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    I wanted to come up with a different topic other than the usual ones that are often discussed. Just out of curiosity are there times when you either refuse a private or just aren't in the mood for one? I'm not talking about when a customer is being rude or acting really bizarre but just for some other reasons? I know it sounds ironic being a camgirl as that how we make our money.


    For me I usually lose interest in gaining a private(s) when:

    1.) T.V./READING- when there's something on/article that's holds my interest

    2.) FOOD- when I'm eating/snacking due to hunger or boredom

    3.) INTERNET- when I'm fully engrossed with something online such as listening to music, watching online porn/youtube videos, reading forums, etc.

    4.) CHEAPSKATES- esp. on imlive I know some cheap asses want a private when I' already in one just see something for the 1st free 20 seconds so I hit cancel until I'm finish my private to accept others.


    I know it's weird but I get upset b/c I start to get too comfortable or soooooo into something and then I get interrupted and have to move swiftly. I turn to those out of boredom to kill time. It's so funny when you're ready /"in the mood" no one comes to your room but when you aren't that's when customers want some action. It's like they can sense when you're already pre-occupied with something.

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    lol! amen to this.

    i'm grateful for every private, and ideally i'd like to spend a bigger percentage of my time in private...BUT...i totally know that feeling where you're in free chat and you're checking facebook or listening to music or whatever and you just don't feel like it when someone requests a show. sometimes i also get a bit...i don't know, restless, when people are talking a lot in free about what they want in the show and it's not something that i really feel like doing right then (this happened to me the other day with a customer who wanted mommy/son roleplay) and part of me just wants to stay in free and not have to deal with it, and then the other part of me kicks myself because i'm not making any money hanging out in free. usually i get more ban-happy when i'm in this mode, too.

    i usually work free chat sites and i don't watch tv or eat while working, but sometimes i'll listen to music and i'm really bad about browsing the internet and using google voice to text friends while working (so i can type the texts). i'm trying to get better about focusing all my attention on the chatroom, but i totally know that boredom/killing time feeling. one of the things i've been trying to do to cope is to get up and dance when i get really bored...it's good exercise for me, doesn't leave me hunched over like surfing the internet while camming does, and sometimes it attracts more people to my room.

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    I refuse several privates a day.

    1) He claims he read my profile but still asks me if I do anal anyway.

    2) If a clothing change means I have to start digging into my own personal closet. My camming wardrobe is NOT my personal wardrobe and I refuse to use them interchangeably.

    3) If someone irritates me from the get-go in free chat.

    4) He logs in without warning, doesn't say a word, turns on his cam, is already beating off, and on the verge of blowing his load. *kick* I don't do 29 second shows.

    5) He logs in and remains silent. Unless he is a 2nd (or 3rd or 4th entrant) My niche requires interaction to be successful. *kick*

    6) Fetishes or requests I am not comfortable with.



    * I would never refuse a show because I'm surfing or fumbling for music. The reasons behind my refusal is because I am working on getting a following in a specific niche and either I know I won't be able to meet his requests or because I don't see it as being a viable business decision. I do not want to expand my niche(s) so widely that I become a cam of all trades. I like being seen as a specialty cam.
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    I prefer privates. I don't like group shows much, and I try not to do public shows, although, I see that's where it's easier to make money is when I do a countdown. Just the other day I said I wouldn't do countdowns because my cam score is low, so there are only about 50 ppl in my room compared to when I used to have 100-300 in the past. So I figured it would take a long time, but actually when I have a countdown, I get tipped faster. The other day was perfect I did a small countdown to just stay naked on cam, and the tips continued to come in, and I was asked for privates even after being naked. It was awesome. I think I might stick with that. I was able to make $100 in 2 hours. That's perfect for me. Group shows annoy me, because I hate being demanded to do things for everyone all at once.




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    Quote Originally Posted by CammingSince97 View Post
    I refuse several privates a day.

    1) He claims he read my profile but still asks me if I do anal anyway.

    2) If a clothing change means I have to start digging into my own personal closet. My camming wardrobe is NOT my personal wardrobe and I refuse to use them interchangeably.

    3) If someone irritates me from the get-go in free chat.

    4) He logs in without warning, doesn't say a word, turns on his cam, is already beating off, and on the verge of blowing his load. *kick* I don't do 29 second shows.

    5) He logs in and remains silent. Unless he is a 2nd (or 3rd or 4th entrant) My niche requires interaction to be successful. *kick*

    6) Fetishes or requests I am not comfortable with.



    * I would never refuse a show because I'm surfing or fumbling for music. The reasons behind my refusal is because I am working on getting a following in a specific niche and either I know I won't be able to meet his requests or because I don't see it as being a viable business decision. I do not want to expand my niche(s) so widely that I become a cam of all trades. I like being seen as a specialty cam.
    Everything you said I do the same

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    Quote Originally Posted by CammingSince97 View Post

    5) He logs in and remains silent. Unless he is a 2nd (or 3rd or 4th entrant) My niche requires interaction to be successful. *kick*

    LOL. I just did a silent private a little while ago. I asked him what he liked and got nothing. SO I waited my 30 seconds then warned him I would do whatever I wanted if he didn't say anything. He never did. SO I just sat there and rubbed my thighs fully clothed. I was tempted to end it thinking that it may be a hoax or something but I was on streamate so I can't get a chargeback. It was easy money but it was very awkward not having any interaction or feedback.

