I'm recently single after dating a total douchebag for like 5 years. One of the things I hated most about my ex was his incredible insecurity and jealousy surrounding my befriending other men on any level. It has been 5 years since I've even had a male platonic buddy, and I really like male friends!
My thing is that when I'm single, I'm not totally against the idea of FWB situations with men (or women), but I still do want that "friend" part in place before I'll even consider sleeping with someone. But what I'm running into is meeting guys who I think are cool, having a few conversations on the phone or via text, then they wind up suggesting the first time we hang out is watching a movie at my house while sharing Chinese food. :/ One guy even requested that he have permission to spend the night at my house on said movie night so we don't feel rushed.
Obviously these guys who want to do this just want to fuck, and that's just not cool. I'm not going to hang out with them or let them come over and what not, just because the type of guy I'd want to date or even befriend would be a bit more tactful, but damn... is this common? Or am I still just attracting douchebags like my ex? I'm thinking something is wrong with me to where I'm just not attracting the right people into my life. Or is it really just that bad out there, with respect to meeting men, for friendship or otherwise? Maybe I read "she's vulnerable", because I kind of am. I'm so failing.



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