Thanks everyone, I need time to think this over before making any decisions that could change my life.
Thanks everyone, I need time to think this over before making any decisions that could change my life.
Last edited by Riley_Brooke; 09-15-2011 at 04:19 AM. Reason: Thanks everyone, I need time to think this over





The answer to that question is right there in what you just shared.
These are not the actions of a man who loves you and wants what is best for you.
You'll have to decide if the loss of freedom is worth what you are getting from it. To me it would never be worth it. You can get money on your own, without him.
Go be a stripper again. He's an old man with a God complex so show him he's not that special. Don't let a man buy you shit and if you do make sure you pit it in your name.


Looks like it's going to take a toll on your mental health. Try going back to dancing once a week...and see if you can work at a club where you can make plenty and that is a comfortable place for you personally to work at. Save your pennies, don't squander. And figure it out. Staying in his grips can hold you back in your personal growth. It's like being a bird in a cage. Also, figure how this guy works into your long-term goals, if you have made clear goals (if not, then consider thinking what you really want for your life, or at least what you want your life to be in the next 12 months)...figure if this guy will help or hinder you in reaching your short-term and mid-term goals.




Take a stand leave him. All u r is a puppet. He doesnt really care about u. He only cares about controlling u and having u as a perfect trophy girl. This is awful. Please tell him u cant do this anymore and go back to supporting urself. This is creating too much damage for u. I have had sugar daddies before and that type of situation never works. Please leave as soon as u can. HE is belittling u and its all about control not care.




I don't want to be mean but wake up.whether he just uses me as a trophy girlfriend.Old fart with money dating a stripper. Are you the first dancer he has ever dated?
You are still granting him the power to rule you. Do what Aslinn and Junigirl said and go back to dancing. Don't let greed rule you. It's the oldest trick in the book for men with money. The promise of money and then the delay or taking away of it. Just like some women lure men with sex and then take it away.Either way he hasn't told me which it is
These are bad ideas that will blow up in anyone's face.
If I were in your situation I would disappear and go back to dancing. Stay with a friend or family if you can. Rebound or use some other guy if you have to (<---last resort) just get out.
Don't ever explain anything to him. If he asks you can say two things: "I needed to take care of myself so I went back to dancing." or "I'm with someone now that doesn't play cruel games."
Why do you want to control someone that clearly has the upper hand on you and your emotions?
Walk away please.





You need to leave this man asap.
xoxo





Go back to work.
“What a caterpillar calls the end of the world we call a butterfly.” - ECKHART TOLLE


Go back to dancing (be careful where u work with dancing, work at a good club you're comfy with...so you wont be in a situation of jumping from one boiling pot of soup into another boiling pot of soup). Save whatever money you have now.. If you don't have enough or aren't ready yet to leave out of it, work until you can really leave (I forget if you're living with this guy or not). Have an "escape" plan..but don't give him any hints. Some people can get violent etc too, so watch yourself. Some men go crazy when they're told the truth and their ego can't handle it. So be smart and keep your mouth shut when it is smart to do so. Act stupid but have your smart plan in your head. You can save your venting for your girlfriends, not for a guy where it might just make the situation bad and counterproductive.
Don't tell the guy where you're planning to go back to work. In fact dont tell him at all when you go back to dancing. You don't want him stalking you there and interfering with your money.
Easiest excuse is to not mention that you've met another guy (this can make guys go bananas...you don't want a Jerry Springer or worse situation, so don't add anything to the fire that will make it burst up badly)...easiest excuse is to just tell him you've gone cuckoo or having mental issues, need time to think, etc...you've got lots of stress and anxiety...blah blah...so then you can remove yourself from situation.
Why do I think this is a Troll?





I was thinking troll too. Either that or a very confused girl.
Thanks for all your messages, I'm not a troll lol. Just in a very difficult situation. I have to think long and hard about this.
this is certaintly an abusive situation. Staying will only confuse you more and ruin your sense of reality


Been there...done that! LEAVE! RUN! Burn rubber on his azz so tough that by the time the smoke clears he won't know whether he is going or coming!![]()
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