Page 1 of 5 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 104

Thread: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

  1. #1
    Featured Member
    Joined
    May 2011
    Location
    Miami
    Posts
    1,529
    Thanks
    2,260
    Thanked 2,276 Times in 730 Posts

    Default Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    First, it's always looked down upon that women be interested in a man's wealth (gold digger, anyone?). However, lately I've been wondering if men with money are really bothered by it, or if it's just broke guys who are bothered by it?

    I've started listening to more rap/hip-hop music and I find that they talk a lot about money and women, and the relation between the two always involves either stripping or sex. These are some lyrics from a song I heard on the radio while driving to class. I'm sure there are hundreds more examples but I thought I'd add this one since it is a fairly new song. So what is your take on this? Do men enjoy spending lots of money on women if they have it? And those who don't, are they just jealous?

    Mami you looking like I'm just another guy
    That came to check it
    That came to reck it
    No disrespect but mami that's correct cause... what's in them jeans just got my mind hectic
    I can see that your feeling my passion
    Is it cause I'm flashing
    Or is it this cash that's just way to reckless
    Or is it this necklace

    I don't wanna be loved
    I don't wanna be loved
    I just wanna quick fix
    Up in your mix miss
    Send me you wishlist
    I have you addicted
    So mami come get this
    Please (aha) get on them knees

  2. #2
    God/dess dlabtot's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2005
    Location
    in your dreams, in my nightmares
    Posts
    2,085
    Thanks
    59
    Thanked 139 Times in 85 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Well, I've given up on the idea that they are just gonna fall in love with me because I am so wonderful, or they are gonna worship my penis as if it's something special... so where does that leave me?

    Plus, would you wanna go on a date with some broke-ass motherfucker? but I could care less if my date has money....


    I think that's just how we are wired.

  3. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to dlabtot For This Useful Post:


  4. #3
    Veteran Member phoenixxxrising's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2009
    Posts
    359
    Thanks
    293
    Thanked 145 Times in 100 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    that song is about sex. its called 'quickie' cuz that's all he wants. he's not takin about spending money on her... I get what you're saying in other songs but I don't think that one is the best example. unless u look at like she just wants his money & he just wants her ass... but seeing as he is only after a quickie I doubt she will be getting any money

    edit: maybe i misinterpreted the wishlist i thought he meant sexual wishlist lol
    Follow your heart and do what feels right for you, because that’s living. Everything else is dying.

    “Things may come to those who wait…but only the things left by those who hustle.”

  5. #4
    Featured Member
    Joined
    May 2011
    Location
    Miami
    Posts
    1,529
    Thanks
    2,260
    Thanked 2,276 Times in 730 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Quote Originally Posted by phoenixxxrising View Post
    that song is about sex. its called 'quickie' cuz that's all he wants. he's not takin about spending money on her... I get what you're saying in other songs but I don't think that one is the best example. unless u look at like she just wants his money & he just wants her ass... but seeing as he is only after a quickie I doubt she will be getting any money

    edit: maybe i misinterpreted the wishlist i thought he meant sexual wishlist lol

    Yea I'm pretty sure he's talking about buying her shit, and he also talks about cash and his jewelry.

    Anywho, would I date a broke ass motherfucker? No. Why? Because I'm not in HS anymore. I'm a responsible, working college student. Why the heck would I date someone who is probably unemployed, immature and irresponsible?

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to lokikola For This Useful Post:


  7. #5
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    1,881
    Thanks
    3,026
    Thanked 3,426 Times in 1,229 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Guys want to feel like they can "provide" for you I think. Not all of them, maybe, but the ones I've met. I dated a pretty wealthy guy for a while and was always worried about him spending money on me. I never wanted him to think I was just with him for his wallet, so I only let him buy me a drink. As in, in the course of our relationship, he bought me ONE drink ONCE. He was the biggest asshole in the world to me anyway and even had the audacity to suggest I was only in it for the cash when we were breaking up. What cash, motherfucker? After him, I was with a guy who was broke as hell and after getting screwed over by him (his friend even stole money from me), I turned into a bitch towards men. Want to buy me dinner? Fuck you; buy me three, and throw in something sparkly while you're at it. Sadly, it gets way better results than being Mother Fucking Mary who only wanted to love you unconditionally.

  8. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to tuesdaymarie For This Useful Post:


  9. #6
    God/dess Trem's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2006
    Posts
    2,958
    Thanks
    1,714
    Thanked 3,253 Times in 1,343 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Men with money are used to getting whatever they want because of their money. It is not surprising that this applies to women also.
    "Well done. Here are the test results: You are a horrible person. I'm serious, that's what it says: 'A horrible person.' We weren't even testing for that."

  10. #7
    Banned
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    11,037
    Thanks
    1,891
    Thanked 5,124 Times in 3,086 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    A few things.

