this short, we were all young (mid-20s) and while I am a big guy the other guys were attractive. One gorgious girl (call her "C") had just started her shift. While everyone else was tipping her stage performance two bucks at a time I tipped her five bucks at a time.

    C went off to the smoke area and talked to one of the attractive guys for a while. C and I eventually got two sets of lapdances and an hour VIP/champagne room. Both times I tipped her well.

    What I didn't get is that she spent all of her down time with the attractive guy that bought her nothing the four hours we were there. Not to come across as jealous, but why spend time with someone that is buying nothing but is cute and ignore the guy that spent $400 on you? I don't get it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moose11 View Post
    What I didn't get is that she spent all of her down time with the attractive guy that bought her nothing the four hours we were there. Not to come across as jealous, but why spend time with someone that is buying nothing but is cute and ignore the guy that spent $400 on you? I don't get it...
    Are you a regular customer to this lady? Are they? You didn't see the guys buy dances but that doesn't mean that they were not giving the dancer in question money to sit and talk with them. It's possible that she knows them. It is, of course, also possible that she just isn't very smart about who to spend time with but, on the other hand, she got $400 out of you...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moose11 View Post
    I went to one of my favorite clubs last night -- Hustler in Baltimore -- with some cash to spend. I happened to walk in the same time as two guys celebrating a birthday. To make this short, we were all young (mid-20s) and while I am a big guy the other guys were attractive. One gorgious girl (call her "C") had just started her shift. While everyone else was tipping her stage performance two bucks at a time I tipped her five bucks at a time.

    C went off to the smoke area and talked to one of the attractive guys for a while. C and I eventually got two sets of lapdances and an hour VIP/champagne room. Both times I tipped her well.

    What I didn't get is that she spent all of her down time with the attractive guy that bought her nothing the four hours we were there. Not to come across as jealous, but why spend time with someone that is buying nothing but is cute and ignore the guy that spent $400 on you? I don't get it...
    I can't explain it to you either really. All I can say is that if it were me and I had someone tipping me 5's vs 1's you can be damn sure he'd be getting plenty of my attention when I got off stage. I don't care what people look like, I care how much $ you're willing to part with. Maybe she's new. Maybe she hasn't got her hustle down. Maybe she's just there for the party. Maybe they were giving her money, and she just banked off all of you. Who knows. Hopefully you had a good time anyway though.
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    We don't know the entire situation to judge. Maybe they are friends of hers, maybe regulars, maybe they were tipping more you didn't see.

    I will say though assuming you spent more money and she didn't know them she could be one of the dancers who judge customers by looks. These are generally young, new dancers. Personally, I always spent more time with the less attractive customers because they were the ones who generally spent more on me.

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    When I was a dancer, money always won out over looks. I actually refused to dance for men I found attractive. That rule minimized my risk of getting distracted.

    Either way, I agree we don't have enough particulars to make an accurate assessment. I will say this though. I hate when girls bitch about making nothing when all they did all night was fuck off with the young broke guys. Priorities: haz them.

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    I'm a bigger guy too and I haven't noticed the difference. I do find that strippers in the club expect more out of me now that I'm in my 30s, as opposed to my college days, when the women knew I was probably flat broke and so didn't even bother trying to get me into the CR and were just content to sell me the cheap dances. But that's a function of money, not looks. Anyway, some strippers will come up to me immediately, some will come up to me later in the night, and some will stand in the middle of the room trying to be the wallflower hoping the guys approach them. Some will hang out with guys they know, either personally or because they're big spenders. Some will even bring their boyfriend, which makes no sense to me at all because it ruins the fantasy that they're selling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KeithDoxen View Post
    I'm a bigger guy too and I haven't noticed the difference. I do find that strippers in the club expect more out of me now that I'm in my 30s, as opposed to my college days, when the women knew I was probably flat broke and so didn't even bother trying to get me into the CR and were just content to sell me the cheap dances. But that's a function of money, not looks. Anyway, some strippers will come up to me immediately, some will come up to me later in the night, and some will stand in the middle of the room trying to be the wallflower hoping the guys approach them. Some will hang out with guys they know, either personally or because they're big spenders. Some will even bring their boyfriend, which makes no sense to me at all because it ruins the fantasy that they're selling.
    I've been anywhere from 'on weight' to 75lbs over, and every pound in between. I will say at the bars /I/ go to (which aren't many) I tend to get more attention BEFORE I start spending money the thinner I am. My closest friends are all in the 100+ range and when I'm with them 'first contact' can take longer. I chalk that up to:

