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    Default With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    So what do you do if you know the guy wants to talk to you.

    Happened to me last night, so I sat next to him and whispered that I'd like to get a dance with him before the night is over. He tells the girl in his lap he is gonna go get a dance and she just sits there, literally rolling her eyes and mean mugging me, it was really awkward but I looked her in the eye until she got up. I didn't say anything rude, just waited while she took her sweet ass time to get off his lap then purposely follow him across the club slowly so I wasn't walking with him.

    I understand how it might appear. She thought I came out of no where and took 'her' customer. But, wtf, you never know if the girl who showed up had been asked to go to that table, and the guy you're sitting on doesn't prefer you. I guess sometimes it is hard to fathom that you're not everyone's favorite.

    Its one of those situations where you'd have to have been there to see the cattiness of it all.... it was really ridiculous.

    I didn't see her the rest of the night because we did dances until they closed, so I went upstairs with another 100 in my garter.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    That happens at the club I'm trying right now and I just ignore the bitch and keep on talking like she's not there. She gets tired of it and goes away. I will say that if its one of the girls who are coked out the custy gets rid of her because the customers I sell too aren't into that.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    This is the most annoying thing ever. Walking away voluntarily is one thing, but when you have to leave to go onstage, it's just skeezy to go over and try to take the customer, imo. I never believe that a girl just "doesn't know" that I was talking to the guy and hitting it off before I was forced to go onstage. I think what you did was perfect. If she's going to be so rude as to overtly try to steal a customer that you just did all the work of warming up, then I see no reason to be polite and not get her kicked off his lap. If he really wanted to be with her instead of you, he would have said "Sorry, I'm going to hang out with so-and-so for awhile - come back later." Instead, he told her to get the fuck off cuz he wanted to go with you. Girls need to get it through their heads when a custy is obviously interested in another girl. I have had so much of my time wasted by girls who fucked with my hustle when the guy was clearly into me and not them, and they insisted on sitting with us anyway, despite the fact that the guys kept talking to me/buying me drinks - while pretty much ignoring them. I seriously had a girl one night who would not fucking leave a guy that I had been talking to, and who kept buying me drinks and asking me to come back to him after I got offstage. Afterwards, she was like, "Sorry if I seemed like I was stepping in your game - it's just, that guy's my regular." Really? Because he didn't seem particularly keen on spending anything on you tonight... Some girls just don't know when to give up...

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    dirty hustling is popular in south florida and i'm not sure why.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Such a catch-22 situation! On the one hand, if you leave the customer (even if it's for stage) technically I think they're fair game for other girls, so I wouldn't have gone back and "taken back" the customer like that. If they're truly interested in only you, they will say they're waiting for you. Of course, this doesn't take into account the "camping" girls who will sit with a customer as long as it takes for them to finally go for a dance, no matter what. I like to leave something I don't particularly care about with a customer if I have to leave them for stage - something like a glass of water, a near empty drink, a lap dance towel, anything to send the message that someone else is sitting there. Otherwise, how are girls to know that you didn't just get rejected and are moving on?

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Fuck dude Ive never gotten as worked up as I did last night. Camille you're right about dirty hustling. The same girl who got pissed at me for taking the custie for dances the night before got mad because another guy I danced for asked to leave when I came out of the dressing room. But the one that got me worked up was some stupid cunt who said I was stepping on her crusty toes. I'm not even type out all her threats and bs I really wanted to kick her in her flabby gut tho!!!! >.<

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    ive hav a problem with this too, when i know a guy has come in specifially to see me, and another girl is lached onto him, i dunno what to do, so i usually tell guys now that if they are coming in to see me, that they should ask someone to get me or approach me themselfs.

    As for havin to go on stage when ur tryin to hustle a guy, and then another girl comes an plucks him out his seat, i have no idea what to do so i usually just leave it and either brush it off or get annoyed for a few mins lol ive never known what the "unspoken rules" are with this situation, i dont do it to other girls though.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Usually I just let it go, wave and smile at him, hustle someone else, then come back later. Honestly I don't keep track of who was talking with who, and who went on stage, when it's busy so I can't really blame the girl. She might not have known. *shrug*

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    I agree, if you go to stage the guy is game. But the thing is, he had asked me to return, and I sat with his friend initially but he was signaling at me to please come back over to him, so I did. He had already told me he wanted some LDs. So fuck it, I wasn't going to let 100 dollars slip by because some bitch might have her feelings hurt.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Hovering over customers is rude.

    You're going to have to improve your hustle so that when you're on stage he turns girls away or at least tells them to get up when you're done.

    Shanna Dior I agree with you up to a point.

    What if a majority of girls "left something behind" and cock-blocked the entire floor.

    Some clubs have drink rules, and some dancers abuse it and they get in trouble.

    If a customer really wants a dance with someone he will tell everyone else to go away.

    It's as simple as that.




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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    ^^ I would say customers are weak and are not apt to pointedly turn other girls away. If the guy was signaling her to come back over, it's totally fair game to go back to him. Plus, by that same logic, if the other girl's hustle was good enough, he would turn down loki when she asked for a lapdance, saying that he wanted to spend time with the other girl instead... I think all signs in this situation point to the guy wanting loki and just being too polite to tell the other girl to get off his lap when she wasn't there.

