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    How do you still give off that i'm-too-sexy-for-this-club, ultra-hot, super stripper aura when you're feeling/looking like shit??

    I don't look especially different, but my confidence is a bit sunken and I'm paying more attention to tiny flaws.

    What are some of the things you ladies do to get into your "sexy zone"? Haha

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    Nothing beats a hard, long workout for feeling your sexiest.

    Not over eating.

    I always feel my best in general when my house and car are clean.

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    I agree on the clean house/car.
    I also always make sure that my hair extensions are pre straightened the night before I work and my legs are pre shaven(which I do when I get HOME from work), lol...takes some time off of getting ready so I can really focus on doing my hair and makeup perfect.
    *Maybe head to MAC makeup/fave upscale makeup counter and buy a couple new items?
    *Try tanning before work if you haven't already...always gives me a confidence boost.
    * Listen to some good music while you are getting ready

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    I'm going to the beach tomorrow to lay out and get a pretty new tan. <3

    Also I feel a lot better if I listen to my favorite, sex appealing music on my way to work.

    If I had the spare cash, I would get my stupid tattoo covered up.

    Plus I just ditched a regular who seriously did some self esteem damage, so maybe that'll prove to be a positive change too

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    Working out definitely. It seems counter productive but if I go on a long, hard, run, before my shift, I can leave all my anxiety on the road and go into work feeling fit and chill.

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    Behavioral cognitive therapy....brainwash yourself. I actually have one tit higher than the other, and half of my face doesn't smile as much as the other and when those things get me down (among other things) I just tell myself I'm a hot ass sideways slut. Oh you mutherfawkers like this cockeyed shit don't you? Yeah you will eat it up. Lopsided never looked so good. This is actually BETTER and symetrical is overated. I'm special...I'm selling more because of this....blah blah blah so on and so forth. You can do all you want on the outside or during the day before work but a real change in attitude comes from within

    btw no one can see these things but me anyway.

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    If you want to talk about the dramz with the regz you can always head on over to life support and get it off your chest. We'll confirm that you're in the right completely so you get on with your bad self.

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    I have a barely-there work dress that makes me suck my stomach in, stick my ass out and push my shoulders back.
    No matter how shit I feel, if I put that on, I can saunter around the club and feel a million bucks

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    cocaine
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    go to walmart and look around at the general population



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    Quote Originally Posted by gypsydancer View Post
    go to walmart and look around at the general population
    hahahaha!

    For work, I always have one go-to outfit that makes me feel hot no matter what.

    Workout HARD, clean my house, and pamper myself with nails, facial, a hot soak in a bubble bath, sugar scrub, and lotions. With candles. I love scented candles.
    "You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories -Stainslaw J. Lec

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    papilonluvr , very good suggestions for the op. i am going to be going back to dancing in about a month (after a year off) and have been felling un-sexy also, yesterday i was at walmart and was thinking whoa, i can't believe ive been feeling fat, when i looked around.



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    Spend a little time on yourself/do something extra for yourself every day before work.
    Even if it's something stupid like having your nails painted, a little pick-me-up can do wonders for getting you into the "I'm too hot for you" zone.
    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    When you're at work, getting ready in the dressing room, look in the mirror and mentally compliment the great things about yourself.

    "Damn, I've got amazingly beautiful eyes"
    "My waist is super teeny."
    "I love the curve of my lowerback down to my bum"

    Don't focus on the negative things, becasue the men aren't. They're busy thinking about the alluring, positive aspects of your body' so you should be too.

    It also might not hurt to look around and see what differentiates your body/self from the other dancers, in a positive way. You don't need to be internally catty or anything, but thinking "Woah, I've got the most toned arms in this club!" or "I've got the perkiest titties out of everyone!" can really do a lot to boost your mood and get that internal 'I'm the sexiest bitch in the place' dialog going.



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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    laxative + caffeine + red lipstick and I'm good to go.
    Woah woah woah. Laxative before work!?
    ...HOW!?
    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    So my waist is smaller durrrr. Laxatives don't typically interfere with work......

    WHAT?

    ....I'd poo all over the Champagne room...



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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    WHAT?

    ....I'd poo all over the Champagne room...

    And someone would pay for it You gonna be shitting on bitches
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    i usually feel my best when ive actually put the time an effort into my hair, i always do my makeup, but its my hair that lets me down, when i leave it stright, i feel too normal, not glam at all, and i feel it makes my shoulders look broader, so when i take the time to curl it, i feel a whole lot better.

    Do somthing that normally makes u feel better, and look how u think u look sexy.

    x

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    also to add, me an a friend tried this thing, where you talk to each other like ur gonna have the best night ever, and plan what ur gonna do with all that money you made, and how hot the guys think u both are. it really does work! well it did for us lol. try it

    xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by peachplumpear View Post
    Behavioral cognitive therapy....brainwash yourself. I actually have one tit higher than the other, and half of my face doesn't smile as much as the other and when those things get me down (among other things) I just tell myself I'm a hot ass sideways slut. Oh you mutherfawkers like this cockeyed shit don't you? Yeah you will eat it up. Lopsided never looked so good. This is actually BETTER and symetrical is overated. I'm special...I'm selling more because of this....blah blah blah so on and so forth. You can do all you want on the outside or during the day before work but a real change in attitude comes from within

    btw no one can see these things but me anyway.
    I'm so in love with your attitude! I'm actually a little bit egotistical when I'm not feeling insecure, (like that makes sense..) and I also try to tell myself how awesome my flaws are. Like, I actually kind of like that my nose is a little big and my teeth are a little crooked. And I think some of my customers appreciate that my body is natural, flaws and all!

    Everything else that I just CAN'T learn to like, I learn to laugh at. Hell, its funny that I only have stretchmarks on my tits and ass. And everyone has lopsided boobs...I repeat: everyone! (I also felt much better about them when I saw a girl with implants gone horribly wrong.)

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    As far as exercise goes, I think I'm gonna buy a pole for at home. I love doing pole tricks, but they only have static poles at work and I need to be on the floor busting ass anyway.

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    Definitely get a pole for home.

    Among other things- getting my nails did, cleaning up the house- my other pick me up is pole dancing to Hamster Dance. It is impossible to not be happy when dancing to that song.

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    Nothing like getting plowed before work
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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    WHAT?

    ....I'd poo all over the Champagne room...
    ^ ^
    Me too. Take pro-biotic capsules. Much safer.
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    I try to eat gluten free all the time, but if I've been cheating, I at least eat gluten-free 24 hours before work and feel less bloated and lethargic.

    I go on stage before customers come in, not so much to warm up as to check how my outfit, hair etc looks on stage. Often I'll notice that my face looks washed out and I need to reapply bronzer or more eyeliner. Or that my bra isn't doing my boobs justice. So I go and change before the shift starts.

    Also, stretching for 10 minutes before each shift. I do basic stretches for calves, biceps, back etc. But also some pilates or yoga poses designed to energise (downward dog), tone the core (pilates plank) or just standing on my toes and reaching for the ceiling, then bending down. Apart from being good for your general physical condition, it makes you walk taller and feel leaner when you hit the floor.

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    Something that makes me feel good (besides putting a little extra effort into hair and makeup), is sometimes getting a new outfit or shoes for work. It makes me happy and wanna show off.

    I also listen to happy, upbeat, sexy music on my ride into work. Helps put me in the sexy mindset

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