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    I got one of those last night in exclusive. He turned on his cam and was sitting in a pitch black room with only his computer lighting his face. He looked kind of spooky and I really couldn't make him out. I just assumed he was a voyeur so I made small talk. He came back later as a 2nd guest in a premium chat and never said a thing. For some reason, even though he was kinda spooky I didn't mind. I guess because he wasn't like the usual silent lurker who you KNOW is beating off and leaves you wondering if he's there long enough to leave you the dreaded 1 star rating. I really guess it just depends on the guy. Nothing is set in stone, I mean i do make exceptions lol

    I think he actually even left a 5 star rating lol. I wonder if it's the same guy you had?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CammingSince97 View Post
    I got one of those last night in exclusive. He turned on his cam and was sitting in a pitch black room with only his computer lighting his face. He looked kind of spooky and I really couldn't make him out. I just assumed he was a voyeur so I made small talk. He came back later as a 2nd guest in a premium chat and never said a thing. For some reason, even though he was kinda spooky I didn't mind. I guess because he wasn't like the usual silent lurker who you KNOW is beating off and leaves you wondering if he's there long enough to leave you the dreaded 1 star rating. I really guess it just depends on the guy. Nothing is set in stone, I mean i do make exceptions lol

    I think he actually even left a 5 star rating lol. I wonder if it's the same guy you had?
    Yeah I was wondering about my rating too. I didn't even think about that until after the show was over. But I checked and so far so good. He didn't leave anything yet. But I don't have any bad ratings on SM so far so I don't think one would hurt me too much. Hopefully he's just the silent type.

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    Hmm..there are really only a couple of reasons I could see myself turning down a private with number one being something creeps me out about the guy. Second would have to be telling him I'm not going to do something in private and them him take me anyway, but I would in those first 30 seconds on SM make sure he understands that I'm still not doing that before agreeing to stay. The last one would be if I'm really close to the end of a count down on MFC cause I think that would piss other guys off. Otherwise it's show me the money!

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    5.) WRONG TIME- I also forgot to mention that sometimes a regular customer wants you to perform but for whatever reason the timing isn't right. You know how a member wants to be entertained and you can't do so due to someone being home (privacy issues), a current private (certain ppl like different things), you aren't in the mood for certain activities, or any other thing that would conflict w/ a customer's wishes.

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    All the time.

    If someone irritates me right off the bat, or acts beyond my boundaries with demanding things, I will quit it. Their money isn't worth it to me.
    The truth is, 9 times out of 10 the most demanding, most irritating, most complex requests, are the ones with the smallest funds.

    I'm a great believer in that to have staying power in this line of work, you have to maintain boundaries of what you do, and do not, find acceptable. Just because of the fact that it is an adult industry, or even the fact that is an online interaction, does not give someone the license to cross those boundaries. Allowing yourself down that slippery slope is a fast track to burn out.
    Respect my time and respect my work.

    I may lose money in the short term from refusing their privates or booting them, but one thing I am certain of- I've more than made up what I've lost with the amount of time I've stuck it out.

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    I will sit all evening with no private , get up to take a piss, answer the door , feed the dog , and miss 10+ privates .

    I'm sure someones having a laugh !

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    the only time i didn't want to have a private was my first week of camming, i was just too nervous to have a one-on-one with someone. so i rejected every private...lol now i pretty much accept every private, unless im really close to making my goal on myfreecams.

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    Today I turned down a session do to the fact that someone was home with me.

    What this customer wanted involved to much noise, so yup I declined him.

    Also I will decline someone if it involves to much thinking on my part. I only do that when I am really tired and worn out. Otherwise I will go ahead and do the show :-)

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    If someone asks 'how quick paced are you?' about a private I will usually decline it. It's a pretty clear indicator they are low on funds.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitteryGoddess View Post
    If someone asks 'how quick paced are you?' about a private I will usually decline it. It's a pretty clear indicator they are low on funds.

    This is the same way I feel about guys who ask "can you start the show with the toy already inside you and you're about to cum?"

    Seriously, GTFO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snowC View Post
    The truth is, 9 times out of 10 the most demanding, most irritating, most complex requests, are the ones with the smallest funds.
    You are spot on. This is the truth in many industries, not just camming... the cheapest clients are usually the most demanding.

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    God this is my fucking story every single time I'm on cam. All of the little alert sounds annoy the shit out of me. I have to remind myself that there is money involved! The adultwork bell is the worst.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Juliette25 View Post
    God this is my fucking story every single time I'm on cam. All of the little alert sounds annoy the shit out of me. I have to remind myself that there is money involved! The adultwork bell is the worst.
    On Adultwork you can change the noise privates make.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vlodina View Post
    On Adultwork you can change the noise privates make.
    It will still get on my nerves lol.


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    I never refuse money. The only time I refuse money is when I am about to log off because I have somewhere to be at X time and it's an important appointment.



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    The only time I've refused a private, was when I was multi-tasking SM free chat with taking a timed online homework quiz for class. Luckily it was a regular, and he didn't mind waiting 15 minutes for me to finish that quiz. Never refused a private from being too busy with the internet. If I'm logged on cam, I'm logged on to make money. Everything else can wait. (Or I'll run a voyeur show while I do the everything else )

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