I'm new here, so hello. It's kind of refreshing to be able to have a forum like this, where you can get real feedback from actual dancers. There's a lot I'd like to know, but I'll limit this thread to one basic question: From your perspective, ladies, what are the categories you put men into when you are working?
For example, me: I am mid-forties, professional, though not extraordinarily wealthy, single, in shape and attractive for my age. I bet I fall into something like the, "worth the time if I haven't got a full on hustle going" type; in other words, when I go to a club I'm usually prepared to drop like $100.00 or so on a casual visit. So I'm not a big spender, but not a cheapskate either (Am I?). I enjoy getting dances, but only if I feel somewhat easy talking to the girl. I respond best to petite women who come off as genuinely friendly with a sexy edge, a kind of hard balance to strike I imagine when you are working. Of course, I know what it's all about, and I don't think I'd have the talent to create that kind of rapport if I were in your shoes. That's just where I'm at. If I'm not relaxed, and agree to a dance to early, I don't enjoy it. There have been times when I honestly regretted agreeing to a dance, just because I could see too easily through the game. On the other hand, when a girl's got charisma, even though I know its an act, well, she's just got charsima, and I like acting along.
That all said, that's just my best guess as to where I fall. Occasionally, I think about dropping more than that for the champagne room, but I haven't done that yet. The place I like best is upscale, clean and well run. I do remember one time I was at a club and a very attractive dancer sat down next to me and started talking. She talked to me for a while, and laughed at my jokes. I didn't want a dance at the moment, but i didn't want to be rude, so I offered to buy her a drink. She said I didn't have to, but had a couple anyway. We talked pretty easily, and I made her laugh enough that it felt pretty real. I remember she mentioned something about having to go to the supermarket after work. I forget why. I asked her if she was going to go in the skirt and top she was wearing. She said, "I just might." And I said, "If you lived around here and went shopping like that I would have so many groceries." Etc . . .
Anyway, I told her pretty much the same things about me I have just said here, and also mentioned that I had never been to the champagne room, and was curious about it. She said, "Well, if you have the time, I can show you." I didn't have the time, for real; I had just stopped in quickly after work, and had to be somewhere else in like an hour. I told her that. And she just kept talking with me. I offered her another drink, but she said, "no, you're getting me drunk already." So I told her I just wanted to be respectful of her time, and she said something like, "It's cool. I'm not officially on for a fifteen minutes or so." So we just kept talking. It was a funny thing, because she was so attractive and dressed for work, but I felt like, well, I'm not paying, so try to be a gentlemen and not ogle her while your talking.
She got called to the stage eventually, and I thought I should at least sit down, watch her dance, and leave her a good tip. I did that, but the funny thing is when she was making the rounds and got to where I was she seemed really surprised that I was sitting at the stage (we had been talking in the bar area). I put $20 down, and that was alright I guess, but it felt really weird, and like maybe she was disappointed. I couldn't connect to the dance, or, like I said, ogle her as she moved and did her thing, because it just felt somehow like I had just put myself into a different category.
So that's my question: What categories do you put guys in? Is there a difference between guys who are just sitting at the bar, and the ones at the stage? How much money should a guy be willing to drop to be respectable? I always thought you went to the stage to find a girl who you might want a dance from. But personally, I'd probably rather skip the whole stage thing and just get some dances if I feel comfortable with the girl.
Depending on the circumstances, it's like fifty-fifty if I am "relaxed" enough to show how much I am enjoying the dance. I've wondered about those sort of categories too: How excited to you expect a man to get during a dance? Is it insulting if he doesn't seem to be responding, and how much excitement on the man's part is too much?
Okay, that's a lot of questions, and probably more story than is necessary, but I am curious. Please feel free to comment on any aspect.
Thanks for listening.


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