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    Sad Giving up Cat 4 adopt.?Update

    So, my neighbor's moving, she didn't have a time frame until just recently..& its only a cpl wks away now! She has just asked me to help her get her cat, 10yrs old adopted. I called a shelter (twice) I'd left a mssg the 1st time. They told me today they're full, & I got another referrel, & emailed them.
    Honestly, it doesn't look good, being his age, & the time frame, + she insists on a no-kil shelter. I want to help, but she's already upset just about givining him up. I guess I should just call her back & tell her the truth, it won't be easy..
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    Default Re: Giving up Cat 4 adoption?

    Craigslist pet section, petfinder.com, etc. google around no kill shelters or cat fosters.

    Screen everyone, check refs, and have an adoption fee to sift out bullshitters/ppl that want to hurt kitty.

    She can't take kitty with? Usually offering a pet deposit works or $25 monthly fee to landlord.
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    I just talked to her, I let her know it won't be easy. No, she can't take it with, she's moving in w/someone.
    She doesn't want to adopt it out on cl.
    I got my hands full myself w/my stuff, but I'm trying/want to help.


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    Wow, what an asshole. Tell her its her problem. Why are you taking this on, again when she waited until the last minute and wants to be so specific about the circumstances? She's being really unreasonable. You may want to start talking to her about this becoming an inconvenience to you.

    I guess I just take this really personally. I adopted my cat when he was about five years old, off of CL. The girl was this college kid who'd had him since he was little but was moving overseas and couldn't take him along. Although she was giving him away for free, she still wanted to act all concerned about where he was going to end up and if I was a good enough recipient. I'm a radical Animal Rights activist and in my opinion, she had no room to be picky seeing as she's the one planning to move forward without him, regardless. I've had him for around nine years, at this point. I would pay absolutely anything, in order to keep him with me.

    Are you able to keep him? Is he in good health? At ten years, yeah, it may be hard to find a place that will invest in adopting him out. He can't be too much maintenance but I'm sure he has quite a few good years left in him. Good luck. I hate people who insist on throwing away animal companions after so many years and then feign concern over their well-being.
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    Hi VB! Thank you for your input, & ya know, you're right! I told her about someone on the board here, who worked dilegently for months to get a young animal adopted..& that was difficult enogh. I can not take him. I don't know much about him, he's litter trained, he looks overweight (I saw him sitting in a window from outside).
    I have a bunny that I adopted from a shelter, she's 5.5 or so years. They live an average a 6 -8 (she's a dwarf). She seems to be going strong, & quite healthy.
    I called the shelter where my rabbit came from, they said they're full, & emailed another, they can't either.
    So, I'm going to print out & give her a list, she can call the places.


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    ^^

    Yeah, I'm sorry she's trying to pawn the hard work onto you. Its like you're having to take on all of that emotional baggage, too! Make her go through all of the steps and really accept the fact that she's the one consciously choosing to evict this animal and possibly put its life at risk. She needs to see this for what it is. Poor kitty. He sounds just like my Mango, too.
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    Yes, when I'd told her she should have started this earlier, she said, "Oh, I had so much to do, get utilities changed", blah, blah.
    I absolutely have more than enough emotional stuff in my life..


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    ^ I just don't understand people. You have a new boyfriend, so you get rid of your pet of 10 years? It just sickens me.

    Make her do the work, and maybe she'll realize that she's sentencing her loyal little friend to a life of small cages, loud shelters, and possibly death.

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    She's actually moving in w/a fam. member, her daughter..in another state, I don't know all the details. Not sure why she can't take it w/her.


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    Just adopted a 10 year old female orange longhaired kitty off Craigslist 2 weeks ago after one of my own cats died (pulmonary cancer, 18 years old). Her old owner was moving in with her daughter, couldn't take the cat with, blah blah. Took kitty to vet. Turns out she hadn't been vetted in, like, ever, and was hyperthyroid and had some issues as a result. I've got her on meds and she is doing better. I think she will be fine. I have no regrets and am glad they posted. Best wishes for this little guy too, and I hope someone out there can step up...you never know!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kandie_kitten View Post
    ^ I just don't understand people. You have a new boyfriend, so you get rid of your pet of 10 years? It just sickens me.

