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    What does a dancer want in a boyfriend? Besides the obvious of course. Obviously any girl will be looking for a guy who she has chemistry with, who makes her laugh, who really listens to what she has to say, who is not obsessed with jealousy, who treats her like a queen and makes her feel adored. Me, as a guy, those are not things I have any problem with and I think it starts with meeting the right person and being very honest with each other from the get-go. And perhaps a guy should be pretty good looking if he wants to go out with a dancer.

    I'm a romantic guy actually, and I come here with a specific question. Unlike probably most of the men who come to this page, I don't really go out to the clubs too often (less than ten times ever); but I have always had a fascination with the women in this profession, not because of their looks or the skin but something about it intrigues me. When I see a dancer I don't think "boy I want to see this or that", I think, "man it would be great to have a drink with her and find out what her perspective is and what she thinks about the world." More than anything else I think about what it must take to impress such a girl who has probably heard everything.

    Specifically I am an attractive 35 year old male in what is called the cuckold lifestyle, and this means I want to have a monogamous relationship with a girl who is not monogamous to me.

    I want to be that guy who takes care of a girl, gives her a relaxing place to come home to, does pretty much everything for her, helps her get ready, helps her prepare to go out on dates (I am hoping to find a Lady who has a really high sex drive and prefers alpha males for sex), while I stay at home fixing her dinner, cleaning the house, doing the housework, ready to make her feel peaceful and relaxed when she is all done - I have lived this lifestyle through my past four relationships over ten years and its not wishful thinking, but finding a Lady who can really take advantage of it is difficult. There is a bit of S/m to this kind of relationship where the female is as dominant as she chooses. I am the guy who is giving, nurturing, funny, sunshine to your day, the cure for your hangover.

    Sadly I think most of the women who would really enjoy this lifestyle are generally unaware of it while at the same time the women who are into it sometimes not suited for it. I have thought therefore a number of times, how would a guy go about meeting the caliber of Lady who could really use what such a guy has to give but are probably sometimes left with just who they meet in their job to choose from - you have to go there to meet them but if you guy there you are just another customer, not that I mind being a customer but its always been the Woman, not the Body, that I am interested, and you don't get to meet the Person when you go to 'The Club'.

    So the question is, how do you meet 'The Person' instead of just 'The Persona', and does this sound outlandish?

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    Go to a dating website and say that is what you are looking for. One thing dancers hate and that is men who date dancers only for bragging rights. Dancers are like anyone else and just because they are dancers means they are whores.

    I wouldn't mind having a guy clean my residence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Go to a dating website and say that is what you are looking for. One thing dancers hate and that is men who date dancers only for bragging rights. Dancers are like anyone else and just because they are dancers means they are whores.

    I wouldn't mind having a guy clean my residence.
    I do go to the dating websites here and there - not so productive - not looking for a 'date' here, but I have wondered about this question.

    As far as bragging rights - that is the total opposite of me. I sincerely look for the girl who I will be most rewarding to and vice versa. For me this starts with being the most genuine of the genuine, flawed though I may be I try my hardest. Thanks for your answer.

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    I hate the whole "I'm not like other guys" thing. They are usually not as different as they think they are.

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    What does a dancer want in a boyfriend? Besides the obvious of course. Obviously any girl will be looking for a guy who she has chemistry with, who makes her laugh, who really listens to what she has to say, who is not obsessed with jealousy, who treats her like a queen and makes her feel adored.
    This is pretty much what I like, I don't know what else to add that isn't "obvious". I mean, does it get any better than that?

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    I want to have a monogamous relationship with a girl who is not monogamous to me.

    I want to be that guy who takes care of a girl, gives her a relaxing place to come home to, does pretty much everything for her, helps her get ready, helps her prepare to go out on dates (I am hoping to find a Lady who has a really high sex drive and prefers alpha males for sex), while I stay at home fixing her dinner, cleaning the house, doing the housework, ready to make her feel peaceful and relaxed when she is all done
    I take that back, apparently it does! I am really liking this relationship model... especially the part about fixing dinner and doing housework...

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    @Sierra,

    Yeah I bet just about all the guys say they're not like every guy, sorry about that. Thanks for the kind words about the other parts.

