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    I don't know what to think of this or what to do. I just had an interview for a personal training company today, it went well, and he's having me start by shadowing someone this week. Great, awesome. But now I just checked my facebook and he's sending me a request to be friends? Is this normal? I found the add on craigslist, met for an interview at a chain gym, and I'd be working for a private training company that contracts with gyms. He manages all the locations in the area. I did think I breezed through the interview process but I figured it was my certifications and availability.. My profile is work friendly, but I just find it odd he's so eager to be in my personal info. If I didn't already make plans to show up and work, I would probably reconsider, that's great he picked me out of 800 applicants but he better not expect me to be *that* thankful for it.. Or am I just being jaded and this 30 something yr old single guy is just snooping to make sure I'm not a flake??

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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    He's probably checking up on you. Just ignore the request and say that you don't know him in real life so he can't send you anymore.

    I doubt he'll confront you about it. Being FB friends isn't part of the job description.
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    Agreed. I wouldn't allow my co-workers/admins into my FB profile. That could just lead to one thing or another. I say quietly ignore the request and double-check your settings to make sure its completely private. I hate how people seem to abuse the privilege of having access to info you post on FB.
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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    He's probably just trying to be "tech savvy." I've never understood bosses or ex-bosses wanting to friend me on FB but they do... I wouldn't be worried about it being creepy unless you're the only employee he's friended. FB is becoming a place where people think you should be connected with everyone... personally, I think family and bosses should be kept off. But I have accepted my boss' friend requests. And then just be super heavy-handed with the privacy... put him in his own little list where he can see barely anything.

    If you don't want to, don't. He probably won't bring it up. Or, if he does, direct him to your LinkedIn profile instead, and say you prefer to keep your professional contacts on there (if you don't have one, you should get one).

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    I don't think you should accept him right now. See how the job goes first, sounds like he is just trying to check up on you like someone else mentioned. I use my Facebook for family and friends only, but where I work pretty much everyone is the same age as me and in college, even my manager, so I have them on my Facebook now, but I didn't have them on my first week working or anything, I got to know them first. The owner who is the one who hired me and he is not on my Facebook, and I wouldn't allow him on my Facebook. I feel comfortable with the girls, but I wouldn't feel comfortable with my owner and it's not because I have anything bad on my Facebook, but I see no reason to have him on it.




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    Ignore the friend request. See what the job is like. I avoid adding people from work though, it's kinda weird :p
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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    I have been reading that managers are doing this to snoop on employees. I find it creepy and my FB is set to private. I have a few former coworkers on there but they were ones I liked at work and were never my bosses.

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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    you can't just ignore the request because he might ask why or get all butt-hurt. thankfully facebook has decent privacy features and you can block him from seeing anything you want (if you add him) in the privacy section. i do it all the time. liiiike it'll say something such as "who can view your wall" and i put "everyone except -----". etc etc.

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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    Quote Originally Posted by Slutdust View Post
    you can't just ignore the request because he might ask why or get all butt-hurt. .
    Yeah, actually you can just ignore the request. You set the boundaries in your life and if an employer wants to roll over your boundaries, you never have to give up the right to say "No". I resented the imposition as soon as I read your post Gummybear. Anyone I don't know or don't trust simply doesn't get added and that includes my interfering mother, and other relatives too lazy to keep up with me in real life, and guys I'm dating who get obsessed with being added.
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    Yeah, you can ignore the request. Tell him you don't go on FB much if he asks.
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    Or set your profile so you're "unfindable". People who don't have me on their friends list or friends friends list can't find me on FB. It's awesome. Anytime anyone wants to add me, I'm like, you can't find me, give me your email or something and I can add you! lol
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    Default Re: Just got hired and boss friend requests me?

    Thanks for the suggestions guys. I went and made myself unable to be searched for for the future and I'm just letting the request linger there for now. He wasn't at my first day and it seems like mostly we only hear from him on the phone. The other two employees there are also kinda aprehensive about him and the trainer I shadowed advised me to just ignore it as long as possible. For the record he has not added the other trainer or the manager. I'm finding this kinda funny now that my first day jitters have passed. And while it'd be great to grow with a company it will also take as little as 6 mos experience to get hired some place else.

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