    Make her do the work, and maybe she'll realize that she's sentencing her loyal little friend to a life of small cages, loud shelters, and possibly death.
    I don't get it either. I once dated a man who gave me a choice between him and my cat and dog and I chose my animals. They are my babies and not giving them up for anyone, even a man. I don't understand how people can be heartless and just dispose of animals like they have no feelings. They do. My animals miss me when I am gone for the night and they cry.

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    It's always heartbreaking when people are irresponsible with animals-it really isn't your problem and if your neighbor had owned the pet for 10yrs (I'm assuming) then she should have made sure that it would have a proper home to go to if she couldn't keep it any longer. You can only help so much, but don't take the problem on as your own (even though it's hard-if you have no intention of taking the pet in/or can't then there's only so much support you can give her). I only hope that the cat does find a new home soon.

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    poor kitty. and shame on her for waiting so long to take care of him and shoveling it off onto you. I hope she finds a good home or shelter for him.
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    I would stop helping her. I feel bad for the kitty but if she truly cares about him, she'll step up and find a good home for him on her own. You don't want to get too involved in other people's pets. When I was in high school, I had a friend who needed someone to take her cat "just for 3 months" until her family moved out of their house and into a new one (she wanted the cat gone so they could deep clean the house of cat smell and get a better offer on selling it). She asked me to ask friends to take him in. I did - I found a friend whose mom was willing to take him in for those 3 months. I went with her to drop off the cat and assumed my work was done... well, no... 3 months came and went, and my friend was not picking up her cat - not even getting in touch with my other friend's mom. The mom, against all common sense, did not contact my friend to bitch about her not getting her cat - she came and bitched to me endlessly about it as 3 months stretched into about 7 months. She kept blaming me for sticking her with this cat; I kept telling my friend to go get her damn cat, or at least talk to the mom. Nope. For some retarded-ass reason, the mom would not contact the actual owner of the cat and my friend would not contact the mom - they both kept making me the middle-man when it wasn't my freakin' cat! And when it was all over with, I got a big bitch-fest from the mom about how I better never ask her to take in a pet again.

    I know your situation isn't exactly the same - but be warned. What if you do find someone to take the cat but then later they decide they really can't care for him? You know they won't be calling your neighbor... once you make it your problem, it will always be your problem. I would tell your neighbor nicely that you hope she finds a good home for kitty, but you just don't have time to keep looking yourself. If she whines, tell her you'll keep it in mind if you hear of anyone wanting a cat, but otherwise, you've done all you can and wish her the best.

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    Do you have a veterinary medicine faculty in the area? Vet schools have lots of international and out of state students who would love to have a pet for company or have contacts of people who would be interested. We get info sent to us all the time and most get snapped up quick. Especially 10 for a cat isnt that old. It could have another 12+yrs in it. Also what about contacting local vet clinics to see if they have notice boards.

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    I agree with VB. My cat has been through everything with me and I always work it out somehow that he can come with me wherever I end up. I unexpectedly had to move last month and yeah...it took a lot of work to find a place within a few days where my cat could come too but I worked on it until I found that place. I so don't understand how people can just give up animals like that. When you adopt an animal, you take on the responsibility to care for him/her and it shouldn't only be at your convenience.

    I'm sorry your neighbor has put this on you and I hope kitty finds a good home.

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    I used to help teach self defense classes for young girls and we would focus on a lot of verbal/emotional self defense for social situations, and one of the exercises we did was literally called "don't take the kittens"

    It's where one person pretends to have a box full of kittens and they use all kinds of tactics to guilt the other person into taking responsibility for them "look theyre so cute!" "If you dont take them theyre all gonna die!" "Grrr you are a mean friend if you dont take the kittens!"

    In class we point out that the person who GOT the kittens in the first place is responsible for them and shouldnt push any emotional blame or responsibility on you. This is a metaphor for a lot of different situations but in your case I simply say,

    DONT TAKE THE KITTY!!!

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    Hi There, thanks for replies! I'm giving her a printout of no kill shelters, & she can go from there.

    UPDATE: She got the kitty adopted, yay! The very 1st name on the no-kill shelter list, they're coming to pick him up next week!
    Last edited by whirlerz; 09-24-2011 at 09:32 AM.


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