    Besides, and it's just my personal opinion, if I spend my time warming a guy up and then have to go onstage right before I close a sale, it's not rude at all for me to try to go back and quickly close him with a "Do you wanna go for a dance now," even if someone else sits with him while I'm up there. I've had it done to me plenty of times when I sit with a guy that another girl was sitting with. I wouldn't be offended as the other girl - they already had a thing going before I came along, and if he doesn't want to, he can say "No, I'm actually gonna sit with so-and-so for awhile." But I don't think it's rude at all to return to a customer I already had the intention of returning to before I was forced to leave, despite who swooped in when I stood up. Why should I lose out on a sale that I already worked to get just because the club rules dictate I had to leave for a couple songs right when I was about to close? Screw the other girl's feelings - if that customer is interested in me, I'm going back to get my dances. They would do the same to me, and I honestly can't, and have never, faulted them.

    I think the only time I ever got mad at a girl for basically telling me to "get the fuck out of here" was when she voluntarily left for a good 10 minutes to take a smoke break and freshen her makeup, I started talking to the guy she was talking to earlier, figuring she was done with him, and then she came back up and was like, "Can I have my man back?" I left since I didn't want to cause drama, and she actually asked in a non-bitchy tone, but in that scenario, she left of her own free will so it's her own fault if someone else sits with him while she's gone. Going to stage is a different matter, where you're forced to leave a sale dangling, so it's within your rights to go back to it when your duty is done.

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    Reminder Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    If the guy was signaling her to come back over, it's totally fair game to go back to him.
    If he signals to her while the other girl is on his lap then yes.

    Especially if he's a regular.

    If he is not a regular then consider the following:

    it's not rude at all for me to try to go back and quickly close him with a "Do you wanna go for a dance now," even if someone else sits with him while I'm up there.
    Here is where I disagree. Yeah it's a pain in the ass when you warm up a guy and have to go on stage. But I don't find it acceptable to go back over and say "Hey how about that dance now" if someone else is sitting with them.

    Why should a dancer be interrupted because the other dancer had to go on stage?

    Why should I lose out on a sale
    Making a sale is taking a guy to the VIP.

    Making the sale is the customer telling other girls to go away or telling them to get off his lap and patiently waiting for you.

    A dancer may THINK she made the sale before she went on stage, when in fact she did not.

    just because the club rules dictate I had to leave for a couple songs right when I was about to close?
    You have to up your hustle and close faster. About to close is not the same as closing.

    They would do the same to me.
    It depends on the girl. If they are notorious for ransacking warmed up customers when a girl is on stage they probably will; especially if you do it to them first. Expect retaliation.

    If a girl was smoking or whatever and came back and asked me that, drama or not, the answer would be NO.




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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    This situation does suck, I agree. Buuut you can't just go back and take the guy no matter how much you want to. Unless you have a drink sitting there then I think it's unacceptable to go back and steal him. Or of course if he paid you ahead of time then you have the right to go back, IMO. All you can do othewise is wait for her to leave or go onstage and then make your move. In the meantime go work the other guys.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post


    It depends on the girl. If they are notorious for ransacking warmed up customers when a girl is on stage they probably will; especially if you do it to them first. Expect retaliation.
    Hmm, I think almost every girl at my club did this. I don't think there was anyone particularly "notorious" for trying to take warmed up customers, or anyone notorious for coming back after being gone and trying to take customers that they were talking to before they had to leave. I've had a good majority of the girls in my old club come back over to a guy they had had to leave earlier and interrupt me to ask if the guy wanted to go with them now that they were free. I only did this when a guy had specifically asked me to come back before my stage or during my tipwalk past him, so I don't think it had anything to do with retaliation. *shrug* It just was the norm in my club that if you were talking to a customer before you had to go onstage, you were within your rights to go back and try to quickly finish closing the sale afterward. If your stage set was coming up, you couldn't just "close faster" because you'd still have to go onstage. It was up to the DJ's discretion - if you were already in the middle of a marathon, you could skip your stage, but if you were just leaving to do a dance or had only done one, they'd often call you to stage anyway and be obnoxious about it until you got dressed and went to stage. It wouldn't make much sense for me or any girl to sit on their hands for 2-3 songs because we knew we'd have to go onstage soon regardless of if we closed a sale, but figured another girl would "take" our customer once we left and we just had to give him up for lost... Now, if we always got skipped for stage if we were back giving dances, I guess that would be different... I was going off the perspective of my club - which I guess isn't the norm. I agree with the common notion that you can't "brand" customers as your own, but I still figure if the customer should be able to easily say "no" to another girl walking up to him when you leave, he should just as easily be able to say "no" to you if you go back to ask for a dance if he wants the other girl instead...

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    I've had a good majority of the girls in my old club come back over to a guy they had had to leave earlier and interrupt me to ask if the guy wanted to go with them now that they were free.
    Does it happen to other girls or only you? Are you allowing people to push you around.

    Personally I wouldn't allow it.