    1) Harder to dance for a guy that jiggles under you
    2) smell factor, since some of us fat dudes do stink (esp. during the summer).
    3) If you don't know how much either guy is gonna spend, why not try the least repulsive guy first.

    Now, these are stereotypes and I'm speaking from /my/ experience only. I notice that after I tip the waitress a few extra bucks and tip at the stage and offer to buy a dancer a drink the other dancers tend to come over to the rest of the group.

    As always YMMV, as does mine.

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    I go to everyone no matter heavy/thin /short/tall/attractive or ugly. However I do have to admit that a few years ago when I met my now fiance, I did get a bit distracted for a few weeks while he came in. I did sit with him for long periods of time because I loved our conversations. Of course I'd take little breaks to quickly go make money but it definitely made me look bad (and my finances took a small dip!). This would be the one and only time that my feelings took precedence over making money lol

    Maybe Dancer C geniunely liked talking to that customer? Sometimes it's nice just to talk to a guy at work that you sincerely enjoy rather than having to fake it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisDay View Post
    I've been anywhere from 'on weight' to 75lbs over, and every pound in between. I will say at the bars /I/ go to (which aren't many) I tend to get more attention BEFORE I start spending money the thinner I am. My closest friends are all in the 100+ range and when I'm with them 'first contact' can take longer. I chalk that up to:

    1) Harder to dance for a guy that jiggles under you
    2) smell factor, since some of us fat dudes do stink (esp. during the summer).
    3) If you don't know how much either guy is gonna spend, why not try the least repulsive guy first.

    Now, these are stereotypes and I'm speaking from /my/ experience only. I notice that after I tip the waitress a few extra bucks and tip at the stage and offer to buy a dancer a drink the other dancers tend to come over to the rest of the group.

    As always YMMV, as does mine.
    My boyfriend is a big dude (probably 100+, idk really) and when he goes out with his buddy (who is "normal" weight) his friend normally gets approached more, and also generally gets higher milage. I always thought it was because my boyfriend is Spanish and his friend is white... but maybe the weight thing has something to do with it.... although I can promise you he doesn't smell lol. He is really self-conscious about that and always makes sure he smells good.

    Anyway, I generally have had good experiences dancing for big guys, but I remember a thread on here a while back about this and some girls were saying they didn't like it because they found it difficult. So yeah I guess that makes sense.

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    You said this was a birthday celebration? It's possible she thought she would get money out of them eventually for the birthday boy's "fun." For awhile after I started, I always pounced on birthday groups because I thought they'd be easy prey (everyone should be buying the birthday boy a dance, right?) Well, unfortunately, that's really not how it works. So now I don't give a flip why anybody's there or what they're celebrating. But if she's new, it's possible this is what she was thinking too and what she was hoping to make money off of.

    It's also possible that she figured she had gotten all she was going to get out of you after $400. I was always really bad about trying to keep getting money out of guys who had just spent a bunch on me. I figured if they wanted more, if they would have gotten more, not set me free. If they set me free after spending a lot, I figured, then they're done spending on me, so I should move on. Also not true, but a newbie mistake.

    Or, like others have said, maybe they were friends? There are many reasons this could have happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    I can't explain it to you either really. All I can say is that if it were me and I had someone tipping me 5's vs 1's you can be damn sure he'd be getting plenty of my attention when I got off stage. I don't care what people look like, I care how much $ you're willing to part with. Maybe she's new. Maybe she hasn't got her hustle down. Maybe she's just there for the party. Maybe they were giving her money, and she just banked off all of you. Who knows. Hopefully you had a good time anyway though.
    This.

