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    Default I feel like the worst stripper ever

    I've been dancing for a month now, I'm a new girl in a club that is often dead working Mon-Wed-Fri. I don't feel like I was doing too bad when I first started, even though there were nights where I wouldn't even make my expenses or even sell a single dance. But now I feel like I've totally lost it.

    I haven't sold my own dance in 2 weeks, I'm actually losing money by working, I have zero confidence in my ability to sell, I've pretty much reached a point where I don't even go over to guys to talk to them anymore. I want to try another club that mite be busier, but the expenses will be higher an I just don't have the belief that I'll be able to make them at the moment. I want this to end so bad. And all I have to do to end it is go over and talk to someone, but for some reason I just... don't.

    How do I give myself a good kick up the backside?

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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    I think the best thing to do would be to get over the fear of rejection. You've been turned down so many times that you no longer want to approach, and you just have to get over that. In this industry, you get rejected--a LOT--by lots of guys for lots of different reasons. It's just part of it. Once you accept that, you get over the fear, and you start to approach everyone like clockwork. Seriously, you have no idea what customer is sitting in there like a deer in the headlights with a grand in his pocket, waiting to spend it on the first girl who approaches him with a smile and makes him melt.

    And you really do have to be confident in yourself. Once you put those heels on, you should feel like a fucking GODDESS. You are sexy, you are erotic, you are totally in charge of yourself. Whenever I dance on stage, I feel like I'm channeling a goddess, and when I feel like that, the men just fall to my feet gibbering. You should start a pre-work ritual that gets you into the mood. It can be music you find really sexy...it can be a movie that turns you on...it can be some type of meditation that relaxes and centers you. I used to listen to specific techno songs on my way to work, songs that made me feel super sexy and made me just want to dance...even though I never dance to techno at work. It got me in the mindset and made me want to strut my stuff.

    In the meantime, don't ever let yourself start to get depressed at the beginning of a shift. Approach every guy in there at least once. Smile, be polite if they reject you. Once you've made your rounds, make them again. You never know...I've approached guys twice, and on the second time, they'd tell me I was the most polite and gracious out of all the girls when he rejected me before, and now he wants to do some dances. Seriously, you never know.

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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    Def agree, being rejected is part of the biz. But every man is different. I know on nights when I don't feel at the top of my game and I go to sit down I get right back up because I know I'll feel better at the end of the night if I can say "Hey, I really tried, tomorrow is always a new day." Good luck girl, keep a positive attitude. Lord knows it's a challenge but it makes all the difference.

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    I've heard of people making this into a game: Collect "no's". You have to get 5, 10, 20 "no's" before you can take a break. You cannot go to the dressing room to check your hair, get some fresh air, whatever...until you get a certain number of rejections. Seriously, just turn it into a game. In the beginning, do whatever feels most comfortable: wannadance or just a minute of conversation. Ease yourself into rejection. It really is part of the job.

    One thing I do, too, is mentally complete customers' rejections in my head. Whenever a guy says "No," mentally tag a funny sentence onto the end of his rejection. Picture him saying "No thanks, not tonight...my dick is two inches long." Or "No, I can't get a dance with you tonight...because I actually prefer dudes."


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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    Thanks for the advice girls, I have managed to start approaching guys again. Looking back over my post I realise that I've completely lost my self-esteem, and guys aren't getting dances cause they can tell I don't feel like I deserve their money.

    Now if only I knew how to get that back :/

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    Don't worry hon... when I was dancing, I went through hell trying to make money sometimes, especially when I quit dancing the last time. I was working in a small town, lower-scale club, and I was dealing mainly with cheap rednecks whose only hobby aside from drinking and mudding was to come in with no money and yell insults at the dancers, or come in with their friends and laugh at them. Its ridiculous. I sometimes couldn't make payout. Towards the end, another girl and I ended up quitting on the same day due to being sick of "working for free". I know now that I wasn't hustling enough, and that I wasn't working to the top of my ability, or trying hard enough, which is why I began to reconsider dancing again. At the time, I am 31 and though I do look young for my age, this sometimes makes me insecure, especially having stretch marks and extra weight. But I am slowly losing the weight, and I know there is makeup for the marks. Its all a game. I know anyone with halfway good looks can be a successful dancer. So don't worry about not making a lot of money. We all go through hard times, and we all go through rough patches. Start researching ways to make more money. There are ways to be a better money-maker. Its not all about grinding onstage naked- its about "customer service" and the way you get lap dances (since that is where the money is all at). Good luck!! This forum is a great place for advice, I have noticed, even in the short amount of time today I have been online. I am glad that there is a place like this to help us novice dancers (I still consider myself as a novice since I still have a lot to learn!) get better at our profession! Thanks!

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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    I have been here too. I work in a small-ish town at a low hustle club and there aren't many other good options of places to work. So you do kinda feel like you stagnate after awhile. I'm gonna try the game idea of collecting no's, because really at this point - I just need to ask. I know that I have the potential to be one of the top-earners at this club because I have a better attitude than a lot of the veterans and I WANT and DESERVE the money.

    So starting today, I am gonna ask every single guy.

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    I'm really glad I found this thread:-)

    My hands are tired and I posted my rant in Club Chat. My rant is along the same lines, but it's only been happening recently. But, it's made me feel horrible
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    I'm so thankful I found this thread. I haven't started dancing yet, but when I did in the past i got discouraged after 2 weeks because it was so depressing not getting any dances.

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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    So hey! Might as well update this thread.

    I ended up taking a couple of weeks off to get over my funk and get excited about working again. Then i went back with a great attitude, worked hard and still made fuck all. Which made me realise it wasn't my fault I was doing shit, I was just in a really bad club.

    So I left, went to some auditions, got rejected for not being a good enough dancer, practiced on slowing down my dancing, got accepted at my next audition and just started working this week. I'm selling dances again and my confidence is way better.

    There we go, a happy ending

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    Default Re: I feel like the worst stripper ever

    Obviously, this is an old thread. However it should be revived and kept alive. Everyone I am sure has had a bad day, week, month, et cetera. Sometimes a re-evaluation of your goals is all that is needed. Not a " How many more times must I bend over to make my rent?", but a "Why the hell am I doing this?". I have done it, we all have, pouted in the corner when things don't go our way. Get over it. Tell yourself, "Self, this sucks, pick yourself up and move on."

    It is the truth, newb or vet, it works. The club and customers may suck, just remember some nights you are the one making bank, others you are on the side lines. It is just the nature of the game. If you are in the bad of a funk, find a new grove. Hell, buy a wig, change your name and change the music you dance to and just have fun.
    If you hate your life, job, car, or cat it will show. Smile. That is the second best thing you can do with your mouth.

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