    There are very few circumstances why a dancer should interrupt another dancer in the middle of talking to a customer. If the guy owes her money that is one reason. I can't think of any other reasons off the top of my head.

    @Kaiarose I've always worked at clubs where a drink didn't matter. I've also heard of clubs that have the drink rule and girls would have 3 to 5 guys buy them drinks and hog up customers.




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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    Does it happen to other girls or only you? Are you allowing people to push you around.
    It was just kinda the norm. I saw it happen a lot, and never heard of anyone bitching about someone else doing it to them. I guess it's just one of those things that differs from club to club... like taking customers from the stage. I consider this extremely dirty hustling, but based on a thread I read awhile ago, most girls think it's totally fair. I guess different things are considered dirty or fine in different places.

    As far as drinks go, my club had a rule that if a customer bought you a drink, it wasn't necessarily that if you left it there, you had "staked out" the customer, but that you had to finish it with him/go back to him if you were forced to leave until the drink was gone. So yeah, if you had a drink sitting there, and another girl sat down, it was actually club rules that you go back to him anyway cuz he had paid for your drink.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    If I leave a customer's side, I don't care if some other dancer wants to have him for herself.

    However, is extremely rude to jump into a customer's lap when another dancer is already talking to him. Now this angers me!





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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post

    However, is extremely rude to jump into a customer's lap when another dancer is already talking to him. Now this angers me!
    There was a girl at my club who did this to me twice. I started having to jump into customers' laps the second I saw her coming just so she wouldn't do it... yes, that is, without a doubt, rude as hell.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post
    If he signals to her while the other girl is on his lap then yes.
    That is what happened. With the second customer, he told me that he did ask her to leave, because he was waiting for me, but that she was 'persistent.' Believe it or not, some girls really can't take no for an answer.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stripper Hacks View Post

    Making a sale is taking a guy to the VIP.
    Well, I work in Miami. VIP 9 times out of 10 is for sucking and fucking and I do neither. So getting a guy to the LD booth is how I make my money. I'm not going to leave a customer who I KNOW wants a dance from ME, because some dumb dancer can't understand that he wants dances but not from her.


    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    This situation does suck, I agree. Buuut you can't just go back and take the guy no matter how much you want to. Unless you have a drink sitting there then I think it's unacceptable to go back and steal him.
    This was a VIP table, the guy had come over to the bar and asked me to go to the VIP area with him, I was drinking champagne with them, I had a drink.........


    ughhhh.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Okay, I never, ever ever start shit with another dancer. I was about to get 4 dances from a dude, and out of no where another dancer walks up, whispers in his ear and takes him to VIP. Anyone else would have flipped the fuck out. I didn't, and I'm glad I didn't. She had been sitting with him earlier, and he had asked her if they could do a room. She had been hustling him for some time apparently. Good for her, she kept his ass back there for two hours.
    When Camille said its norm for dancers to be grimey ass hustlers she was right. Every night there will be someone who sees guys at the tip rail making it rain and they walk over and start dancing on them. I would never do that shit, and I haven't even been dancing 4 months yet. I think we're at the end of summer and these girls are just desperate and don't give a fuck no more.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    loki, it's not normal for everywhere. it's normal for south florida. honestly, s fl is like a weird experiment of sex work gone awful. there is no good reason for half of the stuff that is "normal" in florida clubs to be occurring, and yet....

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post

    Well, I work in Miami. VIP 9 times out of 10 is for sucking and fucking and I do neither. So getting a guy to the LD booth is how I make my money. I'm not going to leave a customer who I KNOW wants a dance from ME, because some dumb dancer can't understand that he wants dances but not from her.
    Perhaps he needed to be more clear with her. If he wasn't so vague I am sure she would not be sitting in his lap.



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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    That is what happened. With the second customer, he told me that he did ask her to leave, because he was waiting for me, but that she was 'persistent.' Believe it or not, some girls really can't take no for an answer.
    I'm with you there then. That would be the only other reason a girl should talk at a guy when he's got a dancer on his lap.

    He could be a regular or not but if he wants you, and for her to get up but she wont then yeah that's bad.

    Now if he doesn't call you over then I think it's something different. Some guy will call you over when they need to be saved by a persistent dancer.

    Yes I think they should have the balls enough to say "I'm waiting for someone" but some guys don't make it quite clear to the "persistors" because they don't want to piss people off.

    I've had girls try to come back to a customer while I was sitting with them and say "Well I was doing something."

    That doesn't work with me.




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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    I never pay attention to who is sitting with who. If I see a guy alone I approach him, and if a guy has another girl with him when I get back from stage, oh well, unless he specifically asked me to come back then he's obviously moved on. The truth is he's the club's customer, not mine, and I've been told many many times by a customer that he's waiting for someone if he's into her. That's what the private rooms are for, so he can have you to himself without being interrupted by other girls, or other customers, or stage.

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    Default Re: With a customer, got on stage, come back and another girl is in his lap.

    When I *know* the guy was interested in me and a girl steals him while I'm on stage, whether or not I know if she knew I already had him, I just get off stage and go back over to the guy and say "I'm baack" really cutesy. The other girl(s) will get the hint and scatter like flies.

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