    That is the experience I have had since I was 22 now. It was more than I bargained for at first but I've had this model of relationship for stints up to four years and I thrive in it, I have taken some time off to think about the fact that finding the right person is really important. My experience between my first cuckold relationship and my last tells me its not just any girl you meet. It takes someone special to really appreciate and thrive in this kind of environment. Being that my job is first and foremost to take care of a girl it occurs to me I'll find my best luck seeking people who could actually use that kind of devotion from their mate.
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    posting on a stripper's forum that you have a cuckold fetish...very clever, sir

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    Quote Originally Posted by camille27 View Post
    posting on a stripper's forum that you have a cuckold fetish...very clever, sir
    I don't see what's so clever about it - it would be pretty stupid of me to try to go online and try to win over a beautiful lady on a forum where most of the men are naked-lady addicts. I thought twice about asking the questions I asked, maybe I should not have. If my questions are not welcome I will do the honorable thing and leave. I am not here to annoy anybody and just like the ladies, if all I wanted to do was 'get some', well I turn down more than I take home. I apologize if I have in any way disturbed the forum.

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    this thread FAILS!
    "The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right. Greed works" -GORDON GECCO

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    Silk, how dare you post a photo I gave you in confidence. Now I will never show my photo again on here .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Silk, how dare you post a photo I gave you in confidence. Now I will never show my photo again on here .
    I just love your hair!/
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    That was a rough day playing WOW and I didn't have time to brush it.

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    I never understand these questions especially when it is said that they don't want to date us just because we're dancers. Obviously, you do. When will men realize that we are just normal (beyond normal!) girls who just happen to be dancers for a living?? When I'm at home, you know what I do?! I put on my comfy sweatpants, throw on my glasses, read a book, browse the internet, cook dinner, clean the house, take care of my daughter and if my husband is lucky he'll get sex maybe once or twice a week. Yeah, that's right, we aren't sexual goddesses who fuck 24/7 We are regular gals whom you wouldn't be able to pick out in a line-up of average chicks OTC. In all honesty, the hottest we are is probably when we are IN the club. Otherwise we or most of us, don't wear makeup and we probably don't dress to the nines outside the club. We are also usually not very horny when we get home and we probably hate being touched most of the time. Still interested?!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    I never understand these questions especially when it is said that they don't want to date us just because we're dancers. Obviously, you do. When will men realize that we are just normal (beyond normal!) girls who just happen to be dancers for a living?? When I'm at home, you know what I do?! I put on my comfy sweatpants, throw on my glasses, read a book, browse the internet, cook dinner, clean the house, take care of my daughter and if my husband is lucky he'll get sex maybe once or twice a week. Yeah, that's right, we aren't sexual goddesses who fuck 24/7 We are regular gals whom you wouldn't be able to pick out in a line-up of average chicks OTC. In all honesty, the hottest we are is probably when we are IN the club. Otherwise we or most of us, don't wear makeup and we probably don't dress to the nines outside the club. We are also usually not very horny when we get home and we probably hate being touched most of the time. Still interested?!

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    this thread FAILS!
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    I never understand these questions especially when it is said that they don't want to date us just because we're dancers. Obviously, you do. When will men realize that we are just normal (beyond normal!) girls who just happen to be dancers for a living?? When I'm at home, you know what I do?! I put on my comfy sweatpants, throw on my glasses, read a book, browse the internet, cook dinner, clean the house, take care of my daughter and if my husband is lucky he'll get sex maybe once or twice a week. Yeah, that's right, we aren't sexual goddesses who fuck 24/7 We are regular gals whom you wouldn't be able to pick out in a line-up of average chicks OTC. In all honesty, the hottest we are is probably when we are IN the club. Otherwise we or most of us, don't wear makeup and we probably don't dress to the nines outside the club. We are also usually not very horny when we get home and we probably hate being touched most of the time. Still interested?!
    This 100%. Dancers are just like normal girls except for getting nude (or almost nude)in clubs or at parties.

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    Worst post I've read since I've been here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    What does a dancer want in a boyfriend?
    For starters, I'm guessing a guy that doesn't come on stripper support sites asking: "What does a dancer want in a boyfriend?"

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    Oh SWEET! It’s a “but, how can I fuck a Stripper thread!
    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    What does a dancer want in a boyfriend? Besides the obvious of course. Obviously any girl will be looking for a guy who she has chemistry with, who makes her laugh, who really listens to what she has to say, who is not obsessed with jealousy, who treats her like a queen and makes her feel adored. Me, as a guy, those are not things I have any problem with and I think it starts with meeting the right person and being very honest with each other from the get-go. And perhaps a guy should be pretty good looking if he wants to go out with a dancer.

