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    Default Coming across Captain Save a Ho

    "You're too good to be doing this."

    How many times do you hear this shit??? I know that right now, this moment I am burnt out. I wondered if I ever would get burnt out, but I am sure of it now, summer was long, and I'm tired of everything, but especially this line... after this comes an offer to exchange numbers, take you out to this fancy restaurant that only famous people go to, invitation to go out on a yacht.
    They all want to 'save' you from your obviously sad, pathetic and demeaning life/career. Who the fuck do these guys think they are??? They can't even save themselves from coming into a strip club every other week and blowing their whole pay checks in 30 minutes.
    I'm just wondering, why? Why do all these men think they can make our lives so much better? Why do they make the assumption that we have nothing going for us? Why do they think I hate my job?

    Lastly, I have to ask myself why I sit with them for 2 seconds longer after hearing this.......

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    Captain Save a Ho! LMAO! I love it!

    I really hate these guys. I had a foreign guy once ask me why my parents didn't take care of me instead... then why my bf didn't take care of me rather than "making me do this"... Then he tried to tell me that he could help me by getting me a job that would pay 10 whole dollars an hour I tried to talk him through why this was demeaning and why parents and, especially boyfriends, don't "take care" of most people in their 20s as it was obvious he was from some sort of country where this would be the norm. Then I told him that if he really wanted to help me earn enough money to leave the club, he should buy dances. He said no... Yeah, mmhmm... you really have my best interest at heart.

    I honestly almost quit once just because I had week straight of just jerk after jerk delivering me the "you're too good for this" line. I just couldn't take it anymore. It's probably the most insulting thing I can possibly hear in the club - it's not just a generic "slut/whore/crackhead" insult that anybody could toss at a sex worker, hoping it sticks - it's a genuine implication that I am basically stupid for choosing to do what I do. Ugh... just... yeah. I could on and on about this special breed of asshole who would be astounded to find out that he is, truly, an asshole, just like every other schmuck in the club. But I don't want to be typing all night lol

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    Some men just can't wrap their head around the fact that some women might actually LIKE being on stage, or being naked, or being social. Those are the top three things about this job, besides the money on good nights. Even though you try to explain to them that you like your job, its like talking to a wall. Granted, there are some things I don't like about the job, such as coming across Captain Save a Ho, but regardless of what career anyone chooses there will always be things you would rather not have to deal with. So them asking if I like dealing with drunk assholes or groping slobs doesn't make me change my outlook on my job, or life, or whatever the fuck they're hoping to brainwash me into... dammit man!

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    I always laughed at these men, especially when they had "suggestions". One guy owned a store and was going to hire me for a minimum wage job. Yeah, I'm going to quit a lucrative job dealing with assholes to work at a store also dealing with assholes but making less in a month than I made in a night. Or the jerks who would suggest I become a housewife to a rich man. I'd rather make my own money than have to depend on a man, especially if the money came with a price (like he was abusive or a cheater).

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    I think it depends on the clubs. At the more upscale ones I don't run into them as much as the lower class ones.

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    If only I could have memorized this and said it to these genetic abominations:
    "Being too good for you is what makes you think that a back-handed compliment is every going to get you anywhere with anyone who has a vagina within these walls. The only use I have for retarded men like you is to take your money as fast as possible so that you can leave as fast as possible while keeping your mouth shut as long as possible. You've now even failed at having a stripper, who only talks to you for money, wanting anything to do with you. Good going, Retardo Man. Now run along now and play in traffic."

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    lol @ good going retardo man!!
    i laughed so hard i snorted!!! lol crying!!!)))

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    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    "You're too good to be doing this."

    How many times do you hear this shit??? I know that right now, this moment I am burnt out. I wondered if I ever would get burnt out, but I am sure of it now, summer was long, and I'm tired of everything, but especially this line... after this comes an offer to exchange numbers, take you out to this fancy restaurant that only famous people go to, invitation to go out on a yacht.
    All the while they won't buy a $20 dance or give you $10 for sitting with them out of courtesy.

    I never ask for money for sitting with guys, but IMHO I consider $10 a nice gesture for a few minutes of conversation.



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    And yes I know some of us get paid much much more then $10 to sit for a few minutes, but then again these types of guys are few and far between. I once made $1,600 for sitting with a guy who berated me throughout the night and did not buy a single dance. He was so drunk out of his mind and was telling me I was too fat to dance and that he was paying so that he did not have to see my fat ass around the room and "shaking". Ironically the most other girls made out of him that night was $80 (he sent me up to tip rail to give a "old bitch" $40 to "stop dancing").



