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    Okay, I have always been under the impression that I should tell customers that I am single (to keep with the fantasy). Plus, I really am single, so I figure just be honest. I'm starting to think this is backfiring.

    I know that I need to be single yet unattainable - but all these guys hear is OH SHE IS SINGLE! They get distracted away from paying me, and instead try to date me. I'm getting tired of saying to at LEAST 75% of my customers that I will NOT be going on a date with them, nor will I be going home with them!

    Should I start saying that I have a boyfriend, so this can be avoided?? Or, will that hurt my money?

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    Default Re: Should I say I'm Single or Not?

    Honesty never hurts.

    I would think that saying you have a boyfriend might backfire, because then those guys that really want to date you will try to find out about your boyfriend and what kind of qualities he has so that they can change themselves to be with you. Or diss your boyfriend and try to prove they're the better man, and you could take a mis-step and get caught in your lie, and the fact you were lying will hurt more than someone hitting on you a little more.

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    I say I don't have a boyfriend when I really do. I sometimes tell guys that I do and find that it ruins the mood completely.
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    Default Re: Should I say I'm Single or Not?

    I always say that I'm single . Or that I just broke up with my hot girlfriend and am super horny because of this.

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    I say I'm single. I usually am.
    If they try to date you say you're fresh out of a relationship and not ready to date, or explain that you hardly know them and aren't in the habit of going out with men you've only met once.

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    I prefer to tell the truth and say that I'm in a relationship, and most of the time I'm honest and it doesn't hurt my money. I think they either view it as a challenge or like the fact that I'm being "honest" with them. Sometimes, to keep them in the right frame of mind, I tell them that I'm allowed to play with girls but not with boys, so they still think of me as a naughty girl. I do still lie and say I'm single to certain guys, but I always say I just got out of a bad relationship. I've learned when and who to lie to, you can just tell with some guys that they won't spend any money if they don't think they have a chance. Every customer is different, so I adjust accordingly. I'm pretty good at reading them quickly, too, so if they seem like they're looking for a girlfriend, I bail. Too much effort for too little money, usually.

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    Most of the time I say I'm single unless I get creepy vibes from a guy and then I say I have a bf and he's an angry bouncer and he's picking me up from work soon and we're going home to have lots of sex.
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    You can laugh it off and tell them you have 7 - one for every day of the week

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    I've seen a lot of girls here say they're selling fantasy and that's cool if it works for them. I just don't believe in that. I'm selling a good time! I will light your cigars, I'll pour the champagne, I'll shoot the sh*t with you, I'll stroke your ego, I'll dance for you. That's where it fcking ends.

    I don't want customers that need to be deluded into thinking there's a chance they'll ever meet me OTC for sex or a relationship. I shut that down immediately.

    "Do you have a boyfriend"
    "Yes and yes we're happy, yes he knows I work here, and no he doesn't mind ( throaty giggle)"

    "Can I take you out"
    "How much will you pay me for my time" Should end that line of questioning. Even if he makes you an offer, it's never enough.

    I'm not advising you to do what I'd do and yes it would probably affect your money but I won't put myself through unecessary bull for some extra money. Not worth it. That's just me.
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    Default Re: Should I say I'm Single or Not?

    There are many ways you could go about this:

    1) Say you're single, but make up a bunch of shit you have to do in your off-time. Make up kids, school, pets, clubs, say you commute 2 hours to get to that club, yada yada. You're single but you're always busy and just don't have time for them OTC.

    2) Say you have a bf, but say you are miserable with him. Make the guy believe that you are "trapped" in a crappy relationship. He will hope that one day you will leave your "bad bf" for him, but in the meantime, he understands that you can't see him... yet. Never "break up" with crappy imaginary bf.

    3) Say you have a gf.

    4) Say you have a bf and that you're happy together, and he trusts you to work at the SC just fine. Depending on the guy, you can a) just go about your business because he won't care and will spend regardless, or b) drop hints that you're really "not as innocent" as your bf thinks you are, and make them believe you are a "bad girlfriend" who will get naughty in the club, and they get to see you being "bad" when your bf isn't around. (No, not as in extras, just... you know what I mean)

    5) Make a silly joke and change the subject. Or say you don't like to talk about your personal life and want to just focus on the fun you two can have together that night.

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    I tell them the only relationship I'm interested in is with Ben Franklin.
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    Default Re: Should I say I'm Single or Not?

    If the guy seems like he's going to bug the shit out of you about going out to eat, tell him you're married/dating someone.

    If the guy seems young, relaxed, and there to have a good time tell him you're single.
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    I find the ones that ask are just going to bug you all night about it, i've found it much easier just saying i'm in a relationship even when i'm not. But it does depend on the guy. When I do say that i'm single they never believe me anyway *shrugs*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post



    4) Say you have a bf and that you're happy together, and he trusts you to work at the SC just fine. Depending on the guy, you can a) just go about your business because he won't care and will spend regardless, or b) drop hints that you're really "not as innocent" as your bf thinks you are, and make them believe you are a "bad girlfriend" who will get naughty in the club, and they get to see you being "bad" when your bf isn't around. (No, not as in extras, just... you know what I mean)
    I kinda use this one too. I also tell the customer something like "oh, not only he's ok with it; he brags to his friends about me doing this job. You don't know how excited he is about me doing this job".





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    I get around answering the question by joking, "I have LOTS of boyfriends." And they're always like, "Wow, yeah, I bet you do!" and let it drop. I've never once had a guy push me for an answer after that.

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    I was married twice but I just have always said I was single in any club. Guys want to believe they have a chance with me/you so why kill that fantasy. It leads to a better spend and they come back looking for me.

    Escorting is a different story. Some guys ask/want a married escort for whatever reason and some don't care.

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    Depending on the club/customer/atmosphere/vibe etc. I will either wear my wedding ring ( happily married for 2.5years ! ) or I will tell them I am in a poly relationship. Alot of times guys ask me what that means and I say that it means I have a bf and a gf and that I play well with others.

    Customers with class will respect that you are not covering your marriage up. Some of them even like it, you are a challenge. It really depends but usually these types are time wasters who are trying to take you OTC and never get dances. I prefer honesty or a little joke " I have a long term relationship with Ben we are super close." " I have several, hey gotta switch it up right!" " I have a hot GF, but I'm only 1/2 gay so it's fun."

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    I always try to keep my conversations light, fun and sexy.

    "Looking like this? I have lots of boyfriends ... and girlfriends!"
    "The only guy who gets me hot is a Benjamin"

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    I used to tell the truth. Now I lie and say I am single. I def make more money that way....Also when I tell them the truth they start getting all personal on me. Asking me many questions about my personal life. I feel this kills the mood and the fantasy I am trying to sell. Plus I dont like talking about my personal life with them.

    However I like this idea of saying I have several bfs...im totally using this next time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    I get around answering the question by joking, "I have LOTS of boyfriends." And they're always like, "Wow, yeah, I bet you do!" and let it drop. I've never once had a guy push me for an answer after that.
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    I always say

    "I have many boyfriends... which one do you wanna talk about. Why stop at one, I have alotta love to give *wink*"

    funny enough it ends the topic with a chuckle from the customer
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