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    I just needed to vent to someone since my friends seem to have disappeared. I just feel bad about myself lately like I cant seem to get anything done. I still live with my parents, I dropped out of school, dont have a job. (I danced for a few months but quit after my parents started to suspect).This is also depressing me because i miss dancing alot. I have a hard time getting motivated to work a regular job. I can go back to school in January but i dont know what to do for the next few months.
    A part of me wants to say to hell with it and dance anyway, but I dont want to risk losing my family either. But aside from that, i realized Im still afraid of my father. He used to have a bad temper and used to be abusive. Now hes changed, a born again christian. But i still fear him the way I did when I was a little girl. I guess Im not totally convinced thats hes changed...he seems to have mood swings, he is very judgemental (i mean he complains about women today and gays 24/7). I also have completley different views as him (im agnostic, very liberal too). Sometimes I want to pack my bags and disappear. I just feel stuck and no idea what I want to do with my life. Thanks for whoever takes the time to read this. I just feel alone and needed to reach out.

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    I'm so sorry! I've been in kind of a similar situation. I was in an abusive relationship about three years ago, and was stuck living with the guy while I went to college. I ended up dropping out of college and moving back home, much to the dismay of my family - who didn't believe my story of abuse and thought I was just making things up. It caused a major rift between my family and I that might never be completely resolved.

    Things ended up getting a lot better for me, though - as I found my current boyfriend (who I've been with for two years), got my own place with him, started dancing, etc.

    So yeah, I'm currently dancing and don't really have a lot of interest in going back to school. I think the biggest thing that I needed to do for me was have a sense of my own independence. Living with my mom was fine as a temporary getaway, but it wasn't going to work long-term. It was too hard and stressful. Plus, when you live on your own - it gives you the strength to feel like you can make your own life decisions and stick by them. At least...it did for me.

    Hoping you can figure things out for yourself! Good luck!

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    First of all, realize that at 22, you still have plenty of time to accomplish many things. Sure, a lot of people are graduating college by 22, but it's still not "old" by any means. And I know way more people who are in their mid-20s who have not accomplished the "traditional" things people think they should, than people who are my own age (22 as well) and have done all that stuff. Trust me, you are not that far behind, so relax about "not being accomplished."

    I'm so sorry you're still scared of your father. Maybe you could suggest family counseling if you really want to repair your relationship with your parents? If you don't want to, that's fine. Personally, I would take whatever job(s) you can find right now and just fill your time working and saving as much as possible. You won't have too much time to worry about things or be around your parents, and you'll be saving money so you can move out. Then, when you have enough saved, get your own place. I think one of your biggest problems right now is being trapped under your parents' roof. You'll be in a much better position to decide what to do with yourself once you're on your own, have the freedom to make your own choices without them finding out or judging you or getting mad, and don't have their negative polarizing views bringing you down. Right now, you have some very big, important life decisions to make about school, work, and other things. You need the room to be able to make these on your own without your family breathing down your neck.

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    Start dancing again, and webcam when your parents are out, save up, and when you have enough money, move out.. you can do what you like then Wether it's go back to school, get a normal job, save for a deposit on a house, whatever. You are so young at 22, I really would not worry for a second that it's "too late", you have years ahead of you to accomplish things. Right now focus on making some cash and getting a place of your own. Once you are out of your parents house and standing on your own two feet, you will start to see that your parents opinion of you isn't everything, and that generally, they come good in the end anyway Good luck hun xx

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    It's okay, I'm 24 and the most I've accomplished in life is getting knocked up (twice) and getting married. Which aren't really "accomplishments", lol. I dropped out of community college and failed many courses in the last two semesters because I was depressed and irresponsible. I've only had crappy, dead-end jobs and there's not a lot that I've done that I'm really "proud of"... yet.

    Sometimes it brings me down to think about all of this, but I try to use my regret to motivate myself instead. I don't want to be 30 looking back on the past 6 years with regret... I want to look at these years with a sense of pride and accomplishment. The past is the past and there's nothing I can do about it, but I CAN do something about the present and the future. That's what I need to focus on!