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    i get the, "your too good for this" line alot, but then its always backed up by them asking if i do extras, haha, sorta contradicting yourself there buddy. so im too good to dance but im not too good to give u a blowjob for a tenner? yeah...ok.
    I either go 2 ways with this line, igo mental and walk away to the next guy/sit down on my own, or i say "sweety, if girls like me wernt in here, who would u enjoy perving over?" or "If we were all munters you wouldnt be here" or something else along them lines, then ask for a dance, if its a no, ill walk away, i cant stand these idiots.

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    I've had a few guys like this.

    Last Saturday I was so busy, I had made just a little over half of the money I needed to 40 minutes before we closed, and I wound up making the rest of what I needed to in the last 40 minutes.

    This idiot that had been in a few weeks earlier and wasted a good ten minutes of my time came up to me and a customer at the bar while I was waiting to get my funny money from the VIP I had just finished and he was like, "come talk to me". He kept saying "I was his girl", and he is a complete idiot, it's funny to me. Anyhow I told him I wasn't sitting down, that he could either get a VIP or that I was moving on. I literally didn't sugar coat it. He agreed to get a VIP, he kept showing me pictures of his "1.2 million dollar house" and blah blah, but somehow he only wound up spending $100 on me--hah! He said he was rich, yeah buddy, the 19-year-old before you tipped me $60 and you tipped me $15. That's why I set a specific price for tips, so that guys can't just hand me $2.
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    Lol- I love how the guys who say they could "save you from this life" are the ones who spend the least money. Wow you can buy a dance you must be loaded Daddy!

    Why am I "too good" to make $100/hr but not "too good" to have a regular minimum wage job? No thanks!

    My favorite is when guys talk about how much money they have and then take their keys out of their pocket before they get a dance. "So you claim to have a yacht and a garage full of exotics, but you drove your Toyota Sienna van to the club tonight?"

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    I hadb 1 guy tell me today, your too good to be here ! I was like huh? he was like so am I , he got a dance but was full of shit, pretending to be above everyone else, weirdo.
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    eh. i used to think they were all capt save a ho types until i noticed how often they'd try to recruit me for other things. and by other things i mean letting them whore me out and keep the money i made. by "too good", they mean that they think they could make a lot of money off of you, and they don't like that you're in a club making potentially less money for yourself.

    seriously, if you're in south florida, you probably have just as many pimps using that line as you've got in tampa.

    yeah, i know there's plenty who aren't pimps, but even they are just trying to get you to fuck them because they *understand* you or whatever. they want you to get some shitty minimum wage job and be their live-in girlfriend, earning a roof over your head by sucking their dick.

    i think the clueless dudes are far and few between, and probably not likely to enter a strip club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I think it depends on the clubs. At the more upscale ones I don't run into them as much as the lower class ones.
    Not necessarily. I get it all the time & I work at the Admiral. The most memorable time, though, was in vip @ Rick's in NOLA. I always get told that I'm too smart for this. So exhausting.


    But then again, I have an ex that used to tell me I was too smart for my own good all the time as well. Never really understood this either. Man, I must be like a rocket scientist or something....lol
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    This is really no different than people who comment on how 'articulate' President Obama is without understanding what they're implying. They mean well. It's irritating, but those lowered expectations are great openings to surprise someone right out of their ideological rut into a new paradigm. If you can find your own approach to getting them to think about what they've said and why they said it, you might send the occasional guy home without his tired old stereotype. You, the sex worker, have the power. The simple question "Why? Why am I 'too good' to do this? What does that mean?" can open a discussion that can do some small part to heal the disease of sexual self-loathing that afflicts our culture. At the very least you can make the asker feel foolish.
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    It's valid to question how the asker thinks it would sound to inquire the same thing of a construction-worker or a garbage-collector, and then wonder what it is about sex or gender that changes the game.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FeministStripper View Post
    You, the sex worker, have the power. The simple question "Why? Why am I 'too good' to do this? What does that mean?" can open a discussion that can do some small part to heal the disease of sexual self-loathing that afflicts our culture. At the very least you can make the asker feel foolish.
    Yeah, I've attempted this a few times, but it just honestly isn't worth it to me. If a guy is from a different culture (like the one guy I described), he just isn't going to get it. And most guys, if asked, don't know what to say, or say something equally stupid to follow up their previously stupid "you're too good for this" comment. I've asked guys "why do you say that?" before and they're always like "Well, you actually seem smart and classy - you shouldn't be in here." If I try to tell them that stripping offers me freedom and more money than anywhere else, they try to argue with me that I would be so much better off with less money or working more days if I was at least working a "respectable job" and some try to then lecture me not to get involved with the drugs and the pimps... IMHO, these guys aren't saying this is because they think you're a drugged out whore - they're basically saying that you're not a drugged out whore and that's why they don't like you being in an industry where they think this is the norm and the common perception. Nothing you say is going to change their ideas that this is what the SC scene primarily is - with the exception of you, the one pure, innocent little stripper who they must save from the perils of this profession because you're a diamond in the rough... No matter what you say, you won't convince them that you are not the only sane, respectable stripper. The only way to make them feel foolish is to tell them flat-out that what they said was extremely insulting because they're calling you stupid, and then walk away in a huff... and that's not terribly good for your money.