    1)If you date a man just for his money and he thinks you really like him it makes you a glorified prostitute. Actually, no it makes you worse than that. I know I have mentioned wanting to use a guy for his money but I know deep down it's wrong. It's bitches like this who make all men afraid to commit.

    2)If you both know it's only about the money it's a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship and to me much better. In this case both people get something out of it. These relationships rarely last and if you look at it as a temporary thing, cool. Keep in mind though that if you married a guy like this more than likely he'd dump you as he ages.

    3)There is a difference between dating a broke man and dating a man only for his money. If you are judging men only by how much he makes it makes you an user. However, no I wouldn't date a broke man. Most women would not, because relationships should be 50/50. Both people should be working and both should be supporting each other. Everytime I read about women wanting a man to support them I want to scream. Everyone should support themselves. By that, I'm not saying you don't want to date a man who can't buy you gifts. All women want men that can (or would like to)buy them gifts, but not all women would only judge on this. By the same token I am also generous with money and will spend as well.

    4)Getting dating advice from music is pretty lame. Most rap is pretty much with this idea and that's why I despise most of it.

  11. #8
    Veteran Member kdogg247's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2006
    Location
    metro Atlanta
    Posts
    307
    Thanks
    17
    Thanked 26 Times in 13 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    It ain't trickin if you got it.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to kdogg247 For This Useful Post:


  13. #9
    Member Pink Chelle's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2011
    Posts
    51
    Thanks
    45
    Thanked 12 Times in 10 Posts
    My Mood
    Daring

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Real men, YES

  14. #10
    God/dess anouk.oui's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    2,961
    Thanks
    3,002
    Thanked 1,485 Times in 738 Posts
    My Mood
    Blah

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    they might like the idea of pampering or saving or transforming their women with their money to draw them closer. sounds like a territorial thing. or they just like to objectify them as money grabbing hoes coz themselves have nothing better to offer to attract women.

    im sure guys understand the need to be a good supporter/breadwinner etc but just to be after their money and not like them whilst trying to have a relationship i dont think any guy could handle that. unless theyre kinda messed up or like to be financially dominated.
    FUCK YEAH finally retired after 6 years dancing!!
    NEW to camming
    Use the discount code "DANCER" to get 15% off ALL mermaid bikinis & swimwear at



  15. The Following User Says Thank You to anouk.oui For This Useful Post:


  16. #11
    Featured Member Amy Lee's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2011
    Posts
    782
    Thanks
    271
    Thanked 664 Times in 296 Posts
    My Mood
    Amused

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    I think just broke guys are bothered by it.

  17. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Amy Lee For This Useful Post:


  18. #12
    Featured Member silk55's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2009
    Location
    MIAMI,WPB
    Posts
    1,283
    Thanks
    889
    Thanked 729 Times in 445 Posts
    My Mood
    Cool

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    I totally agree with what dlabtot said. All men should accept the fact that $ does matter.
    "The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right. Greed works" -GORDON GECCO

  19. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to silk55 For This Useful Post:


  20. #13
    God/dess rickdugan's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2010
    Location
    NYC
    Posts
    4,570
    Thanks
    4,406
    Thanked 7,481 Times in 2,715 Posts
    My Mood
    Amused

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    First, I think that this is being a bit simplified here. There are some girls that care a lot about the money, some that don't care at all (whether they should or not and these ones are often too young to know better or have other issues), and what I believe is a large block of women that care somewhat in that they don't need an uber wealthy guy and money is not their sole concern, but it does factor into the equation and they do want someone who can earn.

    Did my wife, who was hot enough to have plenty of choices when we became serious, factor in my ability to provide for a family when she said yes? Of course. Why should any woman want to live in poverty, particularly one who wants to have a family? Was money her only concern? I doubt it as I am sure that she could have landed somebody far wealthier than me, but neither do I believe she would have married me if I was a broke bum with a dead-end job.

    Like Amy said, only the broke guys really care if a woman factors money into the equation and it is perfectly natural for a woman to want a man who can bring in the cash.

    Now it is a somewhat different issue for a girl to date a guy solely for the money. Hey, I'm not condemning that either - both are grown adults and if they are ok with that then cool - but I don't think that I would enjoy dating someone who was only in it just for the cash. But to each his own.

    Anyway, just my

  21. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to rickdugan For This Useful Post:


  22. #14
    Featured Member lemiwinks31's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2007
    Posts
    1,338
    Thanks
    247
    Thanked 1,580 Times in 667 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    First, it's always looked down upon that women be interested in a man's wealth (gold digger, anyone?). However, lately I've been wondering if men with money are really bothered by it, or if it's just broke guys who are bothered by it?

    I've started listening to more rap/hip-hop music and I find that they talk a lot about money and women,


    I am with the OP....I also use rap/hip-hop to define my moral compass. Well either that or Grand Theft Auto.

