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    So I have never been to a SC before and a friend of mine invited me to go with him this friday night and I just have a few questions.

    1. How much is a good tip? I dont want to look like a jerk by tipping to low but I dont want to throw out an excessive amount off money either.

    2. How would I let a dancer know that I am interested without coming off as rude?

    3. What would be the best way to let a dancer know that I am not interested?

    Also I apologize if there is already a thread answering these questions. I couldn't find one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TheNewGuy View Post
    1. How much is a good tip? I dont want to look like a jerk by tipping to low but I dont want to throw out an excessive amount off money either.
    Tip? Tipping is not mandatory. Pay for her dances, pay for her time if you ask her to sit with you. If you want to tip for dances that's up to you I guess. I've been known to tip an occasional $20 on top of the dance fee. I think that's more than enough but others would probably think I'm cheap. Depends on who you ask...

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    2. How would I let a dancer know that I am interested without coming off as rude?
    Interested in what?

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    3. What would be the best way to let a dancer know that I am not interested?
    Not interested in what?
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    Interested in a dance after the stage show. And not interested if she approaches me offering me a dance.

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    If you want a dance ask her for a dance. It's her job, she's used to it, in fact, that's the whole idea! I'm not sure how you could come off as rude provided you ask politely and don't try to haggle about the dance price.

    If you are approached by a dancer and don't want to buy a dance from her just say no thank you, again, politely. Now, you don't owe any girl an explanation as to why you don't want a dance so don't try to come up with some cockamamie story. Just say no thanks. Ninety-five percent of the girls who ask will accept your answer politely and move on. The five percent who may get pushy or demand a reason are not really worth worrying about. Just keep saying no thanks until they walk away.

    Relax, it's really not that complicated.
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    1. If you visit her at the stage or pay attention to her dancing there, you should tip her at least a few bucks. If you do a private dance with her, tip her if you feel she deserves it (or if you might want future dances from her).

    2. Just tell her you'd like a private dance, either when you visit her at the stage or when your paths cross on the floor.

    3.. Say "no thank you, I'm all set right now".
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    1. Tip a couple of bucks at the stage. If you do a private dance, I would say tip about 10 percent of what you spend, rounding to the nearest 5. So if you only spend 25 bucks on one dance, tip her a 5. If you spend 150-200 dollars on multiple dances or on a special room like the CR, then tip her a 20.

    2. The answer to this question depends on what kind of strip club experience you want. I prefer to go to the strip club, plop down with my beer, and see which girls come over to me. The reason I do this is, aside from it being fun to have hot girls approach me in droves, I prefer a dancer who I have some chemistry with before I decide to buy a dance. I've had plenty of dances from girls who were "hot" but whose personalities were just totally flat in my opinion, and that translates into an unenthusiastic dance and a so-so experience for me. I prefer for a girl to come by, and for us to sit and chat for awhile, to develop a repore and to see if she and I are operating on the same wavelength. After a 15 minute conversation it's easy to pick up on whether a girl shares your sense of humor, whether she's sensual, whether she's the type of girl that you'd find attractive if you met her at the bar. I find that this leads to a far better experience from my perspective, as I'm turned on both physically and mentally if I decide to buy a dance, and the mental enhances the physical.

    So the point is that you might want to chat with a few of the girls before you decide that "you want that one" just because she's the hottest girl in the place or has the biggest boobs. Alternatively, if you don't care about any of that and just want a dance from a girl that you find attractive, just tip her during her stage dance and ask her to come over and sit with you afterwards. She probably will.

    3. I always say "maybe later," but I realize that a lot of girls don't like that sort of non-answer. Sometimes I really do mean maybe later, other times I am waiting on another girl and if that girl had gotten to me first I probably would have bought a dance from her, and other times I just don't find the girl attractive. But it doesn't matter, because these girls are used to being told no and will just go up to the next guy anyway. Just politely tell her you aren't buying any dances at the moment. She'll walk away and the worst you'll get is a dirty look.

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    If you make eye contact and give a friendly smile to a girl you would like a dance from, they will almost always approach you and ask if you would like a dance.