    I agree these guys are annoying, but sometimes you can still make money off them if you just brush the comments aside. And getting into a debate about why they think what they do about strippers, and why they're wrong, and trying to make them feel foolish isn't exactly sexy foreplay into getting dances... I'm not at work to make a political point - I'm there to make money. People who won't spend money get ignored, people who will spend money but say stupid things get their money taken and then just bitched about on the internet

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    You're absolutely right. I always joked that I lost as much money as I made, but I grew to love the industry so much and to feel so passionately about the way society treats it and the women in it that I couldn't help myself. There was still plenty of money either way, so for me it was the right choice. I realize that I'm in the minority there, but I loved the debate so much and enjoyed exploring the subject so completely that I felt what I can only describe as a calling. Naked activism isn't for everybody, but if it's your thing, well, then the sex industry is an endless source of entertainment - not that it isn't already.
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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    eh. i used to think they were all capt save a ho types until i noticed how often they'd try to recruit me for other things. and by other things i mean letting them whore me out and keep the money i made. by "too good", they mean that they think they could make a lot of money off of you, and they don't like that you're in a club making potentially less money for yourself.

    seriously, if you're in south florida, you probably have just as many pimps using that line as you've got in tampa.

    yeah, i know there's plenty who aren't pimps, but even they are just trying to get you to fuck them because they *understand* you or whatever. they want you to get some shitty minimum wage job and be their live-in girlfriend, earning a roof over your head by sucking their dick.

    i think the clueless dudes are far and few between, and probably not likely to enter a strip club.
    Although I'm not a dancer, i get this line in camming ALL THE TIME! THIS ^ 9 times out of 10 is what the guy actually means. The good (good ish?) guys know what you're there for, they know what THEY are there for, they pay you, get their jollies, and leave. The others are just wannabe pimps or freeloaders.

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    Another thing for those political sorts who wish to consider it: you can do both without significantly depreciating your marketability. It's possible to make money and a difference. You can ask or say almost anything in the club if you're smiling, you know that. If you're feeling generous, it's always nice to remember that the very sisters whose dignity you've just defended will probably make the money you lose. What comes around goes around; it'll pay off for you in the end. You'll sell tens of thousands of dances along the way; opportunities for illumination are priceless.
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    They come in waves at my club. The misinformed but well meaning ones are probably balanced out bvy the guys that get it and 'would do it if they were a woman'. Once there was a rude man telling the girls to 'smarten up', I suppose by working all week for minimum wage. One of the girls ended up telling him we'd rather not as we make 300 a night. He promptly shut up and I hear his face was a picture.

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    Can you just turn the tables and say "I wish I could say the same about you? You're obviously NOT too good to be here.". It's just they're socially awkward way of trying to ask you out or compliment you. Just be happy your not him and can make money off your looks. Also these men are jealous you can make this money. I had a guy tell me he had to work 3 jobs and tried to put me down bc this was my only job. Yeah sorry you have to work 3 and coming here is your big night out

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    I've never worked in a SC but in all my years of adult work, I constantly come across these guys. I ask them what they suggest I do. Doesn't really matter what the answer is, I just say "Well, I'm too good to do that." What can they say after that? Then I change the subject back to them paying me for my time.
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    Captain Save a Ho! LOL!

    Work in a gown club and get these guys ALL the time. Sooo annoying. Most of them are cheap as hell, too. They freely give out their cards though, you know, in case I ever need saving...

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