  23. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to lemiwinks31 For This Useful Post:


  24. #15
    Veteran Member The Six's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2009
    Location
    San Fernando Valley
    Posts
    499
    Thanks
    4
    Thanked 481 Times in 205 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Living in the Valley, I know plenty of broke guys. Not once has the issue of women being after money come up. Where did the idea that broke guys are bothered by it come from? Generally, if you put the effort into looking for someone, you can find someone, whether you're broke, wealthy, or whatever.

  25. #16
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2005
    Posts
    6,947
    Thanks
    2,845
    Thanked 5,526 Times in 3,113 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?


  26. #17
    Banned
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    11,037
    Thanks
    1,891
    Thanked 5,124 Times in 3,086 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Six View Post
    Living in the Valley, I know plenty of broke guys. Not once has the issue of women being after money come up. Where did the idea that broke guys are bothered by it come from? Generally, if you put the effort into looking for someone, you can find someone, whether you're broke, wealthy, or whatever.
    I've never heard of broke guys being bothered by it either. In fact the guys I know who felt this way were guys with decent jobs (not wealthy but not broke)who got stung by women. My uncle for example worked in decent jobs but got stung by a gold digger years ago so he was reluctant to get serious for a long time with any woman. Strangely, I've known broke guys who still found women and no I wouldn't date them but other women do.

    I hate to say it, but I think this idea of women wanting men for money seems to be prevalent with attractive women who are young. Many dancers can't separate their persona in the club versus out so they believe (wrongly)that because they get men to spend a ton in the club they should outside as well. To me this is only fine if both people are in on it, but otherwise no.

    I'm currently looking for a husband and whether he can support me or not is nothing I am even considering. Yes he needs to have a good job and be a professional, but I don't want him to support me, nor will I support him. I didn't go to college and grad school just to be supported by a man. This isn't the 50's. Besides, what many women don't take in consideration is nothing is absolute. What if he leaves her or cheats, or abuses her? I definitely then don't want to have to support her through my taxes.

  27. #18
    Member Missingthe$$$'s Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2011
    Location
    in a world full of mystery
    Posts
    15
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    I feel that most men with great income could care less. Because they're after your looks and the way you make them feel when they're around you. Its totally an equal opportunity situation. I just wouldn't be blunt about it to him though. Because it then ruins the whole make believe fantasy about it.

  28. #19
    God/dess anouk.oui's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    2,961
    Thanks
    3,002
    Thanked 1,485 Times in 738 Posts
    My Mood
    Blah

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    ditto rickdungan
    FUCK YEAH finally retired after 6 years dancing!!
    NEW to camming
    Use the discount code "DANCER" to get 15% off ALL mermaid bikinis & swimwear at



  29. #20
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Sep 2010
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    347
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked 568 Times in 162 Posts

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    I don't require a wealthy man, but any guy I date had better have a career and goals, and be successful at said career. Don't matter if you make good money as a doctor or a plumber, as long as you have the motivation to work hard so that you can provide for yourself and eventually, a family. Nothing more unsexy than a 30 year old still working at Mcdonalds (or any other minimum wage job) and worse, being FINE with that yet still wanting to have a gf/wife/family. Maybe its fine for some to live on or above the poverty level but when I settle down with a man and have children, I want to make sure that those kids are PROVIDED for. I don't understand why some guys find this kind of mindset offensive...I've met lots of guys who have called me a gold digger simply because I find success and motivation a turn on.

    Us women know that if we look hot and pretty, we'll have a better chance of landing a good guy. Its no different with men, having money and being financially stable will land you with plenty of options when it comes to women. Do I think guys date me simply for my looks? No, but it sure doesn't hurt. And would I date a guy simply for his wallet? No, but again, it sure doesn't hurt either We all have our own set of things that turn us on and I don't think anyone has the right to tell us what should be on our "list" of attractive qualities or pre-requisites. The guys who hate on women who like successful men are likely just angry they either a) are broke motherfuckers or b) can't find a girl who likes him for HIM and not his wallet....both of which are HIS problem and not ours!

  30. The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to ashiepants For This Useful Post:


  31. #21
    God/dess cherryblossomsinspring's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2010
    Posts
    3,244
    Thanks
    2,454
    Thanked 4,800 Times in 1,707 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    The one complaining are the broke losers that don't have anything to offer. There are also the guys that typically push women for stuff. This song does seem like he's trying to just get laid and giving her hopes of riches. Now how many men have tried that before and succeeded? lol If a man is complaining about doing for a woman then he may need to start dating men.
    If she's attractive then this typically means she has more options when it comes to men. Why settle for less when someone is willing to offer more to be with you. Same applies to most men. If you have more to offer why date the run of the mill lady that will be happy with a super size menu when you can take out a woman that has super model status.