    If you find you're unable to get her attention, you can always approach a dancer, assuming she is not talking to or dancing with someone else and simply ask her name - I promise you if you show interest she will almost always ask if you want a dance.

    One thing to remember, many times these girls have worked the floor for hours and have heard, "No thanks," or worse all night - they definitely appreciate when you let them know you're interested.

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    Thanks for the answers everyone. I like to go into new situations with as much knowledge as possible but im sure lopaw is right I will need to experience it first hand.

    One more question what kinds of things should I not ask in conversations and what should I say. Are there certain questions or words that would offend her. I also don't want to have the same conversation she has with every guy I would like to differentiate myself from the rest if at all possible.

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    I wouldn't over think it. The truth is, most of these girls have heard the same rap a thousand times and honestly, there is no reason to work on your game - this is the one place where your looks and your game will (usually) not make a difference - money talks!

    The best piece of advice I can give is to go, just be yourself and have fun!

    My personal rules for things not to ask:

    1. I never ask for a real name - they may offer it up at some point, but I never ask;
    2. I never ask to meet outside the club unless they bring it up as an option;
    3. I never ask if they have a boyfriend or husband (sometimes I do ask if they like boys, girls or both...)
    4. I never ask for anything that would constitute propositioning (HJ, BJ, intercourse, etc...)

    These are just my personal rules.

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    You really shouldn't worry about conversation too much. Most girls don't want to sit and talk long anyway. Honestly, if you're just meeting the girl for the first time, you'll be hard-pressed to come up with a conversation that will be different. that.guy.in.la had some good suggestions.

    -Never ask for a real name
    -Don't make a "cutesy" joke about her stage name
    -Don't ask about a bf/husband or kids (unless she has kids and brings them up herself)
    -Don't say anything about how she seems "too good" to work there
    -Don't ask her what she's doing after work

    Basically, just don't ask questions that are too personal or come across as creepy, and don't say anything insulting about stripping as a job. Don't worry if your conversation isn't stunning. There are approximately 2 customers I can remember having really good conversations with. The thing that will make you stand out, honestly, is how much you spend and how much of a gentlemen you are during dances (no touchy, no licky). Other than that, don't hurt yourself thinking too hard about it

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheNewGuy View Post
    Thanks for the answers everyone. I like to go into new situations with as much knowledge as possible but im sure lopaw is right I will need to experience it first hand.

    One more question what kinds of things should I not ask in conversations and what should I say. Are there certain questions or words that would offend her. I also don't want to have the same conversation she has with every guy I would like to differentiate myself from the rest if at all possible.
    Don't tell her you like a thick girl. That always backfires.

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    Tipping varies greatly by region. Around here, you pay for the dances and a tip is rare. When I offer a tip, some dancers do not know what to do. One said to me, "Nobody everdoes that." Some won't take a tip and would rather do another dance.

    So, I recommend asking your buddies how much they usually tip. Tipping will help get you remembered the next time you go, but if this is going to be a one time thing for you, or an infrequent thing, you only do it to be nice. No matter how much you tip, nobody will remember you a year later.
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    Tip s relatI've to what I determine as above ad beyond her job. example: being real convinching, more contact, taking the time to connect with me first to figure out what is good "service", and keeping the hustle well balanced. unlike waitresses, Dancers MAKE the money you give them and Tips are added to it. I think tipping is good for someone who makes your evening our provides a standout experience, but I would never tip on he quick "wanna dance" single lap dance

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheNewGuy View Post
    One more question what kinds of things should I not ask in conversations and what should I say. Are there certain questions or words that would offend her. I also don't want to have the same conversation she has with every guy I would like to differentiate myself from the rest if at all possible.
    Relax, just be yourself. You got some great answers already. Just remember you're not at the local neighborhood bar trying to meet/impress a new girlfriend or one-night stand. Respect our boundaries & the club rules. Don't yammer our ears off without paying us for our time. Conversation for one song and mayhe two may be OK with some us but expecting us to sit and listen to you talk endlessly as if you're at a social club is NOT ok. If you want our time in this way tell us you just want to talk, then expect to tip us well. Better yet, pay for a VIP.
    Last edited by MiaStarr; 10-05-2011 at 07:14 PM.

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