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    I've had this one regular for about three years and he's driving me crazy lately. He's very nice and (usually) respectful, but his personality is starting to grate on my nerves. He knows my limitations and what I don't like, but he continuously tries to push past them. For example, I've always been clear about my boundaries and that I will never meet him OTC, but lately he's started repeatedly suggesting that we should meet somewhere. Its not just nonchalantly either, its very...well very creepy. I get the worst kind of vibe from him these days.

    I've started to dread when I know he's coming in. Every week he's always trying something new. He'll ask me when I'm going to touch him, when I'm going to give him my picture, when I'm going to meet him for dinner, etc. Its irritating that he thinks hes going to persuade me by asking a thousand times. He obviously doesn't respect me. However, money has been so bad these days, I really can't afford to lose him right now. I'm forced to just grit my teeth, fake smile a lot, and pretend everything is great. I was so annoyed a few weeks ago I actually lied and said I was sick to leave work...after being there all of thirty minutes. If I had stayed any longer I would of had a meltdown. He's caused them before. Sometimes being with him is like listening to someone drag their nails on a chalkboard.

    I'm wondering if there are any quick solutions that could make his visits a little more bearable (besides alcohol, lol)? Does anyone else ever have annoying regulars?
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    Is the money he pays you really worth this headache? Money may be slow, yes, but the time and energy you're putting into suffering through the time you spend with this guy could easily be channeled to hustling other customers and finding new regulars. It may not seem that way right now since you're not going to be a good hustler when you dread going into work (customers can pick up on foul moods!), but trust me, there is other money to be made!

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    No money is worth that sweety. I say let him have it. Crush his world then laugh in his face. haha!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lokikola View Post
    No money is worth that sweety. I say let him have it. Crush his world then laugh in his face. haha!



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    This is why I think regulars are over rated..

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    This is why I can't tolerate regulars. You could put up with his shit until business picks up for you (ie, a new regular or more customers who are spending) then you can toss him to the curb. I had a customer like the one who had described who did all those things (ask me out n shit) and he also got more and more handsy during dances, so I ditched his ass as soon as business picked up in september for me. (quit alcohol so started to make more money) - I did it mercilessly too. Told him exactly how I felt about him - and man did that feel good!

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    Sounds like you might soon be comming to the end of your realationship with him. Some regulars know the game but this guy clearly had hopes of a future with you. If your really that upset by his visits to the point you cant make any money you should drop him and make new regulars. At some point in time we all lose our regulars because they get tired of being strung along so you should have others lined up.
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    No amount of money is worth this shit. If he's sending you into basically panic attacks and making you leave work early, he's actually hurting your money. The sooner you get rid of him the better. It's like hanging on to an abusive bf. The longer you spend with him, the lower your attitude goes and the harder it is to find the time/energy to find someone good to replace him. You'll never develop other regulars or find where the good money is if you continue wasting time with this guy while having your mood soured in the meantime, which is will hurt your money with other customers if you do get around to talking to them. Get rid of this dude. You probably did fine before he came along - you'll learn to do fine once you get rid of him, and your mental health will thank you greatly.

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    I don't care how much money a guys spends. If he is not worth the hassle I move on to someone that is lower maintenance or at least tolerable.

    If you want to lose him as a customer raise your fees. He'll either pay them, and make it worth your while or he'll pout and not bother with you any more.

    Take this as a caution, but you either suck it up and take his money or free yourself up for other customers that are less annoying.

    All my regulars I have absolute stripper love for. None of them are annoying. I can't sit there and be fake for any amount of money. Some customers I just don't mesh with.

    If you leave work early because of a guy it's not his fault that is all you.

    You have to be assertive, and take charge of the situation.




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    I appreciate all the feedback and I completely agree. The problem is I don't think I'm ready to make such a big change. I don't like change and I hate confrontation. Not to mention the setback in my salary. He can be the difference between leaving with $50 and leaving with $400-500 these days. I've never been a hustler and never will be...so I'm not so sure that I could bounce back that easily if he left. Even though he annoys the hell out of me sometimes I still find myself worrying that he's going to grow bored of me and stop coming in. I think it would be relieving and horrifying at the same time.

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    this is why its called "work". everyone saying to just lose him is the wrong answer. even if you get rid of him your next regular that fills his spot will be just as annoying after awhile... thats why men like this go to strip clubs because they have to pay someone to be around them.

    on the other hand... you have to learn to live with him being annoying but you dont have to live with him pushing your boundaries. next time he tries look him in the eye and let him know its making you uncomfortable and its against the rules. if he does it again tell him you could lose your job and its not worth it then boot him.

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    Dude I don't wanna be a bitch but maybe you shouldn't be a stripper.... if you're not a hustler and not even trying to be a hustler this is not the right job for you.

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