    New girls often don't really understand what their job entails. I must admit, I used to have similar thoughts before I started dancing. I told my stripper friend, "I don't know how you manage to dance for all the old or fat or ugly guys, I don't think I could dance for anyone I wasn't attracted to." And of course, as soon as I started dancing, I realized how ridiculous this is. Because for any professional stripper, attraction doesn't even enter into the equation. I give the exact same dance to a guy who looks like a Calvin Klein model as I do to an elderly or overweight man...as long as they tip the same. If the older man is tipping $100 per song whereas the model guy is tipping $10 per song (provided they are both respecting the no-touching rule), the older man is going to get a MUCH better dance, no question about it.

    There are a lot of girls who get into this industry for the wrong reasons. They think it's going to bring them into some type of glamorous lifestyle...they think that they can act like they do at regular clubs, where they get drunk and have guys buying them drinks and fawning over them all night. They don't understand that any successful stripper has to a have a certain level of professionalism...because regardless of how different this atmosphere is, it's still your job or career, and you should treat it as such.

    The good news is, the majority of these girls do not last very long in this industry. After a few weeks of getting drunk at the bar and flirting with ridiculously young, attractive customers, they begin to notice that they are making significantly less money than the other strippers who approach every customer in the club and understand that time is money, and that money isn't just going to fall into your lap because you're drunk and attractive. One word of advice: whenever you go to a club and want to get a real experience with a stripper who won't blow you off, ask the bouncer or bartender or DJ for a recommendation of a professional girl. Even if they always recommend a girl who tips them well at the end of the night, those party-girl type strippers almost NEVER think to tip employees like they should. This should help improve your next strip club trip

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moose11 View Post
    I went to one of my favorite clubs last night -- Hustler in Baltimore -- with some cash to spend. I happened to walk in the same time as two guys celebrating a birthday. To make this short, we were all young (mid-20s) and while I am a big guy the other guys were attractive. One gorgious girl (call her "C") had just started her shift. While everyone else was tipping her stage performance two bucks at a time I tipped her five bucks at a time.

    C went off to the smoke area and talked to one of the attractive guys for a while. C and I eventually got two sets of lapdances and an hour VIP/champagne room. Both times I tipped her well.

    What I didn't get is that she spent all of her down time with the attractive guy that bought her nothing the four hours we were there. Not to come across as jealous, but why spend time with someone that is buying nothing but is cute and ignore the guy that spent $400 on you? I don't get it...
    Quote Originally Posted by ChrisDay View Post
    I've been anywhere from 'on weight' to 75lbs over, and every pound in between. I will say at the bars /I/ go to (which aren't many) I tend to get more attention BEFORE I start spending money the thinner I am. My closest friends are all in the 100+ range and when I'm with them 'first contact' can take longer. I chalk that up to:

    1) Harder to dance for a guy that jiggles under you
    2) smell factor, since some of us fat dudes do stink (esp. during the summer).
    3) If you don't know how much either guy is gonna spend, why not try the least repulsive guy first.

    Now, these are stereotypes and I'm speaking from /my/ experience only. I notice that after I tip the waitress a few extra bucks and tip at the stage and offer to buy a dancer a drink the other dancers tend to come over to the rest of the group.

    As always YMMV, as does mine.
    Quote Originally Posted by KeithDoxen View Post
    I'm a bigger guy too and I haven't noticed the difference. I do find that strippers in the club expect more out of me now that I'm in my 30s, as opposed to my college days, when the women knew I was probably flat broke and so didn't even bother trying to get me into the CR and were just content to sell me the cheap dances. But that's a function of money, not looks. Anyway, some strippers will come up to me immediately, some will come up to me later in the night, and some will stand in the middle of the room trying to be the wallflower hoping the guys approach them. Some will hang out with guys they know, either personally or because they're big spenders. Some will even bring their boyfriend, which makes no sense to me at all because it ruins the fantasy that they're selling.
    Aaaaaw, I love big fellas. I just want to take you three (separately, in private) and give you hugs and motorboats.

    I must say, if the girl was hanging with this guy for free, he might have been her boyfriend or fuck buddy, and they were just hanging out. Me, I personally did not allow my boyfriends to the club, but not all dancers are smart like that.

