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    I love it when a woman is clear about her desires, especially when they involve me. Avoids confusion, reduces slaps, and as a man who has had most girlfriends say "why didn't you jump me before" I can only say PLEASE JUMP ME

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    Your ex sounds incredibly abusive and misogynistic. Fuck him. Women who want casual sex are not sluts. In fact I think that word should be expunged from the English language because it exists solely to shame women.

    Some men MIGHT be intimidated by forward women but I'm sure many of them appreciate it. If I were a guy I'd be grateful to have some of the burden lifted when it comes to pursuing/seducing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OutofCuriosity View Post

    Somehow, my ex found out about these and said that everybody was talking sh*t about me. Mind you, I had these casual encounters long after my ex broke up with me.

    Lies.

    I would not believe anything this ex says/said to you ever again. He's a controlling, manipulative asshole. Erase any conditioning statements he's ever made to you - in fact, erase anything that's ever come out of his mouth...

    My last ex fucked me up too in regards to my ideas about men, sex, and what they do or don't like. He was my first real opinion on it, so I just took what he said as gospel truth... bad idea. For instance, when we were dating, I was a virgin and had only given a BJ once which was awkward as hell so I was easing into it... meanwhile, I offered HJs instead. He went on a monologue about how guys don't like handjobs; that they would rather not have anything than a handjob; any guy can give himself a better handjob so they're boring, and there are maybe 2 women in the entire world who give good handjobs. My current bf sometimes prefers me to give him a handjob over sex, so clearly this is a bunch of horseshit - honestly, I still struggle to get it through my head that he was full of it and just trying to guilt me into BJs.

    Anyway, my point is that your ex is full of shit. I doubt he heard anything about anybody saying bad things about you - he's just trying to scare you into never going after anyone else. People tend to talk shit only about girls who go out and find a different partner every night because of some sort of insecurity issue, and this doesn't sound like you - even then, it's really none of their business. Anyone else who says anything about you in regards to you being a slut because you went after a guy for some casual sex is jealous and insecure. And, from my experience, guys couldn't be happier when you initiate casual sex. There's always the possibility that he doesn't want you, but if that ends up being the case, it's not because you turned him off by going after him.

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    Your ex boyfriend is an abusive asshole, and making you feel worthless is what worthless men do to keep women. Stop thinking about anything he told you because everything he did was done for the only purpose of breaking you down. That said while most men might think the idea of a beautiful young woman throwing themselves at them sounds great the truth is that something like that happening is extremely out of the ordinary and most of us really wouldn't know how to react. And yes, sad to say but the "wow i barely know this chick and she is all over me, she must be a complete slut" reaction is probably not uncommon.

    That said if all you are interested in is sex then i don't see why this would be a problem. That musician guy is probably very used to it already in fact. Not that any of that makes this a good idea, to be honest i think being some musicians latest conquest is about the last thing you need at this point and you should be thinking more about yourself than about how to please another guy who is very likely just going to use you.
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    Ah, well nevermind then, that seems perfectly fine.
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    Why are you listening to your EX-BOYFRIEND? He sounds like an idiot.

    Do what you want, who gives a fuck what he says?

    No, women who want casual sex are not desperate, or whatever.

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    i am far from desperate, I have a great husband and several boyfriends. if I see a guy I like its simply " Hello, Your cute, do you wanna?"
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    I would just go flirt with him the way you would with anyone else. Go up to him after a show and tell him how great he was. Lay it on thick. He's a musician - I bet he's used to this sort of thing and realizes that's his cue to try to make a move.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I would just go flirt with him the way you would with anyone else. Go up to him after a show and tell him how great he was. Lay it on thick. He's a musician - I bet he's used to this sort of thing and realizes that's his cue to try to make a move.
    This mainly, experienced guys will have no problems picking up clues. If that doesn't work just grab his junk.
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    If that doesn't work just grab his junk.
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