This is a two-part question and an introduction of myself, since I'm new here.
I know that, as a general rule, dancers don't date patrons, but I have dated a few entertainers throughout the years, and all but one of them I met at the club; the exception being my high school girlfriend who began dancing while we were dating.
A little background on my club experiences and me, since I'm new here. I like to go to clubs occasionally, however I am a very analytical person and a realist; I understand the difference between fantasy and reality, and getting into the fantasy and letting go of reality is hard for me. Also, knowing what I learned from dancer's I've dated doesn't help either - I recognize tactics and patterns...
As a result of this, I have a fondness and respect for dancers. Even in the VIP, I am not rude, mean or pushy, I never push boundaries, I let the dancer set the comfort level - basically, I treat her as I would treat any woman, with equal amounts of respect and admiration.
The majority of the time when I do go to clubs, I meet some great women, I have a great time and they make some money from a guy who doesn't treat them like a piece of meat - we all WIN!
But three times, over the 20+ years I've gone to clubs, it felt like more. Two previous times that it happened, the girls let me know within the first few hours of meeting that they felt the same way. In both cases we ended up dating.
My first question is for anyone who was ever interested in a customer and I'm not talking about for extracurricular activities, I'm talking about in a real way - how do you let a guy know that you're interested?
Second question and my ulterior motive for asking this question. Is there any way that I, as a customer, can gracefully let a dancer know that I am open to something real without making her feel like I'm propositioning her for sex or devaluing her somehow?
Thanks for any input! Please be gentle with this newbie.![]()




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I feel kind of stupid for not even thinking of that... I do that all the time when there's a particular dancer I really like as an entertainer - I'll give her my email/text and tell her to keep in touch and let me know when she's at the club.

I'm usually too logical and cynical!



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