
Originally Posted by
laurielegs
I used to feel that way, but then I realized that a woman who moves in with a man is giving up a huge amount of her independence and with no commitment to me it's not worth it, particularly in this case because she wants kids.
Wanting children changes things.
I would not feel comfortable starting a family with a man who is not willing to marry. Just wouldn't. There are certain legal matters concerning children and marriage that can protect both you and the future children that you just will never get with a living together situation.
If he truly wants to spend his life with you then marriage should not be a big deal either.
I've seen so so many of these types "afraid of marriage" string a woman along for literally YEARS, then someone else catches their eye, they drop that dedicated sweet woman in a heartbeat and end up marrying their new love within months and even player types sometimes end up doing this and all of a sudden they are a dedicated family man.
It's usually not that he doesn't want to marry - he just doens't want to marry you in particular. It sucks when you are the person rejected though, but I think it's important to realize this may be the case so you don't end up wasting a huge part of your life on someone who does not truly value you.
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