    If I were you, I'd get a regular job for the next few months and save up as much money as you can. I wouldn't strip or do webcam just yet, because your dad sounds a bit unpredictable... even though he's "changed", you never know if he'd just flip out and beat you if he found out what you were doing. Don't deal with the stress of that... just work, save money, and move out as soon as you possibly can. THEN you can pursue dancing and other interests. I would HATE to live with your dad... I hate sexist, racist homophobic people especially when they try to call themselves "Christian" at the same time.

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    i dont think its really that hopeless. 22 is young, i will be 22 next week lol.
    i was worried about mum finding out, why dont you go back to dancing and use the money to move out? kill two birnds with one stone.
    or if you wanna study its easier to live at home so ou can go back and finished whatever you dropped out of. if you dont know, theres really good career tests online that give you a few different fields and positions suited to our personality.
    relax, your life is not over yet and its never too late to start again. my mum just did at 41
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    Thank you ladies for all your support and advice. Im going to set a goal to move out by the end of this year-Im sure ill feel much better to be on my own. And your right, 22 is still very young but my family makes me feel like I should have my own business now or something,lol. Thanks again xoxo

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    [quote=Smurfette;2199906]
    Sometimes it brings me down to think about all of this, but I try to use my regret to motivate myself instead. I don't want to be 30 looking back on the past 6 years with regret...




    Even if u r 30 and u look back on your life with regret you can still TURN UR LIFE AROUND AT 30 AND START MAKING BETTER DECISIONS IMMEDIATELY. Finding the strength to see mistakes and then make improvements is how people learn and grow. Its the people who never learn and spend a lifetime making all the same mistakes who really have something to feel bad about IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    It's okay, I'm 24 and the most I've accomplished in life is getting knocked up (twice) and getting married. Which aren't really "accomplishments", lol. I dropped out of community college and failed many courses in the last two semesters because I was depressed and irresponsible. I've only had crappy, dead-end jobs and there's not a lot that I've done that I'm really "proud of"... yet.

    Sometimes it brings me down to think about all of this, but I try to use my regret to motivate myself instead. I don't want to be 30 looking back on the past 6 years with regret... I want to look at these years with a sense of pride and accomplishment. The past is the past and there's nothing I can do about it, but I CAN do something about the present and the future. That's what I need to focus on!

    If I were you, I'd get a regular job for the next few months and save up as much money as you can. I wouldn't strip or do webcam just yet, because your dad sounds a bit unpredictable... even though he's "changed", you never know if he'd just flip out and beat you if he found out what you were doing. Don't deal with the stress of that... just work, save money, and move out as soon as you possibly can. THEN you can pursue dancing and other interests. I would HATE to live with your dad... I hate sexist, racist homophobic people especially when they try to call themselves "Christian" at the same time.
    Wow. I could have written that! I'm 24 too and have only managed to get knocked up twice! I do have motivation but I seem to get stuck. Self-sabotage or something.

    OP, might it be a good idea to spend the next couple of years studying whilst living with your parents (but avoiding your dad as much as possible), then moving out with a good qualification behind you? Perhaps using dancing to fund the move? Apologies if staying with your parents is not a viable option and things are very bad for you at home, I was just thinking along the lines of it is easier to study whilst not having bills to pay x

    Good luck x

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    I'd just tell my folks I had a job. I'd say it was 45 mins away so they'd never check. I'd also be blaming my boyfriend and friends a lot. I'd say I was spending the night over there.
    Living with your parents is miserable I know. So do what you have to do to finally get that freedom.
    Bitch? Actually I'm an evil cunt. Slut? Try dirty little whore. Either way, you have to pay for it.

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    At 22 I was trying to stay awake going to college and dancing! I had accomplished nothing either. I was married and separated and had a baby. But dancing and some escorting back then got me through it all! Don't give up! 22 is so young I almost cannot remember it! You will have better days!

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    hey my dad is an unemployed 46 year old loser who owes over 50k in child support to various women he slept with- feel any better?

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