    Anyway, with the exception of a few, most bigger guys I've danced for have been absolutely wonderful, fun, funny, generous, and sweet, one of my favorite customer bases.

    Don't worry about that silly little girl, but don't forget, you're in the club having fun, but its still a business transaction. When she's not with you, she has the freedom to do what she wants, and you may not know exactly what's going on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Aaaaaw, I love big fellas. I just want to take you three (separately, in private) and give you hugs and motorboats.
    Now there's an offer I can't refuse!

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    She is dumb. I personally would not have made that error. I woulda given u tons of attention. I don't even talk to hot guys usually. Most the time their attitudes suck.

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    Some girls don't take work seriously and treat it as a place to party. However that being said, they may have been paying her more than you saw..

    I generally avoid the guys I fin attractive over the guys less generically attractive unless someone is paying me particular attention. A lot of the 'hot' guys have attitude problems and say things like, 'why would I pay you to dance for me when I can get it from other girls for free?'
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    I worked there!!! Whew, okay... well, I wouldn't have made the same mistake. I maybe would have stuck around for 10 extra minutes but eventually would have put the cute guys in the category of "time-wasters". She was probably new.

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    Maybe he had good weed ?
    As other said, it could be anything really. Who knows. That is just my guess.

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    Lol, you are describing a pretty standard work night when I worked. I would make $$$ off the large guy because large guys are neat, and then I would float back and forth to young cute guys who gave me money to hang out.

    I found it easiest to get money from people I found to be attractive than to waste energy trying to sell 1 dance to everyone in the building. Some of those girls giggling with 22 year olds are getting 20s slipped to them every song or so.

    I found a wide range (hah) of folks attractive when I danced, but I only worked a fraction of the room. It was the laser on a few vs. buckshot everyone thing (hat tip to Paris, who stated it more elegantly).

    And certainly sometimes you downtime with friends who tip at stage and keep you looking busy for the paying customers that may be an hour or more apart.

    And sometimes you have 400 easy dollars off some fat dude and why not just coast all night with the cute guys.

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    I can relate to this from the other side. People must think either the dancers at MM's club are dumb, or that I spend a LOT of money, lol. Aside from the people who assume I'm a pimp, which has happened more than I'd like, LMAO.

    Fact is - I spend a little, ALL the time. And most of the dancers know me, either ITC a LOT or hanging with us OTC. So when I'm there, my table becomes the default "break table" when they want to take some time but not get yelled at for hanging out in back or sitting at the bar - the managers won't get after them for sitting with me, because I DO spend money - and I'm good at getting other guys in the room spending money, too.

    So there's a long version of - +1 to the "coulda been a lot of things" replies.

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    Thank friggin' goodness there are plenty of dancers who choose the spender, otherwise I'd be spending one night a month downing very expensive drinks while listening to music that I'm now too old to understand.
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    i usually go to the biggest losers first and work my way to less of losers, but still losers. hot guys are content about getting chicks and usually just wanna flaunt their ego, annoy me or try to pick up.
    at least losers are quite happy to put their ego in check and spend along.
    maybe shes new and the guys were all like 'we totally gonna come back next week and bring 1000s to spend on you if ou hang around and convince us why we should come back' and other bullshit i delt with in my early days.
    i hope you know not to expect her to hang out for the rest of the night with you once you made it clear you werent buying any more dances.
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    Here is a related question, and perhaps might be relevant to an even bigger topic. Do customers.who exhibit traits of generosity, class and willingness to spend $$$$ regardless of looks, become "attractive" in the mind of the dancer? after all,if the dancer's "world" revolves around looking for "wallet, that "world could very well shape the way the dancer thinks ofmen(it was covered in other topics on this forum)
    This very thought makes guys who dated dancers more prone to jealousy (I never dated a dancer but the thought did cross my mind - if I dated one could another customer" spend his way in with a combination of $$$, charisma, and class)

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    Gimme a fat / older guy. This is who I want to talk to.

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    Start talking!!!!!!


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    flyguy29 - this is why you date the gorgeous smart dancers who never make as much money as they could because they can't stand the clients, lol.

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