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    I'm a romantic guy actually, and I come here with a specific question.
    Oh, Sensitivity! Yeah, try that line. Or $1000.00 an hour to chat. Whatever comes first.
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    Unlike probably most of the men who come to this page, I don't really go out to the clubs too often (less than ten times ever); but I have always had a fascination with the women in this profession, not because of their looks or the skin but something about it intrigues me.
    Yeah, They’re NAKED. Holy shit! You got to see the goodies before taking her to Red Lobster! Winning!
    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    When I see a dancer I don't think "boy I want to see this or that", I think, "man it would be great to have a drink with her and find out what her perspective is and what she thinks about the world." More than anything else I think about what it must take to impress such a girl who has probably heard everything.
    *snicker* Came during the lapdance didn’t you? Wear a condom during lapdances to avoid that embarrassing wet spot.
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    Specifically I am an attractive 35 year old male in what is called the cuckold lifestyle, and this means I want to have a monogamous relationship with a girl who is not monogamous to me.
    Trinidad, Colorado is famous for the services rendered.

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    I want to be that guy who takes care of a girl, gives her a relaxing place to come home to, does pretty much everything for her, helps her get ready, helps her prepare to go out on dates (I am hoping to find a Lady who has a really high sex drive and prefers alpha males for sex), while I stay at home fixing her dinner, cleaning the house, doing the housework, ready to make her feel peaceful and relaxed when she is all done -

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    I have lived this lifestyle through my past four relationships over ten years and its not wishful thinking, but finding a Lady who can really take advantage of it is difficult. There is a bit of S/m to this kind of relationship where the female is as dominant as she chooses. I am the guy who is giving, nurturing, funny, sunshine to your day, the cure for your hangover.
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    Sadly I think most of the women who would really enjoy this lifestyle are generally unaware of it while at the same time the women who are into it sometimes not suited for it.
    Oh, you have deeper insight? Ok Freud, show the line of deductive reasoning.
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    I have thought therefore a number of times, how would a guy go about meeting the caliber of Lady who could really use what such a guy has to give but are probably sometimes left with just who they meet in their job to choose from -
    Money. You want the Strippers attention? It’s $20 dollars a song, or the Champagne room. There are Escorts though, best to look for them outside the Club. Try Craigslist under casual encounters.
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    you have to go there to meet them but if you guy there you are just another customer, not that I mind being a customer but its always been the Woman, not the Body, that I am interested, and you don't get to meet the Person when you go to 'The Club'.
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    So the question is, how do you meet 'The Person' instead of just 'The Persona', and does this sound outlandish?
    I think your question is “ How do I fuck the Persona , and live with the Person?” Own an Oil company, maybe two.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    I never understand these questions especially when it is said that they don't want to date us just because we're dancers. Obviously, you do. When will men realize that we are just normal (beyond normal!) girls who just happen to be dancers for a living??

    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    When I'm at home, you know what I do?! I put on my comfy sweatpants, throw on my glasses, read a book, browse the internet, cook dinner, clean the house, take care of my daughter and if my husband is lucky he'll get sex maybe once or twice a week.
    La la la la la la I can’t hear you.
    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Yeah, that's right, we aren't sexual goddesses who fuck 24/7 We are regular gals whom you wouldn't be able to pick out in a line-up of average chicks OTC.

    No dreams it is totally different. Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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    In all honesty, the hottest we are is probably when we are IN the club. Otherwise we or most of us, don't wear makeup and we probably don't dress to the nines outside the club. We are also usually not very horny when we get home and we probably hate being touched most of the time. Still interested?!
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    To all the unsolicited male idiots: live and let die.

    Little did I imagine that popping in with an honest question for the women, some of whom didn't mind to answer, would ultimately serve as an opportunity for all the douchebag wankers on the same site to try and look like they are serious, respectful gentlemen. Look at your posts, males: you sound like a bunch of teenage drama queens. Be mature and try to recognize this conversation is not intended for you.

    Anyway, thanks to the women who have responded, all of you, it would have been nice to have some kind of constructive conversation but I guess if all we're going to end up with is a bunch of jackoffs trying to take an easy shot to make themselves look like something other than a bunch of jackoffs... then I guess, just, best wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    To all the unsolicited male idiots: live and let die.

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    Little did I imagine that popping in with an honest question for the women, some of whom didn't mind to answer, would ultimately serve as an opportunity for all the douchebag wankers on the same site to try and look like they are serious, respectful gentlemen.
    Gentlemen? Here? What?

    Quote Originally Posted by BlueBlueEyes View Post
    Look at your posts, males: you sound like a bunch of teenage drama queens. Be mature and try to recognize this conversation is not intended for you.

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    Anyway, thanks to the women who have responded, all of you, it would have been nice to have some kind of constructive conversation but I guess if all we're going to end up with is a bunch of jackoffs trying to take an easy shot to make themselves look like something other than a bunch of jackoffs... then I guess, just, best wishes.

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    hey, you should email me and I'll cuckold the shit out of you over the phone once you send me a big amazon gift card.
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    You are a douche bag that wants to date a girl just because she's a dancer.

    You like to pretend you are different. And you are faking being polite.

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    I think we have a new FAIL thread!
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