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    Default VENT: Ex-Bestfriend, Abusive Ex, and my son

    Gahh I'm so frustrated right now. I just texted my what used to be BFF since she's my ex-boyfriends live in girlfriend and I wanted to pick up my son. She responds "Don't talk to me, talk to ----, he's not my kid.

    It started a year ago. After putting up with years of abuse, both physical, verbal, and sexual I finally get the balls to dump my babies father and to call the police the next two times he assaulted me. Shortly after I start dating my now fiance, a month later my best friend has it listed on her facebook that she's in a relationship with my ex.

    Our son goes between the two of us, with alot of difficulty considering theres a PPO in effect and neither me nor my ex can have contact (although he stills calls, and talks to me if he sees me in court and even watched my cam and paid for shows without me knowing a few times.) CREEPER.

    If my ex is angry with me over the whole domestic violence court dates he dosn't let me see my son for weeks (police don't do shit in Michigan if there's no custody agreement in place) and I would do anything just to have my own place and have my son living permanently with me, but it's sort of hard to do when I'm living out of a hotel. Now this bitch takes his side, refuses to believe he ever laid a hand on me even though she's seen bruises and he just plead "no contest" (which is equivalent to pleading guilty) to a domestic violence case involving me. On top of that she calls me and my fiance pathetic and accuses us of doing drugs (which we dont, would love to take a drug test to prove it) and calls me an slut and an "internet prostitute" for camming and the most pathetic mother she's ever known because i can't afford to take care of my own kid which sucks but she's just as pathetic when she brought her 1 year old infant into a relationship with my ex knowing he had pending domestic violence charges and is basically living off him. Ugh I feel like crying My life is crumbling. :/

    I just want to have more money, get my kid back 24/7, and not have to deal with shitty people anymore.

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    i'm so sorry, hon. my best friend just got out of an abusive relationship similar to that & i would wanna kill him if i ever saw him again. i can't imagine dating someone like that.

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    Sorry to hear about the difficulties you're going through. I'm glad you're out of an abusive relationship. If he gives you a hard time about seeing your son, can you take him to court? If you can't afford a lawyer, there are lawyers who will work pro-bono for those who can't afford to pay for one. Here's a list of offices in Michigan:

    http://probonolawyers.org/index.cgi?state=MI

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    my cousin was in a similar situation. She took him to court for child support but also gave him the option to forgo child support in exchange for him giving up any custody. He opted to give up custody.
    also remember to save and document everything from current threats to him not following custody orders. Call the battered womens shelter in your area as they may be able to give legal help or atleast provide an advocate.
    you should also go ahead and talk to your child about the custody arraingement. the child needs to have a number to reach you memorized and needs to know it is okay to call poilce if daddy starts beating current girlfriend or if daddy tries to take him out of state.
    and living out of a hotel is not that bad. many people in this economy are living at extended stay places or are living in their vehicles. CPS does not usually care where you live with your kid as long as it is clean, the child has their own bed, and there is food in fridge or cuboard.
    As you are going into a custody battle I would suggest you start doing things that would look good to the justice system. You know how they like to sterotype sex workers.. enroll in one college class. take a parenting class though social services. start going to church so you can get a letter of your good character from the deacon to give to the family court judge ( an atheist friend of mine did this and the judge bought it hook line and sinker). Also consider finding a square job even if only part time (walmart or sonic for example) just so you will be able to show the family court judge that you are not web camming anymore this just in case ur ex tries to use the webcamming against you in court to get full custody. Consider calling child protective sevices on your ex and his girlfriend. report any and all things they do to endanger their kids. shut down your facebook and change your webcamming name if you can so he cannot get proof of you webcamming to use against you in family court. Good luck!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stripperMBA View Post
    you should also go ahead and talk to your child about the custody arraingement. the child needs to have a number to reach you memorized and needs to know it is okay to call poilce if daddy starts beating current girlfriend or if daddy tries to take him out of state.
    There are phones especially made for children, where you can pre-set the phone numbers, and the child only has to push one button. Here's one that I found:

    http://www.buy.com/retail/product.as...lerid=22770579

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    You're doing good. I know it's frustrating because there's so much more left to do but focus on the progress you've made. There's been some excellent suggestions made.

    Also, how can the court system still allow your ex time with his kid when there's a restraining order AND he keeps violating it???

    How do they expect that to be safe???
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    He shouldn't even be allowed to see your son, shit like this just pisses me off. I hope your friend gets a rude awakening from staying with your ex!! What a piece of shit she is too! Karma baby it will come back to them! Webcamming is totally legal. Can you try to hire an attorney, you can probably do payments, I would just talk to someone and tell them your situation. I tried to find a pro-bono atty for my situation, but they only handle child abuse cases, not custody, but maybe Michigan is different, especially considering he was abusive to you. Just stay on top of things, and do whatever you can to get your son back. I hope he isn't mistreating your son, or that stupid ex-best friend you have.

    Oh and document everything!! Even if you can't get an attorney, it's good to document everything that happens. Every time that you go to pick up your son, document, document, document. Save it, and bring it to you when you go to court.

    Hang in there!!




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