    Gold Digger is thrown out because some guy was passed up for someone that has more to offer.Now flip that around and give that same guy the option of scoring with a nice decent looking women his own age vs a younger model type dancer. Guess what? That nice older woman is getting dropped like a bag of dusty potatoes.

  32. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to cherryblossomsinspring For This Useful Post:


  33. #22
    Member Pink Chelle's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2011
    Posts
    51
    Thanks
    45
    Thanked 12 Times in 10 Posts
    My Mood
    Daring

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    Men strive for better jobs, and more money to get better women. That's all there is to it.
    All you need to do is look at the animal kingdom. The female bird goes for the potential mate that builds the better nest. I am not having it! Men and women will never be equal. That is why they call us- WOe MAN. Repeat after me! I have the pu$$y, I make the rules! Women have gotten stupid over time. We gave up too much of our power. It is time we stop settling for less from men.

  34. #23
    Veteran Member stripperMBA's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2006
    Location
    Texas
    Posts
    554
    Thanks
    33
    Thanked 159 Times in 58 Posts
    My Mood
    Bored

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    its all nesting instinct that goes back to the caveman days.
    "Can we read it on the Smoking Gun? "

  35. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to stripperMBA For This Useful Post:


  36. #24
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Jul 2011
    Posts
    138
    Thanks
    168
    Thanked 66 Times in 38 Posts
    My Mood
    Amused

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    I spent many many years NOT caring about a man's income or lack of ambition-I have a good heart that led to my financial demise (I married a golddigger, lol, not knowing, trusting, yes, dumb me). After my divorce and back in the dating arena, I became serious with a guy who owned his own house but didn't work and didn't care to-he got a small savings stipend of $200 and that's all he needed for food (his moms house was attached so she paid all utilities, and yes he was over 40, lol, but had a good heart, so I thought). I had a secure job so like I said, I could care less about his income, or lack of it. Problem was, his ATTITUDE toward money...when I WOULD SHOP WITH HIM AND WITH MY MONEY BUY MYSELF STUFF he would tell me how this is a waste of money, or how I'm getting ripped off, or how he could make it cheaper, etc. Dinner dates were always coupons and I usually paid for every other one, which I was fine with, but then it got to DOING EVERYTHING FREE. I try to be wise with my money but when I want to go out and have fun, I want to go OUT AND HAVE FUN! He made me feel guilty spending my money so we could go to a nice restaurant and ONE TIME he did take me out to a nice restaurant but the whole time complained that it cost all his monthly money! So now I'm feeling bad while having my lobster-we both had lobster-and finally got sick of his pissiness that I ordered a double chocolate martini just to finish it off and broke up with him soon after. He was so insecure about MY having a job or money, I never made a deal about it, HE DID, and I never made him feel less than a man, other than quietly wanting to go to a nice restaurant-so I just finally took us to one, then he did as mentioned-as I was sick of just buffets and feeling like we have to always scrimp. He should have just got a job, if only to pay for nice dates and gifts for me, but he was so used to having it all handed to him and as long as he watched the coupon deals and stuff, he never had to work, but geez. Never again. No, I'm not a golddigger, I am an ambitious, educated woman, but now I DO CARE about a man's income, only because of the fact HE WILL NEVER WHINE AND COMPLAIN WHEN WE GO OUT SOMEWHERE NICE. Funny how the broke a guy is, the more money becomes an issue. I want to date established gentlemen so we can get back to just enjoying each other and money NOT being an issue. That's my experience, love to hear what the blues say about it too, guys know how guys think and I want to know why he couldn't just accept our situation and let me pay for the nicer restaurants and events and geez, NOT COMPLAIN WHEN I'M JUST BUYING THINGS FOR MYSELF.

  37. #25
    Featured Member miss1dancypants's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2010
    Location
    your dreams
    Posts
    1,394
    Thanks
    2,845
    Thanked 1,335 Times in 434 Posts
    My Mood
    Drunk

    Default Re: Are men truly okay with women being after their money?

    if a sexy, attractive girl is after a rich guy's money, and if a rich guy is after a sexy, attractive girl's sex, then isn't it mutually beneficial? both people get what they want by giving something the other person wants. both people should be happy, and if one points a finger, the other can point the finger right back. who cares.

  38. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to miss1dancypants For This Useful Post:


Page 1 of 5 123 ... LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 109
    Last Post: 12-10-2013, 11:12 AM
  2. Women watch men strip for fun. Men watch women for darker reasons.
    By Stripper Hacks in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 08-18-2009, 02:52 PM
  3. Women > Men
    By Bella21 in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 38
    Last Post: 05-18-2006, 12:19 PM
  4. Men vs. Women
    By lethalsoul in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 03-10-2005, 06:33 PM
  5. What Men Know About Women
    By MojoJojo in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 08-28-2004, 05:13 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •