Results 1 to 10 of 10

Thread: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

  1. #1
    Senior Member Kaylee84's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Denver, Colorado.
    Posts
    118
    Thanks
    39
    Thanked 154 Times in 45 Posts
    My Mood
    Fine

    Default Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    I just started dating someone and he seems not to care that I'm a dancer.
    I am in no way ever going to STOP dancing for a man. I treat it as a job, and nothing else. I really like him, and things are going very smooth at this point. But, my question is, what are the secrets to a healthy relationship when you are a dancer?

  2. #2
    Member cocainepr3tty's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Location
    Concrete Jungle
    Posts
    53
    Thanks
    30
    Thanked 10 Times in 7 Posts
    My Mood
    Stressed

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    I will say the best thing to do is to keep business (your job) & your relationship separate

    (Not saying this is what you would do but here is an example of a dancer I know)
    I’ve seen plenty of dancers on social networking site spilling the beans about their relationship; girls who she thought that were their friend’s tires to get with him
    And it’s just not one relationship it was relationship after relationship and when people tried to help her she didn’t listen always putting her business out there etc
    It’s just a big mess

    People only know what you put out
    The less some know the better

  3. #3
    Moderator Aurora_Sunset's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2011
    Posts
    6,430
    Thanks
    19,846
    Thanked 18,507 Times in 4,919 Posts
    My Mood
    Breezy

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylee84 View Post
    But, my question is, what are the secrets to a healthy relationship when you are a dancer?
    Trust, communication, work-life balance... pretty much the same "secrets" to a healthy relationship when you're anything else.

  4. #4
    God/dess JayATee's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2008
    Location
    In your nightmares...
    Posts
    4,861
    Thanks
    1,334
    Thanked 2,291 Times in 1,133 Posts
    My Mood
    Devilish

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    Leave your home life at home and the club life at the club. Make sure you're not doing anything that leaves you feeling like you can't tell your SO. Make time for eachother. Do things together. Be a partnership... same as anything else in life really.
    Sorry I missed church. I was too busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.

    "If you're good at something, never do it for free." The Dark Knight

    "you conjunctively engender an intoxicating combination of wicked, wholesome & insanely intelligent" - a friend describing me


    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    ^^^ It's a penis, not a martini shaker.
    Blessed Be

  5. The Following User Says Thank You to JayATee For This Useful Post:


  6. #5
    God/dess seashell's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2010
    Location
    Lucid Dreaming
    Posts
    3,524
    Thanks
    6,585
    Thanked 8,120 Times in 2,627 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    Don't talk about work all the time, and especially don't talk about guys at work, or lapdances, or sexual things that go on there. He might find it amusing or interesting at first, but it will most likely make him insecure or jealous in the long run.

  7. #6
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    6
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked 2 Times in 1 Post

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    Me: What's it like dating a stripper?
    Him: I'm not dating "a stripper." I'm dating a person.

    I think that sums it up. You need to find someone who isn't insecure and jealous and doesn't view you as a stripper, but as a person who just happens to strip for a living.

  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Scarlett_West For This Useful Post:


  9. #7
    Featured Member kandie_kitten's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2005
    Posts
    1,944
    Thanks
    164
    Thanked 498 Times in 218 Posts

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    My boyfriend and I met when I was still stripping, and stuck around. We're still together 5 years later and going strong.

    He was very understanding; he's a laid back, no-judgment kind of person. And he also understood that I had a lot of bills to pay, and that I was also setting aside cash for goals.

    The biggest thing for us was honesty. I never tried to hide anything, or sugarcoat things, and that helped immensely.

  10. #8
    God/dess tempest666's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Hamburg, Pennsylvania
    Posts
    10,607
    Thanks
    2,705
    Thanked 13,685 Times in 4,414 Posts
    Blog Entries
    5
    My Mood
    In Love

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    For me oddly enough it was dating someone who was outside of the industry and had never been around strippers. I try to keep work and home separate but sometimes he understands that I need to vent ("That fat bitch was sucking dick in VIP!" "Fuck that fat bitch she doesn't have tits like mine") and he has been wonderful.

    Occasionally he will put his foot down with regards to certain clubs. One local club here that I got hired at has turned into a notorious brothel overnight and is teetering on the edge of being raided according to the rumor mill. He was like "No way Jose". I know he's looking out for me so I'm not going to bother going there.

    But I think the main thing is honesty and working together. On our days off we still have our separate activities. He'll play Call of Duty and I'll be reading a book. But he'll look over at me and smile or come and kiss me and I'll realize how lucky I am. Then I fall in love with him all over again.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
    Tempest

  11. #9
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    Make sure he gets lots of time and attention. Don't choose work over things that are really important. For example I worked on our wedding anniversary and although I really needed that $1K its pretty much a kick in the balls. Some things are more important than money. Im greedy so sometimes I forget that.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to Jessie_tinydancer For This Useful Post:


  13. #10
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    1,255
    Thanks
    122
    Thanked 467 Times in 250 Posts

    Default Re: Relationships and Dancing.. Can they coincide?

    I've dated guys that said they were cool with it but threw it in my face everytime we argued, or who genuinely were cool with it but would swing by the club and throw money around but ignore me because he didn't want to get in the way of me working.
    Now there's the guy who won't comment on it at all. I have no idea what he thinks of it, and haven't yet found the right moment to ask....so far he seems the best though, but we'll see.

Similar Threads

  1. Relationships
    By jennahoff in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 07-06-2008, 06:26 PM
  2. Relationships
    By cliteekat in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 09-25-2006, 02:27 PM
  3. Relationships
    By BrunetteGoddess in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 01-27-2006, 09:48 AM
  4. relationships
    By Dreamer in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 10-01-2003, 06:33 AM
  5. relationships
    By Dreamer in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 09-30-2003, 05:21 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •